Confession: I saw Sam Heughan (Jamie on Outlander) last night at an event and I prefer him in a kilt. He was wearing a suit with his hair in a stupid bun. I did enjoy watching the midseason premiere though.
Was this Paley? Did they say anything cool/interesting? I agree that SH is more attractive scruffy and in a kilt.
Re: food. I'm honestly amazed when people post that they only eat out a couple times a month. I know it's MM, and that many are more talented cooks than me, but cooking at home and cleaning up after all those meals that much just blows my mind.
anna7602 -- did your husband leave the law firm world??? what's next for him? (in as vague terms as you'd like?)
Nope. He's going to another firm. So these are our three weeks of glorious lounging about in order to create the bond/memories to sustain us for the next however many years of intense hours.
I was going to say...she gave us one of the best confessions of all times! Guess there will be no resting on one's laurels around this joint .
Well yeah, but it's one shitshow (not the evening itself so much as the whole situation that ended up happening here) vs. 100 "I'm bored at work on a Tuesday, entertain me please" posts
v so why are you doing nothing for your H's birthday? I assume he doesn't really care, which means it's not SUPER flameful to me (although a little because dude, birthdays!), but I appreciate your effort in posting, haha.
I have been truly trying to come up with something, so here's my best shot: I have definitely had the thought that if I were single, I could show off my Crossfit-byproduct body more. Partially it's because I'm not going to wear something super revealing that I know is going to draw male attention, and partially it's because I just feel silly wearing something that is totally not my normal style in front of my husband who obviously knows how I usually dress. So I am apparently a narcissist with both conservative ideas about appropriate clothing and insecurity about trying new things.
anna7602 -- did your husband leave the law firm world??? what's next for him? (in as vague terms as you'd like?)
Nope. He's going to another firm. So these are our three weeks of glorious lounging about in order to create the bond/memories to sustain us for the next however many years of intense hours.
Well, that's too bad but congrats either way and enjoy the company for now!!
emilyinchile, isn't it still beach weather down there? Bring out the bikini.
It is! But we almost never go to the beach and none of my close friends have a pool, boo. However, second flameful, I definitely took my shirt off at a poolside bbq the other day despite arriving later, at a time when the sun was basically gone, just to show off.
Post by purpleminion on Mar 13, 2015 13:41:22 GMT -5
Flameful confession (although I'm sure I'm not the only one): Sometimes when people post their budgets it makes me feel better about my life. And my budget isn't even that great.
v so why are you doing nothing for your H's birthday? I assume he doesn't really care, which means it's not SUPER flameful to me (although a little because dude, birthdays!), but I appreciate your effort in posting, haha.
Wasn't home for his actual birthday, and couldn't think of anything good to send/leave behind for him. On my way to the airport I was like "FUCK! I should have gotten a Carvel cake from the grocery store downstairs to leave in the freezer." But I was already out the door. (Note: I could also go now, but I got home only a half an hour ago and really would prefer a nap. Maybe I'll go after a nap? Confession -- I will not be working from home this afternoon?)
We don't always do gifts, and I couldn't think of anything good to get him so I just didn't (I can't remember the last time he gave me a gift for birthday or Christmas because I always tell him not to bother, so this is okay in our relationship).
I did try the "well, where are we going to go the weekend of your birthday?" thing over the past few weeks to set up a good dinner or something but he wasn't biting.
Also, am I allowed to be kind of ^o) at his parents for not coming in to take him out for dinner last night, even though I was also bad about his birthday? They're retired so they have the time, they knew he was home alone, and they typically do come into the city frequently for Broadway and such -- but they said no when he asked them to come because "It is too cold at this time of year to stand on a platform to wait for a train." Never mind the enclosed waiting areas.
Also, am I allowed to be kind of at his parents for not coming in to take him out for dinner last night, even though I was also bad about his birthday? They're retired so they have the time, they knew he was home alone, and they typically do come into the city frequently for Broadway and such -- but they said no when he asked them to come because "It is too cold at this time of year to stand on a platform to wait for a train." Never mind the enclosed waiting areas.
Yes. WTF. That's shitty of them. I hope his feelings weren't hurt.
I feel like this might be flammable...my husband said he messed up a very important job interview today and I want to rip him to shreds over it because I know he did zero prep work. I'm trying to be supportive and not say much about it, but in my head I'm so pissed at him. I kept trying to get him to prep for it and he was too lazy.
My DH did the exact same thing. I was SO pissed, but I didn't lose my shit on him. I just hoped that he learned from it.
