I have hurt feelings...

[spitforspat]

What a jerk. Personally, I'm happy for chatty people. Because I am not chatty. Which means I'm no stranger to the painfully awkward silence.

[Deleted]

That's such a bitchy thing to say. I know it's all over now but I wish you would have laughed right out loud in her face and said, "oh my god! How rude of you to say something like that!"

[pugz]

I'm sorry I would be so hurt. I too am a talker and can be self-conscious about it.

On moms groups, I'm pretty active in a couple and they definitely have their ups and downs. There are certain moms that I seriously cannot stand, usually because they love to criticize how other moms feed their kids (gasp! goldfish!! not organic!!) and other stupid petty shit like that. Fortunately the majority of the moms are not like that. We have at least a dozen moms group on our local Meetup site and a friend checked out most of them before I got around to it and filled me in on which ones were awful, and which ones were great. It really is hit or miss but I might try giving that particular group another try, especially since that particular mom may not always be at the events and if you hit it off with other moms, hopefully she will STFU

[aussiecrush]

What a bitch. Listen to @smace, she speaks many truths.

[Saint Monica]

((OG))

[livinitup]

So, she wanted you to settle down. I bet someone else DIDN'T want you quieter. It's a GROUP, not her personal ladies-in-waiting. Maybe she's the type who puts her foot in her mouth a lot. Or anxious in general and self conscious about her own talking. If you like the group, keep going. You might not be her favorite, but I bet you'll be someone else's. Go! And keep going back. As long as YOU want.

[shamrockshake]

What an ass. I love talkers, I'm socially awkward and can't seem to have conversations so I love people who talk a lot, it puts me so much more at ease

[liverandonions]

That girl is a bitch. Do not take it personally. I met some of my best friends in my moms group offered through my health network. You need to find the right group for you. I hope you find a nice group that you jive with!

[orangeglow]

I totally went from hurt feelings to the warm and fuzzies.   (hot)

Ever since high school where someone changed my senior superlative song (we had a video with everyone's photo, and a quick song clip) to "shut the fuck up, just shut the fuck up" (I think a limp bizkit song??) I've been extremely sensitive to this.

**side note - my computer auto corrected the word biscuit to bizkit for me because I had the world limp... OMG.

[janiejones]

I bet more than half of the group cringed when she said that.... but they are trying just as hard to make friends and didn't have the nerve to call her out.

Are there other ways to meet people in your area?? I looked up all of our free drop in programs and attended them until I found the ones I liked, and the ladies I liked to hang with. It definitely took some time to meet other moms, but I've got good pack now.

[rachelgreen]

She sounds like a raging douchebag. I'm sorry OG - don't let her deter you from finding a better fit with another group.

[papie]

Mar 3, 2015 17:05:44 GMT -5 orangeglow said:

I just - I know I talk too much. And I like being social. And I've been called on it before. I just thought I was old enough that people would point it out more - discreetly.

Aww don't feel bad. I am the same way and I am very self conscious about it. But the more self conscious I get, the more anxious and then I talk even more.

Fuck them. I'm sure you are awesome.

[joenali]

I got stuck on paying dues for a mom's group.

[speckledfrog]

Mar 3, 2015 21:20:51 GMT -5 joenali said:

I got stuck on paying dues for a mom's group.

If it's run through Meetup, it's quite common to have a small fee because there is a yearly fee to be on the site.  It's usually $5-$10. 

[sailorgray]

Mar 3, 2015 21:20:51 GMT -5 joenali said:

I got stuck on paying dues for a mom's group.

Ours charges $25/ year, but it goes back into our club for space rental, food, parties, instruments, etc. it's well worth it. 

[LizLemler]

What an asshat. You don't need them - you will find other friends. It's fucking terrible what some moms do to others - after having kids you are so freaking vulnerable. You deserve to have mom friends that you enjoy being around - and they are out there. Trust.

[eddy]

Fuck that lady.

[Deleted]

I'll bet that lady has spent the time since that meeting kicking herself for saying such a bitchy thing in front of the group. Look, I talk a lot, too. And, as a fellow talker-a-lotter I'm sure you can appreciate this: I often say such stupid and inane things I can't even BELIEVE they are coming out of my mouth. And then I obsess about them far longer than is healthy and worry that I've offended someone. I wonder if that's sort of what happened today? Maybe give the group another chance?

[Deleted]

Oh God, Mom's Groups! They can be the WORST. I remember crying when I was 3 months post partum and found out an offshoot of my "group" (all ladies I liked) formed their own group. Without me. How big is this group? If you can avoid the witch, I'd give it another shot. And I agree with others who said I love to have chatty friends because I'm kind of quiet.

[sapphireblue]

What a bitch!

I am curious how the other moms acted when she said that? If I were another mom there, I would have said something right after her to counteract it, and if not that, spent some time being extra friendly to you after the comment to show you we weren't all mean. Did anyone do anything like that?

I am so sorry. My feelings would be really hurt, even though clearly you are way better than them/her.

[olegregg]

She's terribly immature and bitchy. I like people who can keep the conversation going even during awkward lulls. In fact, I'm a bit jealous, as I've always been a quiet-ish introvert (except when drunk, lol).