Since I figured out that my STBX was going to push me out the door and wipe his hands clean. What a jerk but I'm so much happier now. No longer suicidal and dealing with self doubt.
I took the day to drive to the city. To have fun and explore. So this is a post and run.
Congrats on your year celebration of being able to say you've made it through. I am taking comfort in your post and words as I'm just at the beginning of my journey and wondering how I'll be in a year and what it'll be like for me. God only knows. I'm really struggling right now, so if you've any words of comfort, shout them out! MauMau
Since I figured out that my STBX was going to push me out the door and wipe his hands clean. What a jerk but I'm so much happier now. No longer suicidal and dealing with self doubt.
I took the day to drive to the city. To have fun and explore. So this is a post and run.
Congrats on your year celebration of being able to say you've made it through. I am taking comfort in your post and words as I'm just at the beginning of my journey and wondering how I'll be in a year and what it'll be like for me. God only knows. I'm really struggling right now, so if you've any words of comfort, shout them out! MauMau
You will get there. It will take time and you will process differently I'm sure since you have a child. But I struggled the first week badly and then the rest of the month. A month after I started weekly therapy that I've continued to go to. That has helped immensely.
Then I focused on what made me happy. And if I had a child, I would focus on what made us happy together. I spent the last year doing activities that I wanted to do. Nothing fancy or super expensive. Usually day trips to the city. I did most of them on my own to have my own experience.
I'm still getting there because my next step I have to deal with some the lingering issues from the abuse. But one year has already made a difference.
Congrats on your year celebration of being able to say you've made it through. I am taking comfort in your post and words as I'm just at the beginning of my journey and wondering how I'll be in a year and what it'll be like for me. God only knows. I'm really struggling right now, so if you've any words of comfort, shout them out! MauMau
You will get there. It will take time and you will process differently I'm sure since you have a child. But I struggled the first week badly and then the rest of the month. A month after I started weekly therapy that I've continued to go to. That has helped immensely.
Then I focused on what made me happy. And if I had a child, I would focus on what made us happy together. I spent the last year doing activities that I wanted to do. Nothing fancy or super expensive. Usually day trips to the city. I did most of them on my own to have my own experience.
I'm still getting there because my next step I have to deal with some the lingering issues from the abuse. But one year has already made a difference.
I'm rooting for you in your con tinted healing. I have been in separate living spaces from my husband for a while now...there was abuse before. So, since dd is here I have focused on her and yes us a bit. I think right now though I'm going to need to do what you are doing (within reason as I have to care for my chuld), but to focus on me and what my new identity without being married is like.