The big boss is back in town a day early and it is pissing me off! He always does this! Don't put on the calendar that you will be back today, late, after I have had to leave to go to a meeting, and then actually get back last night. This is flameful because I should have just been doing my work all week rather than saving it to come in early today and get it done before he gets back.
I'm annoyed with my friend for having feelings. LOL. But she is just so sensitive and I just want to tell her to buck the fuck up. Shit happens, sunshine, deal with it! She is sad over losing a friend, but I am just tired of hearing about it. STOP WALLOWING! Work on building that bridge to get the fuck over it. I know that people feel what they feel and her feelings are valid. But does it make me a bad friend to just not want to hear about it?
I pulled the stereotype "girl move" the other day. I was annoyed with H the other day because I wanted his help cleaning up/cooking dinner. Rather than SAYING anything to him, I just banged shit around in the kitchen and started slamming doors and shit. I was getting more and more mad and like, "This is 1950, asshat!" I finally stormed into the office and was like, "Finish dinner yourself." Yeah, he had headphones on and heard nothing I did. He did not even know I was cooking/cleaning.
Post by Emerald1486 on Mar 6, 2015 12:31:29 GMT -5
I am rather upset that XH asked if I could keep DS this weekend since he is sick, then changed it when his parents said they wanted him. I'm his mom dammit! They should have either been asked BEFORE he asked me or AFTER if I said no. I know it's his time and he gets to choose, which is why I am putting this as flameful. But I'm still pissed. I was excited at the extra time with DS
Is it flameful that I can't imagine getting naked without having the sex? Everything is out in the open, just waiting for action.
My flameful...I've sort of entertained the idea of going on a cross-country trip with a dude who refuses to be in a relationship with me. To me, weekend away is definitely relationship territory. But it would be fun, and it's something I'd do with a friend, so...we will see.
I don't think you're a bad friend - I allow my friends a period of time where I am not annoyed, and then I get annoyed if they continue on for days or weeks on the same shit. Take a day or two, cry about it. Then figure out how to move forward.
So I like trivia guy. We also have really great chemistry, which is something I would NOT have expected. We've gotten naked but haven't had sex, and dammit - I am breaking my self imposed rules and plan to have a lot of sex with him starting this weekend. I also don't see him as the same type of dude I've dated AT ALL, and he's def not sleeping around, so I feel ok with this. lol.
Thank you, for the first paragraph! This has been going on for a WHILE. And last one was her sending a screen shot of the ex-friend's instagram all "I should like this, LOL." And I was like, "Stop following her on instagram" and she went off about how I apparently expect her to get over losing one of her best friends already. No. I don't. I'm just telling her to stop fucking wallowing.
YAY! To the second. What are you wanting? a FWB? Or do you actually want to date him? Just nosey. I think having the sex is a good idea either way, but I may be a bad influence.
My flameful...I've sort of entertained the idea of going on a cross-country trip with a dude who refuses to be in a relationship with me. To me, weekend away is definitely relationship territory. But it would be fun, and it's something I'd do with a friend, so...we will see.
I only think this is flameful because you DO want more from him. If you were totally okay with the casual thing, meh, whatever. I just feel you are setting yourself up to be hurt. AND I think you deserve better. I think you should drop him like the bad habit he is to focus on yourself and finding someone WORTHY of being in a relationship with you.
My flameful...I've sort of entertained the idea of going on a cross-country trip with a dude who refuses to be in a relationship with me. To me, weekend away is definitely relationship territory. But it would be fun, and it's something I'd do with a friend, so...we will see.
I only think this is flameful because you DO want more from him. If you were totally okay with the casual thing, meh, whatever. I just feel you are setting yourself up to be hurt. AND I think you deserve better. I think you should drop him like the bad habit he is to focus on yourself and finding someone WORTHY of being in a relationship with you.
jigsy I do worry that your feelings would be intensified by this trip... I also think it's showing he has some emotional disconnects in that he wants to take a trip with you (Where?!) but doesn't want any emotional commitment to you.
