Baby's shit sleep saga- part 74

[meganew]

She's been in bed for less than 2 hours and she's woken up screaming twice. I nursed her the first time and now H is walking with her. She's in her magic sleep suit, she's got her new pack and play with a more comfortable mattress, she's been fed, changed, and fed again.

I think we officially have to let her CIO. God I don't want to, I really hate this.

[meganew]

Mar 3, 2015 22:17:41 GMT -5 @smace said:

I'm sorry, I hope she gets back to her good sleep habits. can you do the sleep lady shuffle instead of cio (only bc you said you didn't want to) it's a kinder form of cio. Nothing worked for wes until he turned 1, but sleep lady shuffle worked on him.

I won't horrify you with X's sleep saga.

I'll look that up. I just don't understand what happened. How do you go from sleeping 10-11 hours to waking up every 45 minutes?

[irishbride2]

Mar 3, 2015 22:20:09 GMT -5 meganew said:

Mar 3, 2015 22:17:41 GMT -5 @smace said:

I'm sorry, I hope she gets back to her good sleep habits. can you do the sleep lady shuffle instead of cio (only bc you said you didn't want to) it's a kinder form of cio. Nothing worked for wes until he turned 1, but sleep lady shuffle worked on him.

I won't horrify you with X's sleep saga.

I'll look that up. I just don't understand what happened. How do you go from sleeping 10-11 hours to waking up every 45 minutes?

How old?

[dizzydee]

I'd give in ibuprofen to make sure she's not in pain and let her CIO for awhile. It's for your own sanity.

[meganew]

Mar 3, 2015 22:20:58 GMT -5 irishbride2 said:

Mar 3, 2015 22:20:09 GMT -5 meganew said:

I'll look that up. I just don't understand what happened. How do you go from sleeping 10-11 hours to waking up every 45 minutes?

How old?

6 months.

[meganew]

Mar 3, 2015 22:23:57 GMT -5 @smace said:

Mar 3, 2015 22:20:09 GMT -5 meganew said:

I'll look that up. I just don't understand what happened. How do you go from sleeping 10-11 hours to waking up every 45 minutes?

My kids pull this shit every so often. Usually when they're getting over an illness or nearing a milestone

Well in the past month (when all this started) she's cut 2 teeth, had a really bad cold, moved from the rock n play to the pack and play and just started rocking on her hands and knees. So she has a lot going on, but c'mon kid. Sleep!!

[sampaguita]

Is she starting to roll over either way, or doing a scoot/crawl? My DD did this too, and it ended up being milestone related. She went back to her good sleep habits after a week or two.

[eddy]

Now is a great time to CIO. I know you don't want to hear that. But this is a really good age to do it

Hang in there lady.

[zaneyzoo]

My 8 month old has regressed a bit it is a combination of sick and I think because she's so close to crawling.

It sucks. I feel your pain. I would maybe try to not change her diaper during the night (unless it's poop). Partly so she doesn't wake whenever she's wet and partly to not cause her to wake up lore than a sleepy fuss

I hope it passes soon!

[ErinExpat]

Growth spurt?

[allaboutme]

Are her ears okay, my daughter had chronic ear infections; she would try and go to sleep but would cry due to pain.

[meganew]

Mar 3, 2015 22:50:02 GMT -5 eddy said:

Now is a great time to CIO. I know you don't want to hear that. But this is a really good age to do it

Hang in there lady.

I can't think of what else to do. She doesn't calm when we're in there or when she's being held unless its by me. And that can't keep happening. I'm exhausted and being a shit parent to Ollie who asks me 400 times a day to get on the floor to play with him and I'm always tired and she's always in my hands because she only naps on me, too.

I just feel like she's not getting enough sleep, he's not getting enough attention, he's been watching way too much tv, I'm not making my own play dough or practicing our letters in shaving cream or making my own baby food. Im just tired and I feel like I'm not doing enough for either of them. And now I'm just throwing myself a sleep deprivation filled pity party.

[meganew]

Mar 3, 2015 22:59:34 GMT -5 allaboutme said:

Are her ears okay, my daughter had chronic ear infections; she would try and go to sleep but would cry due to pain.

I took her to the pedi to check for that since she was tugging on them so much, but they were fine. Just related to teething.

[devonpow]

You mentioned she had a bad cold, was it recent and have you had her ears checked? My kids get like this with ear infections. No fevers, ok during the day, but up constantly screaming at night.

[devonpow]

Nevermind I see you answered already.

Sleep sucks. I feel like I was always a step or two behind and couldn't figure it out.

[luvvy]

I'm so sorry. G has been getting up 4-5 times a night screaming his head off. Sleep deprivation is no joke!! We did CIO around 6 months and it was the hardest and best thing we ever did. I hope you get some sleep soon.

[sewpinkgal]

I'm so sorry.

DS2 isn't quite that bad yet, but I feel you on the baby not getting enough sleep, mom not getting enough sleep and then being short and grumpy with the older kid. It just sucks so much.

We're gearing up for sleep training b/c I can't continue on like this. No other advice, but you have my sympathies.

