Post by walterismydog on Mar 6, 2015 19:06:05 GMT -5
5 or so here in Denver. Another 8 or so back home. I don't talk to them super often but every time we hang out it's like old times. And they all hear my big news first.
Maybe 5 that I could without a doubt count on in a time of crisis and for whom I'd reciprocate, even though we don't talk every day or even every week. Probably another 3-5 that would care/try to be there but that wouldn't be the first people I'd call and vice versa.
H. Although I will say snips has really been there for me, she is awesome! I have certainly relied on her as a confidante. Thanks for being a friend, lol.
4 friends I could call day or night and whom I absolutely never ever tire of or get irritated with. We have travelled with them, gone through good and bad and I look at them more like family at this point. I keep my close people close, but kind of suck at having a causal group of friends. Once I've decided to friend you you are kind of stuck with me for life lol.
Around 10. I don't see or talk to any of them everyday (well, unless gbcn and twitter count), but they're the ones that I feel I could trust with anything and rely on when it really matters. And even though I may not speak to a couple of them more than once or twice a year, when we do talk is like there's never been any time that's passed.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
I have always wished that I had a group of really close girlfriends that I had met in grade school or a close group from high school. A group who gets together every year for a vacation and has inside jokes from 10th grade. My home life wasn't conducive to having that.
I have a lot of acquaintances and friends in different circles, but not a BFF. At least not now, I did in college but our lives have taken different paths.
ETA: I should add that I can be pretty emotionally closed off.
I have 2 people that are friends and will talk to about 95% of things, but help me hide the body? No. I thought I had one, but a friend of hers from school moved back home and she dropped me like a hot potato. Come to find out they drink pretty heavily together and I don't. Since then I really don't want to get that close to anyone. I do have a lot of acquaintances from volunteering with kids stuff.
The only person that I could truly count on is DH. I'm alright with that, but if something happened to him I don't know what I would do.
I am flabbergasted at the idea of having 10-15 close friends. Seriously, how do you have time to keep up with that many people? I have three who live in close proximity to me and I'm lucky to see each of them once a month. We talk every day or every couple of days, but keeping up with just these three takes so much time!
My BFF isn't even here and I don't speak to her all that often. But if I needed her she would drop everything for me and I would do the same for her.
Likewise our dear friends who come out here once or twice a year from London are really only generally in contact over Facebook except for big news. I've been friends with these people (and other college friends) for close to 20 years and can be 100% myself with them. It's like not a day has gone by when we get together.
Some of the people I see on a very regular basis are also SAHM. We do a LOT together, both with the kids and without. On preschool days we hang out for tea or brunch, plus we have regular play dates with the kids, whole family gtgs and Mom's nights out. Tomorrow night 7 of us are going out for dinner.
It takes effort, but I'm an extrovert and happiest when I'm hanging out with friends. Plus I'd go nuts if my only company were a 2.5 year old!