Intro/TTC Journey

[mrsbunny]

Hi all! New here and thought I’d do a little intro about my TTC journey (it’s been a crazy one!) DH and I are both 25 and starting on cycle 11 of TTC after a loss. DH has low testosterone which was diagnosed about 4-5 years ago. At his initial appt at an endocrinologist about 3 years ago, he was told that he might never be able to have kids. 6 months later, sperm counts showed that he should be fine. We started TTC about a year later and got pregnant in Feb 2014 after only a month of trying. We were shocked.
(Endocrinologist led us to believe it'd be really difficult.)


We lost the baby at 8wks2days after a positive u/s which showed a good heartbeat just four days prior. Since I was hardly bleeding, I decided to get a D&C. As soon as I had my first period following the surgery, we started TTC. It was frustrating when it wasn’t happening as quickly as last time so we scheduled an appt with DH’s endocrinologist. She said she would put him on some medication to help sperm count and would call us on Monday. We both called her office for A MONTH AND A HALF before I had someone call me at 4:59pm to leave a message that it wasn’t covered by our insurance.



We left that doctor (for more than just that reason) and started seeing a fertility specialist last month. They did another sperm count which looked good. HOWEVER, that endocrinologist had DH on testosterone medication which had taken his sperm count down to ZERO. And she never told us. What’s more is that it takes several months to get out of your system so even though he stopped in June, the doc said his counts probably weren’t back up until November. So over half the time we were trying meant nothing.



Sorry about the long post. Just had to vent and get out my story, which I’m sure has similarities to you other ladies. Two weeks from Saturday will be the one year anniversary of finding out that we lost the baby. It’s been a rough year, so I’m hoping to find some support from other ladies dealing with TTC!

[HoneySpider]

Hi & welcome! I'm so sorry for your loss There are unfortunately a lot of ladies here who are struggling in one way or another so you're not alone.

[raangoli]

Hello and welcome. I am sorry for your loss. And very frustrated to hear about your husband's doctor. Here's hoping that the counts go up sooner than November and that your stay here is short.

[MrsMB]

So sorry for your loss and frustrations. Welcome. I hope your stay is short and you are successful!

Sent from so-called "smart" phone. Please forgive any errors!

[mrsbunny]

Thanks, ladies. I should clarify, counts were probably up this past November. His sperm test was done in January and that looked good. So we should be "good to go," but no luck yet. Really hoping this year will be our year!

[callmehales]

good luck to you! welcome!

[awick14]

I hope your stay here is short and that your Hs count stay where they are now.

And I am so sorry for your loss, as others have said unfortunately there are a few of us here that have had losses.

[mrsbunny]

Thank you. And yes, I figured there would be quite a few women here who had losses. It's unfortunately so common. I don't know about you, but I was amazed at the amount of people who came out of the woodwork to tell me about their losses, some of which happened 30+ years ago. It's like that secret club that no woman wants to be a part of.

[ginkgoleaf]

Welcome and I'm sorry for your loss. I hope that him stopping the medication helps you guys to get a BFP soon.

[mrsbunny]

Mar 10, 2015 14:26:21 GMT -5 ginkgoleaf said:

Welcome and I'm sorry for your loss. I hope that him stopping the medication helps you guys to get a BFP soon.

Thanks, me too. The only problem is that now he's not on any medication to help with his low T count which means he's always tired, more depressed, and not always able to perform. He as likened it at times to have ED. This, of course, does not help with TTC. I've tried to take the pressure off by not mentioning ovulation or anything, so hopefully that helps.

[awick14]

mrsbunny- it's amazing how many people admit to their losses when you've had yours.

[oneslybookworm]

Welcome to the board, and I hope your stay here is short. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[luv2rn4fun]

I'm so sorry for your loss. We had two before having our son this past December. The second anniversary of our first loss is tomorrow and it still hurts even though we have been tremendously blessed with C. Lots of ((hugs)) and prayers that you get your rainbow BFP soon!

Also, my DH has performance issues as well and it's really hard when TTC. Sorry to hear you are having to deal with that as well. Ironically, DH "performed" better on the days he knew that mattered...but I know that's not typical and usually only makes things worse. This board is awesome...lean on them when you need support or need to vent.

[tiptoetulips]

I'm sorry for your loss welcome to the board

[mac08]

Hi! Welcome and good luck!  I am sorry for your previous loss.

[Deleted]

Hi! I am sorry for your loss.

[konapoppy]

Sorry about all the trouble with doctors. That is frustrating.
I had a loss about the same time as you, and it is so difficult. Good luck!