Since you guys are my general venting place.

[iamali]

I'm.... not ok tonight.

At the end of the month my sister and I are meeting in AZ to scatter my mom's ashes per her wishes.

I'm both dreading it and glad it will finally be over.

I had a panic attack at work today thinking about it.


Oh, and I'm going to start going to a bereavement support group next week. I'm hoping it'll help some with all the feelings I'm dealing with.

[gretchenindisguise]

I'm sorry you're feeling so poorly.

I really hope you find as much support in the bereavement group as my coworker did. If you want me to get the name/location of hers, let me know.

[cereal K]

I don't really know what to say, so I'll just offer hugs. Lots of hugs.

I'm glad you're seeking out some additional support.

[iamali]

Mar 4, 2015 21:17:43 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

I'm sorry you're feeling so poorly.

I really hope you find as much support in the bereavement group as my coworker did. If you want me to get the name/location of hers, let me know.

I'd love that, thank you.

[alzi]

Huge hugs. You deserve such a break. I hope that trip brings you some peace.

[pantsparty]

I'm sorry Ali I'm glad you're taking steps to take care of yourself. Hugs.

[gretchenindisguise]

Mar 4, 2015 21:18:39 GMT -5 iamali said:

Mar 4, 2015 21:17:43 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

I'm sorry you're feeling so poorly.

I really hope you find as much support in the bereavement group as my coworker did. If you want me to get the name/location of hers, let me know.

I'd love that, thank you.

Text sent, I'll let you know when I find out.

[lime]

((Ali))

[justemily]

So very sorry you're going through this

[noodleskooze]

I'm so, so sorry.

[rosiebear]

I'm sorry. I am glad to hear you're going for some IRL group support, too.

[lilafowler]

I'm so sorry.

[iamali]

Mar 4, 2015 21:28:37 GMT -5 rosiebear said:

I'm sorry. I am glad to hear you're going for some IRL group support, too.

I'm in therapy as well, but my therapist is encouraging me to attend the bereavement group as well.

[flex]

I'm sorry...it's so hard.

Do you have to scatter her ashes so soon? It's okay to wait a bit if it's going to be really hard on you.

(((hugs)))

[rosiebear]

Mar 4, 2015 21:30:43 GMT -5 iamali said:

Mar 4, 2015 21:28:37 GMT -5 rosiebear said:

I'm sorry. I am glad to hear you're going for some IRL group support, too.

I'm in therapy as well, but my therapist is encouraging me to attend the bereavement group as well.

I think that'll be good (I hope so). I think there's something important that is found in a group where people are going through or have been through a similar loss. I wish you all the best.

[Eagles]

I'm so sorry, Ali. Big hugs.

[1confused1]

Hugs.

I felt so much closure when we scattered my grandma's ashes.

I hope you find some peace.

[compassrose]

Hugs. You've had just one thing after another for so long. I hope you are able to take solace in your support system for now. And it's hard to believe, but things will get better. One day at a time for now.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry. hugs.

[JayhawkGirl]

Some days are harder than others. I'm sorry.

Fwiw, I saw a noticeable improvement in MIL when she started to attend a bereavement support group. She resisted for a long time, but has found comfort and support in ways that we and her friends, despite our best intentions, simply can't.

I'm so sorry this is so hard. It's not fair.

[livinitup]

You sound like you're dealing with your loss pretty well. Don't be down on yourself for completely normal feelings and emotions.

[Deleted]

I am so sorry. We scattered my uncles ashes at Thanksgiving and it was great closure for me. My uncle was my father figure and did all the "dad" stuff with me growing up. I still miss him but the release I felt was amazing and it hurts that much less. I hope you can find some closure in Arizona. Remember there is no "right" way to grieve. Everyone processes loss differently and I think the grief support group is a wonderful idea.

[leahmel]

Hugs to you.

[Saint Monica]

So many hugs and wishes for peace & strength for you. ((iamali))

[mrsukyankee]

Hugs!

[venice2007]

Thoughts and prayers to you!

[ginger]

Hugs.