Just got a birthday party invite for a friend's son for a party in mid-April! WTF? I don't even know what's going on next week, let alone 6 weeks out. There are also 40+ people on the evite, only one of which is family. Really? He's turning 6....
Right? People book stuff early so people have an open schedule. Like if you want to go then go. If you don't, then don't. Buti don't like the idea of just not wanting tp RSVP because something better might come along.
Eh, this isn't that odd to me. I sent out the girls' probably 4 weeks in advance because I needed a March 1st RSVP date for the 14th party so I could get a headcount for catering.
This seems pretty normal to me. I get many invites that far in advance. And maybe they have a lot of friends they want to celebrate with. NBD. We had 65 people at DD's first birthday party- DH comes from a big family, we invited our friends who all have kids, so it adds up quickly.
I wouldn't mind it. Our weekends this spring are filling up already, so I would like to know now if we had a party to attend.
I'm going to send DD's out four weeks in advance for her June party -- I want a headcount so I can plan, and there are a lot of May/June bdays in our group.
I do think that 6 weeks seems a bit much for a b-day party invite. To me, 6 weeks is for weddings!
But that being said, it doesn't put me out to get the invitation early. However, depending on the event/ who it's for, I may not RSVP until close to the RSVP date. It's not necessarily about something "better" coming along, but something more important. For good friends - we'll probably want to go anyhow, so it's a quick turn around. But for people who aren't as close - eh, I may hold off on RSVPing. Not ready to commit myself so far out.
But that's also my overall personality. I hate being super scheduled/committed in general. Not just about parties - about anything! I like being able to be flexible if I need to be.
I usually do like 3 weeks in advance for birthday parties, hoping that some people can't make it! I've already RSVP'd that we'll be there so I do know now what I'm doing that weekend. It just struck me as odd to be so early. Guess I'm in the minority!
Post by InBetweenDays on Mar 4, 2015 11:23:32 GMT -5
That isn't the norm around here in my experience, but I don't really find it that odd. I will say though that it can be hard to know if you're going to be available that far out. Both kids are signed up for 2 sports for spring. We know they will have games on certain days, but we don't know the times yet because the schedule isn't out. So it isn't a matter of waiting to see if something better comes along, but waiting on the schedule of something they have already committed to. But in that case I would probably just contact the host to see if it was ok to be a "maybe" until the schedule comes out.
It could be a case of an overzealous birthday kid that wore the parents down, too. I got a couple of texts recently from parents asking about the details of DD1's upcoming birthday because their kids had lost the invitations dd1 gave them at school. I had NO idea what was going on. It turned out she was handing out rolled up pieces of blank construction paper and telling kids they were birthday party invitations.
Post by changedname on Mar 4, 2015 11:36:21 GMT -5
I sent dd's invites out a month in advance. You can't win- if you don't send them out early, people complain that they are already booked and won't come, too early and you complain too!
Post by jeaniebueller on Mar 4, 2015 11:40:51 GMT -5
They may have invited the whole class. I mean, my DS has 24 kids in his class, plus if we added family friends, we could easily get up to 40. I wouldn't want to plan a party of that scale, but more power to them, right?
This doesn't seem too odd. I have 5 weddings coming up this year. I already know of two showers that are scheduled for June 14th so I have to decide which to go to over 3 months out.
I do think that 6 weeks seems a bit much for a b-day party invite. To me, 6 weeks is for weddings!
But that being said, it doesn't put me out to get the invitation early. However, depending on the event/ who it's for, I may not RSVP until close to the RSVP date. It's not necessarily about something "better" coming along, but something more important. For good friends - we'll probably want to go anyhow, so it's a quick turn around. But for people who aren't as close - eh, I may hold off on RSVPing. Not ready to commit myself so far out.
But that's also my overall personality. I hate being super scheduled/committed in general. Not just about parties - about anything! I like being able to be flexible if I need to be.
I seem to get wedding invites 3 months out.
I would not bat an eye at 6 weeks for a party. I usually do 4 weeks.
Um, I'm sending out invites this weekend/early next week for my son's 3rd in mid-April. It'll be about 5.5-6 weeks away.
The thing is that my nephew's 5th birthday is 5 days before my son's. I guarantee I'll get his invite in about 4.5 weeks from now and I'll be expected to be there! Now *that* is annoying! I hate non-planners... they make my-Type-A-self all itchy ;-)
I sent DD1's invites for her April 10th bday last week. We keep getting invites the week before for parties and we almost always already have plans. I like to give people time to plan. I already have DS/DD3's July 4th bday planned lol. I plan on sending those invites out 2 months in advance since it is on a holiday. I love to entertain and invite all of our friends, family and their school friends to parties. We usually have 75+ people. The more the merrier is my way.