All I've got is that I know that I've bitched a lot recently about my husband bitching that we're poor and that I spend excessively. When my spending lately has been same old/same old or maybe even less than normal? Except for the car we bought, that he's holding against me (I would argue that it is not unreasonable to replace a car 15 years after it was purchased and 2.5 years after it was totaled, but I digress). (Also, we've had some fantastic months with our investments, so I'm happy with our financial picture).
He got our packages last night and when I came out to say hi to him he had already opened them to see what I had bought! Jesus fucking christ. Also, surprise -- here's the cat food we need and the water filters for our super rusty water that I told you I was buying!
Moving on from my vent, I bought a navigation SD chip for the car even though he told me not to and I don't plan on telling him about the parking ticket I got on Tuesday. If this micromanagement continues, I really am going to start hiding things from him.
Lame confession, but beats "I ate a bag of pizza goldfish for breakfast"? (Which I didn't not do, but at any rate...)
Team v in that situation. I'd be armed with spreadsheets showing how everything's fine and leave me alone.
On the marriage theme, a confession: A while back I logged into google maps and some weird address in the city came up. Chrome is signed into my account on our desktop so any map searches show up on my phone. I asked DH what address he was looking up and JOKED, "Is this your secret gf's place or something?" and he turned bright red and started SWEATING PROFUSELY. I started panicking like HOLY SHIT I WAS JOKING BUT MAYBE THIS IS LEGIT?!?! He confessed that he looked up where his ex-gf worked and the address was the location of the restaurant she waitresses at. He claimed he was curious where the restaurant was. I was like well then WTF IS UP WITH THE SWEATING and he claims he was just embarrassed because he felt like a weirdo looking at her fb page and looking up where she's working.
I believe him and chalk up the sweating to his anxiety/embarrassment. We have always had free access to each other's email, fb, phones, etc. and I have no reason not to believe him. If he were to cheat, he would be much smarter about it?
I was disappointed H didn't get sick after eating his breakfast yesterday just kidding! He told me he learned his lesson to always say yes when I offer to set a timer for him.
We have also put nearly 6k on credit cards in the last 48 hours. Most of it will be reimbursed, but it is still giving me heart palpitations.
I guess I am lucky that DH doesn't really know much about our finances (is that a confession?) because he never complains about anything I buy. He has told me in the past that if I buy something he just assumes we have money since I handle the finances. The down side to that is that I handle ALL the finances and it is completely on me if we run out of money or a bill is late.
My confession- We do not have pets and don't plan to ever get any. I always blame this on DH and his general dislike of pets and recently we found out that DD2 is allergic to dogs so I use that as another excuse. The real reason I never want a pet is because I have no desire to spend money or time on an animal. I am sure some of you would think I have no heart and that may be true. :^)
We impulse bought a kitchenaid mixer last week. We got an awesome deal ($190) on a refurbished one and it was exactly what I wanted.
Also, one of my least-MM and most-Portlandia things: I'm signing up for my goat cheese CSA this month, again. It's $400 and we get 3 types of cheese every other week from May - November. I could do better buying cheese elsewhere, but it's local and it's freaking good.
UGH Stan I would have been so annoyed. I would have said "I'm not sure exactly why you keeping saying that." after the 2nd time he said it.
DH is working from home today and annoying me. Which is totally unfair since both of us have home offices and it's not like he's in my way. I just like my allllooonnneee time.
@forcuatro re:pets, that is not flameworthy at all. I have 2 dogs that I love that are getting on in the years. H keeps saying that he wants a corgi after both dogs are gone. I think I might want a clean house (no dogs) when they are gone. I guess that's my confession
Stan - That would be so annoying and it is something you can't even comment on. If you commented that it wouldn't be a problem and you can handle it they would complain that you were being snippy and emotional. It seems like a no-win.
Confession... I'm almost 200 lbs (yikes!) and need to go to the store and buy some bigger clothes but I'm terrified of discovering my new size. #vanity
Re: pets. Since we had our floors refinished, I'm in no hurry to get a dog. I think we should wait and if we have kids who are older and asking for a dog, I might reconsider. I feel like an asshole for choosing my floors over a dog, but it's not like I HAVE a dog yet, so it's choosing my floors over an imaginary dog.
Stan, I would be SO angry. Also, I kind of feel bad because my husband has like 0 alone time, since I work from home. So I can't get too upset when he just turned on shows he wants to watch without me while I'm making dinner, because he literally has no other time to watch them.
I'm supposed to be working from home, instead I'm laying on the couch watching movies. I'm kinda loving this birthday snow day, except that I'm so over winter. Oh, and I plan on giving my notice tomorrow, so I do need to write my resignation letter.?
I got feedback in a 360 review at work that is directly conflicting. I got some people who specifically said I need to be more assertive and voice concerns earlier, when issues are smaller and I'm less frustrated (which I agree with and cited in my own self-assessment), and along similar lines, that I needed to voice concerns to the full partnership rather than to a couple of partners. Then I also got feedback that I should make sure the issues I raise at our weekly partner meetings "warrant being discussed in partner meetings," i.e., pipe down so we can get in and out of meetings faster.
My not-very-constructive reaction on the whole is basically well fuck you all and also .
I got feedback in a 360 review at work that is directly conflicting. I got some people who specifically said I need to be more assertive and voice concerns earlier, when issues are smaller and I'm less frustrated (which I agree with and cited in my own self-assessment), and along similar lines, that I needed to voice concerns to the full partnership rather than to a couple of partners. Then I also got feedback that I should make sure the issues I raise at our weekly partner meetings "warrant being discussed in partner meetings," i.e., pipe down so we can get in and out of meetings faster.
My not-very-constructive reaction on the whole is basically well fuck you all and also .
This kind of contradictory feedback is when I figure I must be doing things right. For example, an equal # of student reviews say I go to fast as say I go too slow.
milsaroo, ugh, I am appalled on your behalf. That's terrible. Team #youdidntdoanythingwrong. It sounds like your sister has some hangups that she inappropriately analogized to your situation, but you should not feel like you should have to vacillate between feeling gratified and objectified.
Confession... I'm almost 200 lbs (yikes!) and need to go to the store and buy some bigger clothes but I'm terrified of discovering my new size. #vanity
Are you okay, health-wise? I know you have historically been very thin. Is something going on to cause a rapid weight gain?
Yes, I'm okay health wise....it's a combo of slowing metabolism + 4 months of zoloft + eating poorly + my birth control (naploxen) + not working out.
I've been slowly getting back into working out and eating healthy. So hopefully over the next 4-6 months I'll be closer to 135 lbs or so. #getfitordietrying
(In my Oprah voice) You get a hulk smash, and you get a hulk smash, and you get a hulk smash! Everybody gets a hulk smash!
One day the crazy sexism will disappear. I have a dream.
I really wanted to like Stan's post, just because of the gif... But somehow, with the text written, that didn't seem right.
And, milsaroo - that dude is just plain old creepy. You did _nothing_ wrong - he's just a creepy asshole. I'm sorry you had to deal with him, and I'm glad you're going to let HR know about him.