When did Scotty deactivate? :(

[isabel]

Again!? Damnit!

[iamgrace]

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[pantsparty]

WHAT?

[wambam]

[themoneytree]

Well there was a fair amount of needling going on.
I'm not really surprised she decided to go, but I'm sad about it.

[nursewife]

damn

[keyslover]

Mar 1, 2015 16:42:03 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

Well there was a fair amount of needling going on.
I'm not really surprised she decided to go, but I'm sad about it.

About what?  I haven't been around that much so I am not up to speed on what has been going on.

I saw she deactivated when I went to the Well-Being Board, I was afraid to ask since I figured it was a well known thing, guess not.

[underwaterrhymes]

Mar 1, 2015 16:42:03 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

Well there was a fair amount of needling going on.
I'm not really surprised she decided to go, but I'm sad about it.

Scotty is well-loved here.

People weren't needling her. We were having a discussion in which she held the minority opinion.

[themoneytree]

Mar 1, 2015 16:55:42 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

Mar 1, 2015 16:42:03 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

Well there was a fair amount of needling going on.
I'm not really surprised she decided to go, but I'm sad about it.

Scotty is well-loved here.

People weren't needling her. We were having a discussion in which she led the minority opinion.

Well ok. But I read some needling and mockery in some of the responses and maybe she did too. It would appear so given that she's gone.

ETA: unless there is another reason you know of that she deactivated again?

[usuallylurking]

If there was needling it was both ways. It was a discussion that she and others were firmly set in the way they interpreted Rancic's comment, and neither side was budging, regardless of what was said. I'm not surprised; the whole time I was reading it I was waiting for it to be the last straw for her. She chose to dig in, not that people aren't entitled to their opinions, and caught a lot of opinions coming back her way.

[underwaterrhymes]

Mar 1, 2015 16:57:13 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

Mar 1, 2015 16:55:42 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

Scotty is well-loved here.

People weren't needling her. We were having a discussion in which she led the minority opinion.

Well ok. But I read some needling and mockery in some of the responses and maybe she did too. It would appear so given that she's gone.

ETA: unless there is another reason you know of that she deactivated again?

I didn't see anyone insulting scotty. I think most of us were offering well-reasoned arguments for why we felt the way we did.

I'm sorry she deactivated. But she's left many times before and has always come back after a break. I hope that's the case this time, too.

If her feelings were hurt (which I hope is not the case) that's a shame. But I've seen far worse flamings / disagreements here towards people who get far less support than she does. Most of us love scotty and it's okay to not always see eye-to-eye on stuff.

[themoneytree]

Mar 1, 2015 17:00:55 GMT -5 usuallylurking said:

If there was needling it was both ways. It was a discussion that she and others were firmly set in the way they interpreted Rancic's comment, and neither side was budging, regardless of what was said. I'm not surprised; the whole time I was reading it I was waiting for it to be the last straw for her. She chose to dig in, not that people aren't entitled to their opinions, and caught a lot of opinions coming back her way.

You may be right. I was waiting for the last straw too.

It may just be that I really like Scotty that I was really noticing some of the barbed comments coming her way. You may be right that there was more of a back and forth than I noticed.

[pantsparty]

I hadn't even read that thread until now. Oooooooookay, scotty.

[themoneytree]

Mar 1, 2015 17:04:12 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

Mar 1, 2015 16:57:13 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

Well ok. But I read some needling and mockery in some of the responses and maybe she did too. It would appear so given that she's gone.

ETA: unless there is another reason you know of that she deactivated again?

I didn't see anyone insulting scotty. I think most of us were offering well-reasoned arguments for why we felt the way we did.

I'm sorry she deactivated. But she's left many times before and has always come back after a break. I hope that's the case this time, too.

If her feelings were hurt (which I hope is not the case) that's a shame. But I've seen far worse flamings / disagreements here towards people who get far less support than she does. Most of us love scotty and it's okay to not always see eye-to-eye on stuff.

I agree I've seen FAR worse flamings. But whenever there is a group against a dissenting opinion and it moves from discussion of the actual argument to more personal comments it can feel like a pile on.
And I think she was already feeling sensitive given her recent break.
Maybe it was just a tipping point

[Saint Monica]

Scotty was/is loved here hardcore and gets lots of support (even when she holds a minority opinion or acts like a fool). I say she can blow a motherboard for deactivating.
Then she will come back in a while and then deactivate again.
Lame.





YOU HEAR THAT SCOTTY- I'M CALLING YOU LAME. LOOK IN YOUR TRUTH MIRROR!

[underwaterrhymes]

themoneytree- what personal comments are you talking about? I didn't see anyone say anything negative to or about scotty.

[usuallylurking]

Mar 1, 2015 17:08:16 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

themoneytree- what personal comments are you talking about? I didn't see anyone say anything negative to or about scotty.

I'm just going to keep liking everything you're saying in here, because I tried but you're doing a better job, lol.

[themoneytree]

Mar 1, 2015 17:08:16 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

@themoneytree - what personal comments are you talking about? I didn't see anyone say anything negative to or about scotty.

