Monday, why must you keep coming 'round (aka: Randoms)

[idahome]

Due to all the snow yesterday and 9 school districts delaying for the day we get to wear jeans to work today.  It's an odd rule, but I'll take it since my school never delays and rarely closes.  So yay jeans!

Today will be devoted to wellness committee stuff and final drafts of job descriptions at work.  Good thing about that is both of those tasks should keep me pretty darn busy and make the day go by faster.

Tonight is my Zumba class and the new season of The Following starts.  Yay on both counts!

[cuddlyevil]

There's a hawk in my parents neighborhood, my dad has kept track of how many birds it's caught from their feeder. It's up to 8. Circle of life.

Am a solo act again. Pray for me, it will be crazy.

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Hello!
Y'all, I am so miserable. This is like the eleventh time this winter that I've been sick. My muscles are so fucking sore and I can't breathe and I do not have time for this shit. Plus we got to clean up snow again yesterday which was not a jolly time. And freezing rain tomorrow.

That's enough, winter!

Tomorrow is also my son's birthday. I was planning to take him somewhere special after school/work but it will probably depend now on the weather. I can't believe the little guy is going to be 6!!

Hope everyone has a great Monday!

[stephreloaded]

I am tired from the weekend and I didn't do much to be honest.

I am set to travel for the UK for work tonight and I still don't have my visa. We work with people from the Embassy so there is hope that they give it to me today but this is killing me.

[sweetchix]

I called in because I have a pretty horrible headache. I took some meds and should be trying to sleep it off now. I'm hoping to make it in to the office by 1 though, for a half day. This headache started yesterday and it was so bad at one point that I couldn't even eat my dinner. Even during yoga, I thought my head was going to explode and was very thankful for the relaxation part at the end. I only wish it was longer so I could have taken a little nap:

[mcc]

I have to figure out today if I'm going to talk to my boss about someone who is doing some writing for us. He's horrible and it takes me longer to give him an outline for ideas and edit his posts for us than it does to just write them myself. We've arranged him writing in exchange for us making a website for him but he doesn't do what I ask and goes off topic. I have been struggling with him for months and it's not getting better. My coworker said he will back me up - now I just need the nerve to tell my boss that this arrangement isn't working.

Hugs lyssbobiss, Command, B613 I hope you feel better soon!

[peppermint]

good morning ladies! hope everyone had a great weekend, and sending monday hugs to all who need them.

i had a good weekend but it went by super fast. friday we went to the trendy part of our town for mexican (i had TO.DIE.FOR. fish tacos), followed by belgian waffles then a coffee and wine bar. i got to meet more of SB's friends, who were great. saturday we went to my friend's house and watched hockey, ate good food, and had a lot of laughs. yesterday we went shopping, had pad thai, then took naps in front of the tv all day while discussing finances/future plans we both have. it was nice.

and now, perhaps a flameful: i've *almost* dropped the L bomb on SB multiple times in the past week. we've known each other 5 weeks today.

OH! AND! we went into whole foods twice this weekend and ran into WFG both times! the first time he made no eye contact whatsoever and basically avoided me. the second time he was kind of short...but then we made sustained eye contact while i was in the checkout line. weird.

[abcdefu]

Good Morning Ladies!

Summary: I hate people who don't know how, or are just too lazy, to do their job correctly!


PDQ will delete later. just needed to vent!


Feel better lyssbobiss, Command, B613!

Good luck mcc

[peppermint]

ugh abcdefu i'm so glad your surgeon insisted on seeing you. hope you continue to heal up quickly, lady!!!

[abcdefu]

Mar 2, 2015 8:40:05 GMT -5 peppermint said:

ugh abcdefu i'm so glad your surgeon insisted on seeing you. hope you continue to heal up quickly, lady!!!

Thank you! It has been super frustrating to say the least. Due to her not cleaning it for 5 weeks, it has pushed me back returning to work. When this is all over, I'm taking a vacation! lol

[cuddlyevil]

I'm glad your surgeon saw you abcdefu! Are you getting a different nurse?

peppermint, WFG is just dumb. I'm glad you're having such a great time with SB

My work email is acting like a fool, I shouldn't have to restart my computer every morning so my email works. *shakes fist at outlook*

[Emerald1486]

@abdefu , it takes forever to feel your back again. I'll be 15 years post surgery this year and I still have spots I can't feel on my back. And that nurse apparently needs to a review course!