If you really really would not be hurt by all of this, go for it. I worry. lol. But you're the only one that knows.
I know...it's not like it's a romantic getaway...it's to orlando to go to the wizarding world of Harry Potter, lol. We are both dorks, I know this.
Post by riverpestie on Mar 6, 2015 13:05:49 GMT -5
FI leaves for Germany tomorrow and I usually don't want him to go, but this time, I am kinda glad he is leaving.
I won't have any distractions for an entire week! This will give me tons of time to try and finish up most of my school stuff. 8 weeks left to go, but still so much to do. I am running out of time!
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Mar 6, 2015 13:13:13 GMT -5
I feel like I'm living in the twilight zone ... between the crap going on at work, STRANGE dreams involving xh and me being in a panic mode what seems like 100% of the time w/ ZERO break in sight.
I'm supposed to see BT on sunday - hinging on the fact that 1- of the 10 people I contacted to babysit dd one of them gets back to me 2- my firm doesn't decide to layoff people 3- that once I'm away from dd that I don't have a total meltdown at BT's place bc I FINALLY have the 'privacy' to have the meltdown I want to have (see #1 though)
I knew that by leaving xh, I would be the SOLE parent and that I couldn't count on him for diddley squat but OMG I need a break from dd that doesn't involve being at work. BT is very patient w/ me (bless his heart and I mean that in a good way, not some southern condescending way) about being able to see me but OMG I feel like it's IMPOSSIBLE to spend any time alone w/ him or myself bc it's going to cost $$$ to do it w/o friends and/or family helping me out once every few months !
OOOH. I have one, I keep forgetting it. When TL and I have sex, sometimes he has trouble giving in to orgasm, and one time he told me he fantasizes about having a baby with me (haha, neither one of us can). So when I want him to cum I tell him to give me a baby, it works every time.
Lol I do this too. And then every month I pray like hell that I am not actually pregnant and that the gods of fertility didn't think I really meant it.
It would be basically impossible because I have all manner of IF issues and bf has been rewired. But I still panic.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
I found a thing I wrote back in 2000, it's still up on the site I posted it on but it no longer has my name attributed to it. I'm actually sad about it even though my account has been closed for at least 13 years.
I do listen to my friends even when I get internally annoyed at the repetition of what they are saying. I'm ok with that as long as they are nice and appreciative people who I want in my life. I have a friend like that who has battled suicidal clinical depression. She was hard to be around for a while, she would go on and on about the same subjects again and again. It was annoying but she has grown out of it and now she is happier than I've ever seen her before.
I guess I'm ok with listening in situations like that if I feel like the person is ultimately trying to improve his/her life. I lose patience with people who I think are jerks or who make continual bad decisions and don't learn from them.
My flameful is that I realize that I've recently been kind of grouchy because of some difficulties I've been facing in different areas of my life. I think that sometimes I might seem grouchier than I actually am. No one has said this to me, it's just something I've noticed. Instead of a resting bitch face, it's like a resting grouchy vibe. I'm not actually grouchy, I'm just tired of crap happening. Less crap = less grouch.
I thought maybe the crying was flameful? ha. It's a mixture of relief and nostalgia. I'm sad my little house isn't mine anymore. Also, I told him that I'm engaged. He sounded happy for me. And that made me cry too. My eyeliner is all sorts of fucked up.
As good as things are going with the bf it's been four months and still no "I love you" from him. I know I could say it first but I feel like it would give me a complex with I did. Either he wouldn't say it back and I would feel terrible or he would and I would think he was just saying it out of obligation. Whelp!
My roomie is house hunting to buy a home. We just moved in together at the end of October-crap!
As good as things are going with the bf it's been four months and still no "I love you" from him. I know I could say it first but I feel like it would give me a complex with I did. Either he wouldn't say it back and I would feel terrible or he would and I would think he was just saying it out of obligation. Whelp!
My roomie is house hunting to buy a home. We just moved in together at the end of October-crap!
Could you have a conversation about it? Just say something like, "I find myself wanting to say 'I love you.' Is that weird?" Totally innocent question, and it's not as awkward as just throwing it out there and waiting for a response. That's what I would do, anyway.