[meganew]

Thanks guys. I know I'm a broken record on here anymore, but her sleeping is the only thing I can think about right now. Like seriously, H asked me to help him word an email earlier and I just flay out told him "No. I have no words in my head." Lol. I can't imagine how bad this would be if I was working. Dear god.

[Deleted]

I know I'm late to this party but I just wanted to share what helped me immensely during CIO- I repeated to myself over and over- He is safe, he is warm, he is full, he is dry, and he can figure this out.

There is no torture on earth listening to your baby cry but humans need sleep so you are doing this for his own good. Good luck!

[persa]

I'll add that a pair of noise cancelling headphones and some calming music helped me so I didn't have to hear the crying.

[FastHands]

I'm sorry. I'm currently up for the 4th time with ds and after juat one night of this I already punched the arm of the couch to release the rage, heh. I'm pretty sure I'll regret that later...

[MrsDarcy]

Mar 3, 2015 23:03:56 GMT -5 meganew said:

Mar 3, 2015 22:50:02 GMT -5 eddy said:

Now is a great time to CIO. I know you don't want to hear that. But this is a really good age to do it

Hang in there lady.

I can't think of what else to do. She doesn't calm when we're in there or when she's being held unless its by me. And that can't keep happening. I'm exhausted and being a shit parent to Ollie who asks me 400 times a day to get on the floor to play with him and I'm always tired and she's always in my hands because she only naps on me, too.

I just feel like she's not getting enough sleep, he's not getting enough attention, he's been watching way too much tv, I'm not making my own play dough or practicing our letters in shaving cream or making my own baby food. Im just tired and I feel like I'm not doing enough for either of them. And now I'm just throwing myself a sleep deprivation filled pity party.

I could have written this myself. My daughter is almost 7 months old. We did the Sleep Lady Shuffle. I wasn't as hard core as I was supposed to be, but she went from waking multiple times a night and napping only on my to waking only once or twice and napping in her crib. Like I said, if I had been more hardcore I believe she could be STTN right now, but she also just cut her first tooth and getting to milestones as well.

We did Ferber with our son, which worked beautifully. You should check that out too.

Good luck. I completely feel your pain. I'm up with her right now!

[dojo]

I felt extreme guilt over ferbering. DH and I sucked down a bottle of wine doing it for the first few nights. It worked though! I won't say it's for everyone, but despite the guilty feelings I will do it again this time.

[prairiedawn]

Developmental progress (like the getting up on her hands and kneees) fucks with sleep. Something about the brain being more active during those periods as new skills are acquired. It may just be temporary until she gets all her neural pathways worked out ?

[katie4253]

Have you tried motrin? I wonder if it's teething?

I had a real bad sleeper. Sleep training him got him to 1-2 wake up which was a hell of a lot better than 6-8. His shit sleep is the number 1 reason we are done after 1 (and he was born premature...so that's saying a lot). His sleep almost made me lose my mind. I won't tell you how old he was when he started to sstn. That would just make you cry. I hope it gets better soon!.

[hymen]

DS2 is almost a year and still sleeps like crap.

We should CIO but at 11, 2, 4:30 it's so much easier just to bring him into bed and nurse. I have no idea how I am going to wean this kid. It doesn't help that he won't take bottles anymore and only drinks maybe half a sippy of milk during the day. Can babies reverse cycle at 11.5 months old?

He also will scream and scream and scream if we do try to CIO. DS1 CIO for many 5-10 minutes for about 2 nights and had slept like a dream since.

So don't wait too long like me!

[egeiger]

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[eddy]

I thought the easiest way to do CIO was bedtime first. Help her learn to put herself to sleep, which will hopefully bleed into the night wakings.

Then once she gets good at putting herself to sleep then you can tackle night wakings when you think it is appropriate. Leo still woke once to eat until 10 months. I knew he was hungry and he went back to sleep so easily so I just let it happen.

[meganew]

Mar 4, 2015 6:21:18 GMT -5 hymen said:

DS2 is almost a year and still sleeps like crap.

We should CIO but at 11, 2, 4:30 it's so much easier just to bring him into bed and nurse. I have no idea how I am going to wean this kid. It doesn't help that he won't take bottles anymore and only drinks maybe half a sippy of milk during the day. Can babies reverse cycle at 11.5 months old?

He also will scream and scream and scream if we do try to CIO. DS1 CIO for many 5-10 minutes for about 2 nights and had slept like a dream since.

So don't wait too long like me!

This is exactly how Ollie was. He woke up to nurse 3x a night until I weaned him at 14 months. My advice? Go out of town to a wedding for 3 nights and hand him over the grandparents. That's what we did and when we came home he was sttn! Lol. 

Obviously I have no actual idea what I'm doing. 

[meganew]

Update- We let her cry herself back to sleep a few times, but she would wake up crying 20 minutes to an hour later. At 12:30 I couldn't take it anymore so we brought her into bed with us and she slept until 4ish. Woke up to nurse and then went back down until 8:30. So, I at least got some sleep. We're heading out of town today for a funeral, so we'll have to try this again when we get home.

Thank you everyone for the suggestions and hair pats! I told H last night that I'm suddenly less sad about his vasectomy. Lol.