One of the people who I consider one of best friends (I have 3) said some things at a party this weekend that really hurt and upset me. I'm not sure if part of it was that we were drinking, or if my paranoia just twisted it. But things have been off with us since late last year and I don't know why. I am debating saying something or just trying to let it go

[pantsoffdanceoff]

I feel like this week is going to be a good week. I did so much prep work and brought all my gym clothes to work so I won't have to pack them every night and I am excited about my lunches that I packed for the week as well as my dinners.

[abcdefu]

Mar 2, 2015 8:49:03 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

I'm glad your surgeon saw you abcdefu! Are you getting a different nurse?

peppermint, WFG is just dumb. I'm glad you're having such a great time with SB

My work email is acting like a fool, I shouldn't have to restart my computer every morning so my email works. *shakes fist at outlook*

One of my friends, who is a nurse, comes when she can so I can cancel the nurse. I have a call in to my doctor to discuss what the nurse said to me and if he wants me to change companies or just change nurses. I missed his call Friday night (I know! My doctor is awesome), but he left a message that he will get back to me today.

[abcdefu]

Mar 2, 2015 8:52:26 GMT -5 Emerald1486 said:

@abdefu , it takes forever to feel your back again. I'll be 15 years post surgery this year and I still have spots I can't feel on my back. And that nurse apparently needs to a review course!

One of the people who I consider one of best friends (I have 3) said some things at a party this weekend that really hurt and upset me. I'm not sure if part of it was that we were drinking, or if my paranoia just twisted it. But things have been off with us since late last year and I don't know why. I am debating saying something or just trying to let it go

poof

[Deleted]

This week at work should be back to normal and dare I say slow! I NEED this so bad. My boss is on vacation this week so I'm able to relax a little and not be so concerned about coming in early or staying super late. I have a date with the guy in Tuesday. Should be fun! Planning to get my workouts back on track this week. Yay.

[Eureka1984]

Last night I stayed up late to watch the Downton finale and now I'm paying for it as I'm soo tired. Anyways it's going to be a good week!

abc I'm glad they saw you, here's to getting better!

[baa1981]

Not exactly wanting to be at work today, but the good news is no class tonight! Not sure why we are getting a random Monday off the week before Spring Break, but none of us are complaining. If I were a good student, I would spend the evening working on my business plan, but instead I'm looking forward to just turning my brain off!

[WinterIsComing]

Monday came way to soon! I had a great weekend - busy but fun!

I am making it my goal this spring to make more friends so I joined a bunch of meetup groups and have been trying to say yes to any invite. I met a group of girls for dinner and drinks on Friday. They were all super nice and we had a great time. Then Saturday I meet a group of people for dinner at a Peruvian restaurant. I was the youngest person by about 20 years, lol, but I think this will be a fun group (International Dining) since I love to eat!

I joined POF and had a date with a guy from there on Saturday. He is so nice and smart and we got along really well. We are planning for a second date - the only problem is that I don't know that I am super attracted to him. I will obviously go out with him at least one more, but silly question, how long to you give it to determine if you have chemistry with someone.

[Deleted]

Mar 2, 2015 14:31:53 GMT -5 TR said:

Mar 2, 2015 13:16:45 GMT -5 WinterIsComing said:

I joined POF and had a date with a guy from there on Saturday. He is so nice and smart and we got along really well. We are planning for a second date - the only problem is that I don't know that I am super attracted to him. I will obviously go out with him at least one more, but silly question, how long to you give it to determine if you have chemistry with someone.

I didn't have heart pounding chemistry with A for the first date, but I wasn't turned OFF by him (some people you just know you wouldn't be able to kiss them with a gun to your head, you know?). By the second date I was like, "Hmm..." and then by the third date I think I was feeling pretty attracted to him. And it's grown a LOT since then.

On the other hand, I gave another guy 3 dates before I realized that while we got along well and all, I just couldn't picture myself going any further than a hug with him so I stopped seeing him.