As good as things are going with the bf it's been four months and still no "I love you" from him. I know I could say it first but I feel like it would give me a complex with I did. Either he wouldn't say it back and I would feel terrible or he would and I would think he was just saying it out of obligation. Whelp!
My roomie is house hunting to buy a home. We just moved in together at the end of October-crap!
Could you have a conversation about it? Just say something like, "I find myself wanting to say 'I love you.' Is that weird?" Totally innocent question, and it's not as awkward as just throwing it out there and waiting for a response. That's what I would do, anyway.
I thought you were directing this toward her roommate situation. I thought, "Well, that's a different approach." LOL.
As good as things are going with the bf it's been four months and still no "I love you" from him. I know I could say it first but I feel like it would give me a complex with I did. Either he wouldn't say it back and I would feel terrible or he would and I would think he was just saying it out of obligation. Whelp!
My roomie is house hunting to buy a home. We just moved in together at the end of October-crap!
Could you have a conversation about it? Just say something like, "I find myself wanting to say 'I love you.' Is that weird?" Totally innocent question, and it's not as awkward as just throwing it out there and waiting for a response. That's what I would do, anyway.
Oh that's good! I'm a big communicator so it's awkward for me not to say anything ya know?
DJ bought Girl Scout cookies and I have to deliver them this weekend. He posted something about cuddling with a random tonight on FB. I commented that I'd volunteer and bring his cookies tonight, but obviously I'm not a random. I'm not expecting him to invite me over, but the flameful is that I put it out there.
Side note: the entire time we dated, he never made a move. Ever. It was always me first. So even if he did invite me over to cuddle, or whatever, nothing more would happen unless *I* made a move. And I wouldn't. Honestly.
I went to dinner with a friend last night and he have me some good advice re: my asshole former landlord. I plan to take the guy to court, but I also plan to mail him a glitter bomb after that.
I had a meeting and lunch scheduled with my company's CEO on Wednesday that was cancelled due to an urgent business thing on his part. Instead of changing around the shop schedule again to put myself back on for 8 hours that day, I went in for four hours in the afternoon and did some admin things. Then I enjoyed the rest of the day off, as it was my boyfriend's birthday. THEN we had a snow day on Thursday. I'm not getting anywhere near 40 hours this week and I'm enjoying the shit out of it.
I had something more flameful at the beginning of the week, but I tried to save it for FFFC and forgot what it was.
Could you have a conversation about it? Just say something like, "I find myself wanting to say 'I love you.' Is that weird?" Totally innocent question, and it's not as awkward as just throwing it out there and waiting for a response. That's what I would do, anyway.
Oh that's good! I'm a big communicator so it's awkward for me not to say anything ya know?
Definitely, and I would feel the same. That's why I already have this planned out for when I get to that level with someone.
I've never seen or read anything Harry Potter-related...and I have no interest in doing so.
This is totally flameful!! J/k but seriously says the girl who just spent the day geeking out at the Wizarding world of HP.
I was WAAAAYYYYY late to Harry Potter, like I didn't read any of the books or see any of the movies until after the last movie was out, maybe 2013. In the year after that I had read all the books and seen all the movies.....more than once. DH and I watch the movies from 1-8 pretty regularly, and we are up to Deathly Hallows pt1. I like to watch the movies with the Harry Potter Wiki site open in one of the tabs on my computer. This does relate to my flameful: Every year, at the end of May (before kids are out of school for the summer), my dad pays for about 10 people to spend the week at Disneyland at a hotel on the grounds. It's a ton of fun, and I love hanging out with my family, but a week of Disneyland is a lot. This year DH and I are thinking of going to Harry Potter World instead of Disney with the family, but we're probably going to tell them that DH doesn't have enough leave available, which is mostly the truth.
I have seen the HP movies because friends wanted me to go, but I've never read the books. I have absolutely no interest, though I promise I tried a couple times to get into it. I couldn't so I put the book down and never picked it back up.