I have always wished that I had a group of really close girlfriends that I had met in grade school or a close group from high school. A group who gets together every year for a vacation and has inside jokes from 10th grade. My home life wasn't conducive to having that.
I have a lot of acquaintances and friends in different circles, but not a BFF. At least not now, I did in college but our lives have taken different paths.
ETA: I should add that I can be pretty emotionally closed off.
I wish I had this, too.
I have a few teammates from college (less than 5) that I can carry on a conversation with about pretty much anything and as though no time has passed, but I wouldn't just call them out of the blue, and they wouldn't to me, either.
I had one very, very best friend. From middle school, through high school and college. We were connected at the hip, we were a part of each other's families, we went to different colleges but still talked all day, every day, etc. It was the best. And then she suddenly stopped talking to me, oh, 2.5 years ago now. Summer of 2011. Zero explanation, no leading up to it. It still makes me sad, because I miss our friendship.
About 20. And these are people I would help hide a body for.
ETA- I'm very lucky that a lot of my BFF's in high school wound up going to my college, then we picked up some more people and all wound up living in the same city where we picked up even more people. I think its pretty rare to have a group as large as we do.
I have always wished that I had a group of really close girlfriends that I had met in grade school or a close group from high school. A group who gets together every year for a vacation and has inside jokes from 10th grade. My home life wasn't conducive to having that.
I have a lot of acquaintances and friends in different circles, but not a BFF. At least not now, I did in college but our lives have taken different paths.
ETA: I should add that I can be pretty emotionally closed off.
I wish I had this, too.
I have a few teammates from college (less than 5) that I can carry on a conversation with about pretty much anything and as though no time has passed, but I wouldn't just call them out of the blue, and they wouldn't to me, either.
I had one very, very best friend. From middle school, through high school and college. We were connected at the hip, we were a part of each other's families, we went to different colleges but still talked all day, every day, etc. It was the best. And then she suddenly stopped talking to me, oh, 2.5 years ago now. Summer of 2011. Zero explanation, no leading up to it. It still makes me sad, because I miss our friendship.
This has happened to me and it is so, so hurtful. I'm sorry.
Post by Velvetshady on Mar 6, 2015 20:44:51 GMT -5
Not counting DH, 3ish. And the first I see 3-4 times a year and rarely chat/email/text. The second I talk to on phone 4-5 times a year for 3-6 hours per call and see once every couple of years. The third it can be a couple years we go without talking/seeing but it's like we are ways together when we do hang out.
I've only ever had one friend I'd talk too almost every day and see at least once a week. But he then starting dating a young insecure girl and she pretty much pushed me out completely after they married. And then she cheated on him.
I can, however, name ~20 friends I could call at 3am to help me move a body.
I have always wished that I had a group of really close girlfriends that I had met in grade school or a close group from high school. A group who gets together every year for a vacation and has inside jokes from 10th grade. My home life wasn't conducive to having that.
I have a lot of acquaintances and friends in different circles, but not a BFF. At least not now, I did in college but our lives have taken different paths.
ETA: I should add that I can be pretty emotionally closed off.
I wish I had this, too.
I have a few teammates from college (less than 5) that I can carry on a conversation with about pretty much anything and as though no time has passed, but I wouldn't just call them out of the blue, and they wouldn't to me, either.
I had one very, very best friend. From middle school, through high school and college. We were connected at the hip, we were a part of each other's families, we went to different colleges but still talked all day, every day, etc. It was the best. And then she suddenly stopped talking to me, oh, 2.5 years ago now. Summer of 2011. Zero explanation, no leading up to it. It still makes me sad, because I miss our friendship.
This happened to me too. Except she started lying to me just prior and then it was the end in summer of 2013. My grandma passed away 2 weeks after and she never even called me or messaged me. I was done with her from then.
Post by SpartanGirl on Mar 6, 2015 20:57:43 GMT -5
3. 2 of them live locally, and we hang out regularly. 1 lives far away, but I could totally call her at 3am randomly and she'd be on the next plane to help me bury a body.
Post by indianchica on Mar 6, 2015 21:17:29 GMT -5
1 BFF. Three more call anytime friends. The rest are friends for some real reason that could stop, like we work together, live next door, our kids are friends, etc.
The more I think about it, probably zero. The 1 I listed is my closest friend, but we're not like, BFF's.
I'm in the same boat, except that I can't even say that I have one close friend (besides my husband). I have tried to make friends, but nobody takes the bait.
I am flabbergasted at the idea of having 10-15 close friends. Seriously, how do you have time to keep up with that many people? I have three who live in close proximity to me and I'm lucky to see each of them once a month. We talk every day or every couple of days, but keeping up with just these three takes so much time!
We do a monthly "book club", there's 12 of us in the group. And an annual girls weekend every August, this is our 10th year. Also I'm a sahm so I spend a lot of time with friends during the day and at the gym.
For me it's not about keeping up. It's the people I don't NEED to keep up with. They are just always there. So 3 are recent mom friends that I see regularly, I met them when our second kids were babies. One is my cousin. One is like a cousin, have known her all my life. 1 is from when we started working at a big audit firm together 15 years ago. And two are my friends I did my PhD with, they are profs at a different university/different city, but we feel like three sisters even though we don't talk that often.
I wish my close friends were friends with each other. I don't have a big group of girlfriends. My close friends are one on one friends.
I'm so, so glad that 2 of my bffs are also friends with each other. We are the coolest 3 person gang, ever. But it's so fucking weird that the two of them have only met my bff of 20+ years like 2 times, and that was only in the last few months. And when they met, I was freaking out because they have almost nothing in common and was like, "OMG, what if they HATE each other?"
I have a handful of friends who I don't get to see IRL all that often, but when we do GTG it always feels like we were just together yesterday. I'd say that's a group of maybe 7-10ish friends?
Also, is it weird to count one's adult daughter as a close friend? Because the teen and i confide in each other constantly about almost everything.