Nothing really bad that I recall. Just some joshing about making sure people said things in a respectful way and someone said they'd been 'scotty'ed'. I forget exactly. But some of it was said several times by more than one person which was what I read as mockery. Mild mockery, but still she was obviously still feeling sensitive and maybe it was just too much.

She must have said something to inspire the 'respectful' remarks, but no idea what.

[themoneytree]

Mar 1, 2015 17:08:16 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

themoneytree- what personal comments are you talking about? I didn't see anyone say anything negative to or about scotty.

Why do you think she left then? Just because people respectfully disagreed with her?

[themoneytree]

Mar 1, 2015 17:16:06 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Mar 1, 2015 17:13:18 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

Why do you think she left then? Just because people respectfully disagreed with her?

Maybe? I mean, she was asked to reconsider her perspective and her answer to that was to just leave completely? 

I really don't think so. But what do I know? You might be right.
I don't think anyone said anything awful, but I was definitely thinking 'ouch' at some of the comments and maybe she was too.

[Saint Monica]

Mar 1, 2015 17:17:49 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

Maybe Scotty IS Giuliana Rancic!

[underwaterrhymes]

Mar 1, 2015 17:13:18 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

Mar 1, 2015 17:08:16 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

themoneytree- what personal comments are you talking about? I didn't see anyone say anything negative to or about scotty.

Why do you think she left then? Just because people respectfully disagreed with her?

scotty has admitted she periodically needs breaks from here. And she takes them. Anyone who has been around for awhile knows this about her. People are sad when she leaves and happy when she comes back. It's how it is.

[Jalapeñomel]

I had to go back and actually read that thread. I saw Giuliana Rancid and I naturally skipped over it.

[themoneytree]

Mar 1, 2015 17:19:46 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

Mar 1, 2015 17:13:18 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

Why do you think she left then? Just because people respectfully disagreed with her?

scotty has admitted she periodically needs breaks from here. And she takes them. Anyone who has been around for awhile knows this about her. People are sad when she leaves and happy when she comes back. It's how it is.

Ok. I will be happy if she comes back. I enjoy her posts and think she seems like a really good person.

[underwaterrhymes]

Mar 1, 2015 17:21:38 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

Mar 1, 2015 17:19:46 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

scotty has admitted she periodically needs breaks from here. And she takes them. Anyone who has been around for awhile knows this about her. People are sad when she leaves and happy when she comes back. It's how it is.

Ok. I will be happy if she comes back. I enjoy her posts and think she seems like a really good person.

Here is the thing, though. You can be a really awesome person (which she is) and still be wrong (which she was).

I'm really super cool and I've also been wrong and people have called me on it when I was.

[killercupcake]

Mar 1, 2015 17:22:02 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Mar 1, 2015 17:17:28 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

I really don't think so. But what do I know? You might be right.
I don't think anyone said anything awful, but I was definitely thinking 'ouch' at some of the comments and maybe she was too.

Well, it's also possible she enjoys the OMG NOOOOOOO DON'T LEAVE!!!! and YAY SCOTTY IS BACK!!!!!!!!!!!! stuff too.

Exhausting. 

Yes. Leave or stay, whatever. But if you're going to continue this cycle of deactivating and reactivating, it gets old and kind of transparent. 

It's possible to take a break without the theatrics of deactivating your account every time. 

[speckledfrog]

Mar 1, 2015 17:17:28 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

Mar 1, 2015 17:16:06 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Maybe? I mean, she was asked to reconsider her perspective and her answer to that was to just leave completely? 

I really don't think so. But what do I know? You might be right.
I don't think anyone said anything awful, but I was definitely thinking 'ouch' at some of the comments and maybe she was too.

I think that discussion was as tame as it could be, given the subject matter and the stubborn inability to consider the comments as even unintentionally racist.

[sparkythelawyer]

Son of a bitch.

[themoneytree]

Mar 1, 2015 17:47:32 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

I'm just waiting for MoneyTree to pull out her standby "adult women being bullies" callout LOL

Nobody personally attacked Scotty and she was throwing out her own barbs too....she has "left" a bunch of times for random reasons, same shit different day.

I sometimes think adult women sound like bullies. Shrug.
I'm interested that you are saying it's my standby. I've said it what, once? Twice?

[Deleted]

Mar 1, 2015 17:04:12 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

Mar 1, 2015 16:57:13 GMT -5 themoneytree said:

Well ok. But I read some needling and mockery in some of the responses and maybe she did too. It would appear so given that she's gone.

ETA: unless there is another reason you know of that she deactivated again?

I didn't see anyone insulting scotty. I think most of us were offering well-reasoned arguments for why we felt the way we did.

I'm sorry she deactivated. But she's left many times before and has always come back after a break. I hope that's the case this time, too.

If her feelings were hurt (which I hope is not the case) that's a shame. But I've seen far worse flamings / disagreements here towards people who get far less support than she does. Most of us love scotty and it's okay to not always see eye-to-eye on stuff.

Yeah I thought it was a reasonable discussion for ML lol. I don't remember any direct insults. It definitely did get a little heated in that both sides were passionate about their views but it didn't seem like any personal attacks.

But I completely understand her wanting to take a break. Even though many of us are strangers it's easy to get invested in things and take things personally and it's nice to take a break from time to time.