You need to do what's best for your birth and hopefully the professional repercussions won't be big. I would hope that A is referring to you because you provide good care and support, not because you're an old client. Who knows - maybe B will be a great connection for referrals as well?
Post by karinothing on Mar 12, 2015 15:15:30 GMT -5
How many births has B attended? I am hung up on her experience level (without a prior medical background) but I assume her partner midwives have more experience? I am a big proponent of home birth, but also of CNMs so a non-CNM makes me nervous. Not sure you have a CNM option though.
You need to do what's best for your birth and hopefully the professional repercussions won't be big. I would hope that A is referring to you because you provide good care and support, not because you're an old client. Who knows - maybe B will be a great connection for referrals as well?
Exactly this. You and your baby's health is more important than referrals. Look for other avenues for new clients if needed.
You need to do what's best for your birth and hopefully the professional repercussions won't be big. I would hope that A is referring to you because you provide good care and support, not because you're an old client. Who knows - maybe B will be a great connection for referrals as well?
You're right. B is already excited to throw referrals my way. She specifically said that no matter who I choose for my midwife she still wants a professional relationship with me.
Me and my baby need to come first. You're absolutely right.
How many births has B attended? I am hung up on her experience level (without a prior medical background) but I assume her partner midwives have more experience? I am a big proponent of home birth, but also of CNMs so a non-CNM makes me nervous. Not sure you have a CNM option though.
She has had a full caseload (which for a midwife is 4-6 births/month) since she opened her practice, and she attended births as a student and doula for four years before that. So ~200 as a doula/student MW and ~150 as a CPM.
Post by Queen Mamadala on Mar 12, 2015 15:30:50 GMT -5
Who do you feel most comfortable with, in terms of vibe/personality and experience? My CPM with #3 had about three years of experience as a CPM at the time, and I fucking loved her (we're still close). She was great, and I trusted her care and we had a great vibe. My midwife with #4 had 20 years of experience as a CPM, and is a great midwife, too. She had some pretty busy months leading up to Dec. She used to take on four clients a month, and then dropped to three when her partner moved. Just recently I saw that she attended three births within four days. :faint:
Option A can be looked at as a fluke, and as long as she knows what's expected of her/laid out in the contract, then I could see going with that option. I think the 24 hour postpartum visit is what I'd stress or reiterate with her, but I'm sure she's aware of your concerns now.
My midwife with my last baby had three clients, me included, due around the same time, and we weren't even sure she'd make it in time. She was surprisingly pretty busy during the end of Nov.
If the two are you options and you've already addressed your concerns with midwife A then I'd go with whichever one you're most comfortable with.
Post by mellimel19 on Mar 12, 2015 15:38:29 GMT -5
Given your update, knowing that A hasn't changed her practice at all after what happened, I wouldn't go with her again. As for how to break it to her, I'd be polite but straightforward. After your last experience, you need assurance that she's taken measures to ensure she has backup in such situations, and she hasn't done that, so you're going with someone who has more backup options.
Post by ilikedonuts on Mar 12, 2015 16:31:55 GMT -5
Every one has to start somewhere right? I wouldn't let the few years of experience turn me away from B who I liked and has gotten good reviews (I'm assuming you've asked around about her).