Talk to me about hosting a shower and giving a gift

[jennynumbers]

I am co-hosting my SIL's shower. First off, if this matters, I adore my SIL. She's a best friend and sister wrapped into one. We joke that we are the outsiders looking into the crazy family. (We both married into it.)

What is the etiquette for hosting AND gift giving? I wanted to get her an item that was $160, but MH said we'll be dropping a lot of $ on the shower itself so should look into a $50 gift. There are a few of us hosting so I might "only" spend about $200 on the shower. 

[MyName]

I think it's your money and you can spend it however you like. I think YH is right about not needing to spend so much on the gift since you are spending a lot on the shower, but if you want to, go ahead!

[honeydew1894]

I agree with the others. I love gift giving so I always tend to go overbudget.

[lexxasaurus]

Mar 3, 2015 11:35:35 GMT -5 honeydew1894 said:

I agree with the others. I love gift giving so I always tend to go overbudget.

I don't think I've ever stayed within my budget when it comes to gifts... I always go over, no matter what number I set in my head.

[sapphire bou]

She seems like a special woman, so if you feel the need to slurge on her, go for it. 

If just want her to have whatever the $160 item is and don't care if it comes solely from you, you might consider asking the other hostesses to pitch in and give it as your hostess gift.

ETA: Continuing on the 2nd paragraph... And also buy her a smaller gift if you wish.

[sitnspin]

I hosted a shower for someone in the past and I also bought a gift.  I think I maybe spent $60 or so, but I don't really recall.

[jennynumbers]

Mar 3, 2015 14:28:27 GMT -5 sapphire bou said:

 so if you feel the need to slurge on her, go for it. 

This made me giggle

[sapphire bou]

Mar 3, 2015 15:11:34 GMT -5 jennynumbers said:

Mar 3, 2015 14:28:27 GMT -5 sapphire bou said:

 so if you feel the need to slurge on her, go for it. 

This made me giggle

Ha! I even looked at it twice because it looked wrong. Whoops!