I'm here with the new guy. I really liked him but wasn't sure about the chemistry. After our date this weekend (third) I've confirmed it is there. But it took me a bit to go from you're super nice to I want to make out with you. 

[bl]

Mar 2, 2015 13:16:45 GMT -5 WinterIsComing said:

I joined POF and had a date with a guy from there on Saturday. He is so nice and smart and we got along really well. We are planning for a second date - the only problem is that I don't know that I am super attracted to him. I will obviously go out with him at least one more, but silly question, how long to you give it to determine if you have chemistry with someone.

I think its hard to put a specific time frame on it but typically somewhere around the 3rd or so.  Like TR said I know some right away on the first date that there is NO way, but there was actually one guy I dated for almost 4 months that didn't make a single move until date 4, but I knew I was interested if that makes sense.

I am having a pretty good day, weekend was good for relaxing and trying to get rest after a long week.  They are talking about bad weather in Dallas again on Wed and Thur, I am off on PTO on Thur, so even if shit hits the fan I am not coming in.

[Deleted]

Mar 2, 2015 14:39:43 GMT -5 TR said:

Mar 2, 2015 14:38:15 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I'm here with the new guy. I really liked him but wasn't sure about the chemistry. After our date this weekend (third) I've confirmed it is there. But it took me a bit to go from you're super nice to I want to make out with you. 

And I've kind of liked it this way because I have felt much more clear headed in my decisions, haha.

Yea I agree. Its sneaking up on my too in weird ways. Like my friend is totally gag over some guy and is like soooo excited to get a text or see or hang out with them. I haven't had those feelings. But in the last day or so I'm like strangly drawn to text my new guy or make plans to see him where as before I was like I don't think I care that much. But now I'm like huh I'd really see to him. 

[Wanderista]

Hi there, things are going well for me. I had a bit of a rough day on Saturday morning because of a difficult errand that I had to run. Generally though, things are great and I'm largely happy.

[Wanderista]

Mar 2, 2015 13:16:45 GMT -5 WinterIsComing said:

Monday came way to soon! I had a great weekend - busy but fun!

I am making it my goal this spring to make more friends so I joined a bunch of meetup groups and have been trying to say yes to any invite. I met a group of girls for dinner and drinks on Friday. They were all super nice and we had a great time. Then Saturday I meet a group of people for dinner at a Peruvian restaurant. I was the youngest person by about 20 years, lol, but I think this will be a fun group (International Dining) since I love to eat!

I joined POF and had a date with a guy from there on Saturday. He is so nice and smart and we got along really well. We are planning for a second date - the only problem is that I don't know that I am super attracted to him. I will obviously go out with him at least one more, but silly question, how long to you give it to determine if you have chemistry with someone.

I agree with the people who said that it can take like 3 dates or so sometimes. That is true with the guy I am dating now. Even then, it has developed very slowly and calmly. Sometimes I find it a little hard to believe that we've been dating as long as we have (like, 10 months) because it feels so relaxed and easy most of the time. Sure, we have stressful times every now and then, but we don't have any recurring arguments.

I also agree that it is not necessary to keep going out with guys when you know there is no spark or you don't like them. It can just take a bit of time to figure some guys out but if the thought of him touching you weirds you out then there's no need to keep going there.

[jigsy]

Um...it's monday. Which is pretty much like every other day for me now. I have a phone interview tomorrow though, so that is good.

I feel like I had a minor breakthrough with my feelings/emotions due to some journaling and really thinking about everything. So that is cool.

So, yeah. Monday.

ETA: One other thing. I tripped out a little this morning because I was looking at taking a trip next month, and then I realized that in just a month, I will be 1 year out from separating from XH. It feels crazy...Ive been making decisions just for me for almost a whole year. It is weird and awesome.

[bl]

Mar 2, 2015 15:04:26 GMT -5 jigsy said:

ETA: One other thing. I tripped out a little this morning because I was looking at taking a trip next month, and then I realized that in just a month, I will be 1 year out from separating from XH. It feels crazy...Ive been making decisions just for me for almost a whole year. It is weird and awesome.

I am here with you, March 10th will be one year since XH moved out even though we separated and were doing our own thing before then.  It's crazy to think I have been doing my own thing and not "coming home" to anyone or making dinner for them or whatever for a year.

