I took tomorrow off to register E for kindergarten since I have tons of PTO time to use anyways.
I keep rechecking that we have everything required (I REFUSE to be that asshole holding everything up because they didn't read the instructions thoroughly, forgets something, and then argues about it).
Guys it's a Manila folder STUFFED with paperwork, certificates, bills (proof of residency), the first crap she ever took, etc. I swear applying for college required less paperwork.
I'm excited for my Shred415 class today. They are so fun but kick my ass.
I took the kids skating on a "rink" that was made in the park a block from our house (they just filled a sunken in portion with water and smoothed it out), and it was so fun. I grew up "pond skating", so it was fun to take them to do something similar.
I'm worried about my H. He is stressed at work, and has been short with me and the kids lately, and doesn't seem to want to do fun stuff with us. Yesterday I took the kids to the playground and ice skating, and he said he didn't feel like doing either. I was irritated because I feel like I am the only one that ever takes them to do fun stuff that isn't scheduled (he comes with to classes and such), and he is missing out on a lot. Then he got mad at me bc I gave him a "guilt trip". He gets upset when they want me over him, but gee, I wonder why? I take them to do the fun stuff, and actually get down on the floor to play with them...he sends emails.
My Mom made some disparaging comments about dh's parenting yesterday, and I snappily told her that ds doesn't have any behaviors that would indicate he's abused. Like, you know, as a quick "shut the fuck up with your ridiculous and unwanted commentary". She responded with "I'll have to look them up".
OMG. Fuck youuuuuuuuu, lady.
I sent her this: "I feel the need to reiterate that if I want your opinion on my or Dh's parenting, I will ask. I understand that isn't how the dynamic between you and (my late grandmother) played out, but I am not interested in recreating that dynamic for you and I. I may or may not agree with something Dh is doing at any moment, but if I feel it is truly egregious I will step in. We also may discuss something later when we don't have an audience and aren't in front of the children. If I don't interfere then no one should interfere. I know how dh parents every day, and only I can accurately assess it's appropriateness. We will not do everything just as you did, but you know that we love and care for these children well. "
She never responded. I didn't expect her to, but now I don't know how to proceed.
I'm sorry you feel this way vicky, I have no advice but it is time to go take care of you.
I read your post this weekend jreeds and I'm so sorry you are going thru all this. It's time to go get a good therapist. They will be in your corner and help you thru this time.
Little Tarzan is sick and his asthma is super aggravated. I hope his inhalers kick in soon so he can breathe easier. Otherwise it's off to the doctor for a breathing treatment. Thankfully he slept thru the night.
I didn't know that the temperature of your vagina specifically was what was tracked when people talk about temping and charting. :the more you know gif:
I just temped orally.... MWOS is taking the kinkier route
I'm sorry, Vicky. I do get night anxiety that only happens at night, too and I think that it's somewhat normal but yours sounds like it's more serious. I definitely think you should talk to your doctor about it. ((hugs))
My Mom made some disparaging comments about dh's parenting yesterday, and I snappily told her that ds doesn't have any behaviors that would indicate he's abused. Like, you know, as a quick "shut the fuck up with your ridiculous and unwanted commentary". She responded with "I'll have to look them up".
OMG. Fuck youuuuuuuuu, lady.
I sent her this: "I feel the need to reiterate that if I want your opinion on my or Dh's parenting, I will ask. I understand that isn't how the dynamic between you and (my late grandmother) played out, but I am not interested in recreating that dynamic for you and I. I may or may not agree with something Dh is doing at any moment, but if I feel it is truly egregious I will step in. We also may discuss something later when we don't have an audience and aren't in front of the children. If I don't interfere then no one should interfere. I know how dh parents every day, and only I can accurately assess it's appropriateness. We will not do everything just as you did, but you know that we love and care for these children well. "
She never responded. I didn't expect her to, but now I don't know how to proceed.
Back to reality and it's all good. I'm actually happy to be home and working again. It was 8 years between my last big vacation and this one and I made a promise to myself, it won't be another 8 years before I go again. I'm already making plans in my head for my family.
oh and I dreaded looking at my bank accounts, but it doesn't look too bad. phew.
Today will be pretty un exciting. Gym, grocery shopping, laundry, maybe a couple of errands. I also need to completely rewrite my resume. I think revising it was a bad move and isn't going to get me what I'm looking for.
I start weekly doctor appointments next week and I kind of can't believe I'm already at this point. DH is leaving for a week to go to London next week and I'm starting to stress about that a little bit. I'm hoping they tell me everything is tightly closed at my appointment so I can relax while he's gone.
My Mom made some disparaging comments about dh's parenting yesterday, and I snappily told her that ds doesn't have any behaviors that would indicate he's abused. Like, you know, as a quick "shut the fuck up with your ridiculous and unwanted commentary". She responded with "I'll have to look them up".
OMG. Fuck youuuuuuuuu, lady.
I sent her this: "I feel the need to reiterate that if I want your opinion on my or Dh's parenting, I will ask. I understand that isn't how the dynamic between you and (my late grandmother) played out, but I am not interested in recreating that dynamic for you and I. I may or may not agree with something Dh is doing at any moment, but if I feel it is truly egregious I will step in. We also may discuss something later when we don't have an audience and aren't in front of the children. If I don't interfere then no one should interfere. I know how dh parents every day, and only I can accurately assess it's appropriateness. We will not do everything just as you did, but you know that we love and care for these children well. "
She never responded. I didn't expect her to, but now I don't know how to proceed.
I think your message was completely appropriate.
It's also wise to head things off at the pass.
Is she normally a busybody?
She's just very reactionary, emotional, and manipulative in general.
I have been battling a runny nose and a slight cough for a week. I don't feel really sick or anything, but I kind of want to take a day off just to sleep and relax. But it never seems to be a good time at work to take a random day off.
A battle of wills over ds eating some food at lunch. Dh pulled him out of his chair to go talk to him in private. Apparently pulling your kid out of a chair is abuse.
I think the battle of wills was unecessary, but the methods used were not extreme in any form.
I am loving the current episode of Girls, the writing for the scene between Hannah and Mimi Rose in the laundromat is so great.
"And I'm going to be normal. Do you think I want to be normal?"
This show has depth. It's like a small child taking a toy in their hand and trying to shift it around and play with it in a new and unintended way and I love that. It asks the viewer to stay in the moment, to stay in things that they might dismiss because it doesn't fit some constrained notion of how things are supposed to be. It's like "supposed to be" is the biggest hindrance to growth that there is. That if we can get away from our prescribed notions of life that maybe, just maybe, we can really evolve.
The computer program I need to do 99% of my work is not working today. Guess I'll just have to gbcn until it comes back up. Also, I have to deliver lunch to one of our parks for the ranger training class we are having this week. It will get me out of the office for like 3 hours! I wish I would've remembered I was doing it though, I would've worn jeans since I'll be "out in the field" for part of the day.
DH broke down twice last night. Everyone is on pins and needles about his mom. We should get the biopsy results back today and surgery is scheduled for tomorrow. I feel like such a jerk because I can't take the day off to be there with the family.
I'm beat.
A big, hard, squeezy hug, puddle.
You're not a jerk, it's out of your control. I'll be thinking of you guys.