[jigsy]

Mar 2, 2015 15:11:16 GMT -5 mp said:

Mar 2, 2015 15:04:26 GMT -5 jigsy said:

Um...it's monday. Which is pretty much like every other day for me now. I have a phone interview tomorrow though, so that is good.

I feel like I had a minor breakthrough with my feelings/emotions due to some journaling and really thinking about everything. So that is cool.

So, yeah. Monday.

ETA: One other thing. I tripped out a little this morning because I was looking at taking a trip next month, and then I realized that in just a month, I will be 1 year out from separating from XH. It feels crazy...Ive been making decisions just for me for almost a whole year. It is weird and awesome.

Ooh I wanna know your breakthrough! lol.

You know, it is really simple actually. I feel like so much of the turmoil I have been feeling regarding Vegas is because of stuff that doesn't totally matter.

I know that not everyone will agree, but I actually like where we are right now, and while I would like to be in a relationship with him, I am not so sure that I want a relationship period....which probably doesn't make sense. But yeah. I like what we have, and right now, I am really happy most of the time. There are times where I feel a little crazy but most of those crazy feeling are coming from me, like it drives me crazy that I want to be around someone who has told me that they are not on the same level as me. It makes me wonder if I will always think it is okay to get less than what I want.

But then I think that is really unfair, because everyone is working on different things in their life, and we can't always be on the same wavelength.



But, while our wavelengths may be different, I am so happy when we hang out and talk and whatnot. So, I am deciding not to worry about it. I am going to focus on being happy, and when this relationship, however it is defined, is no longer making me happy, or when it is bad more than it is good, than I can re-evaluate.



Maybe stupid. I don't know. Maybe this all makes zero sense to anyone else but me. eh.

[Wanderista]

I also agree that the 50 Shades actors were seriously lacking chemistry. It wasn't believable that they were so into each other. I haven't read the books but I also do think that they made it clear that the relationship is unhealthy. As I was watching it, I was mostly thinking, "Wow, this is a trainwreck." I pretty much just saw the movie to stare at the lead actor (not the character) though.

I did walk away from the movie thinking that there needs to be more Hollywood erotica geared primarily to a female audience (or both sexes). Sure, there have certainly been cult classics, but I think that it is a genre that needs to be more fully developed.

I feel like 50 Shades was a (poorly written) story about this particular character and his psychology as well as the unhealthy relationship dynamics that he specifically pursued. I definitely didn't think it was representative of BDSM. I don't think that the movie should be considered to be some kind of representative of female sexuality at all. I guess that I think that is the problem. Society wants to say, "50 Shades: s&m check!, marketed primarily to women check!, bestseller check! ... Alright, done, we've got women figured out, back to making films about bouncing 20 yr olds in bikinis for guys." I'm simplifying but you get the idea. There are a lot of reasons why that is a problem. One of them is that society as a whole tends to be uncomfortable with exploring female sexuality.

[jigsy]

Mar 2, 2015 15:34:08 GMT -5 mp said:

jigsy I don't think it's stupid. If you're happy and content with where you're at, that's what matters. You might be driving yourself crazy thinking "I SHOULD want a relationship right now!" and it's ok if you don't want anything more than what you have. And it's ok if you decide a month from now you want more and need to reevaluate.

You get me man.

[WinterIsComing]

Mar 2, 2015 15:15:43 GMT -5 bl said:

Mar 2, 2015 15:04:26 GMT -5 jigsy said:

ETA: One other thing. I tripped out a little this morning because I was looking at taking a trip next month, and then I realized that in just a month, I will be 1 year out from separating from XH. It feels crazy...Ive been making decisions just for me for almost a whole year. It is weird and awesome.

I am here with you, March 10th will be one year since XH moved out even though we separated and were doing our own thing before then.  It's crazy to think I have been doing my own thing and not "coming home" to anyone or making dinner for them or whatever for a year.

I'm with both of you here. I realized today that it has been ten months since I found out that XH was cheating. It's crazy how different my life is now than it was at this time last year. Crazy in a good way but it's almost surreal to wrap my head around.

Glad you are both in such a good place!