Confession 1: I'm in dental discomfort and I can't figure out what is wrong. Every time I brush and floss my gums bleed in one part of my mouth. It sucks. I brush twice a day, floss once a day, and use mouthwash. I'm debating if my meds might have something to do with it. I feel like a disgusting idiot who can't brush her teeth right.
Confession 2: I passed on a second date with a guy that I clicked with intellectually and personality wise because I couldn't get over him being obese and I couldn't imagine having sex with him. I feel like an ass since I could lose a few pounds but this was a different level where walking tried him out. I have to at least think I could enjoy kissing, sex, etc in a romantic relationship. I don't think he could have managed sex with his size which was significantly bigger than the pictures. Then he sent a text about how he doesn't cook and that is what he has me for and I felt completely justified. #bitchofthecentury
Confession 3: I am being unMM and binge spending this week. Budget? What budget? I just keep throwing money at things. I "need" new clothes for this business trip, I "need" a night out, I "need" to restock the wine rack. I don't really need any of it. I'm therefore not happy with my bank account balance.
I feel like this might be flammable...my husband said he messed up a very important job interview today and I want to rip him to shreds over it because I know he did zero prep work. I'm trying to be supportive and not say much about it, but in my head I'm so pissed at him. I kept trying to get him to prep for it and he was too lazy.
Not flammable to me, because I would be breaking shit right now.
I hope he did better than he thinks. Or that everyone else did worse.
::sits next to songforyou::
Sometimes if I feel inclined to harp on my H, I remember that despite not having a job, he has a lot on his plate right now. But his #1 priority is finding a new job. So there are no excuses for not preparing for a job interview.
Confession: I saw Sam Heughan (Jamie on Outlander) last night at an event and I prefer him in a kilt. He was wearing a suit with his hair in a stupid bun. I did enjoy watching the midseason premiere though.
Was this Paley? Did they say anything cool/interesting? I agree that SH is more attractive scruffy and in a kilt.
Re: food. I'm honestly amazed when people post that they only eat out a couple times a month. I know it's MM, and that many are more talented cooks than me, but cooking at home and cleaning up after all those meals that much just blows my mind.
I haven't read the books, so in discussing the upcoming episodes Diana sort of let out some semi-spoilers - some of which you can see if you read this
I think the most interesting question from the audience was by a woman who asked if having a woman writer and woman director for the wedding episode was a conscious choice by the showrunner. He said it was and was surprised at how the episode got so many comments about it being an authentic depiction of female sexuality, how true it was, and how it was sex told from the female perspective. He then quipped that all society needs for true and real sex scenes is to tell them from a women's perspective, or something like that.
Other people's questions were pretty stupid.
And then this one 50+ woman barreled through this young usher who was holding up her arms with a "I don't care - I'm not stopping" to try and run down the stairs to get autographs/pictures with the stars. It was pretty horrible.
I feel like this might be flammable...my husband said he messed up a very important job interview today and I want to rip him to shreds over it because I know he did zero prep work. I'm trying to be supportive and not say much about it, but in my head I'm so pissed at him. I kept trying to get him to prep for it and he was too lazy.
Not flammable to me, because I would be breaking shit right now.
I hope he did better than he thinks. Or that everyone else did worse.
Yeah, this might be a case of him thinking he did bad & actually didn't, because he's done that before too.
I really haven't said anything to him about it but I think he can tell I'm really disappointed. Mentally, I'm still fuming.
I have been truly trying to come up with something, so here's my best shot: I have definitely had the thought that if I were single, I could show off my Crossfit-byproduct body more. Partially it's because I'm not going to wear something super revealing that I know is going to draw male attention, and partially it's because I just feel silly wearing something that is totally not my normal style in front of my husband who obviously knows how I usually dress. So I am apparently a narcissist with both conservative ideas about appropriate clothing and insecurity about trying new things.
I like men's clothing styles, not skintight women's clothes, but my body is also looking decent lately, so I show it off when we visit Las Vegas by wearing a slutty dress. I assume people thought I was a cheap whore once when we had dinner at Brio south of the strip because I was dressed up way more than my husband and I could tell people were looking at me. I also wonder if I could get a guy if I was single because while my body is thin, I'm not as face-pretty. I think I would do more muscle toning if I was single, but I have a husband and he's still attracted to me so I choose to be lazy instead.
I suggest you go out and try on some slutty dresses, even take some pictures if you want. You don't have to buy anything.
Confession: I go stir crazy when I don't have at least one upcoming flight reservation (business or pleasure).
Shocking: I did not vacuum my house from November to February. I don't have visitors nor kids so I procrastinate.
I am seriously burnt out from my job. I haven't had a real break since early December. I have a short fuse and a lack of patience. I want to be left alone and not needed. It is exhausting taking care of other people.
Except I am a SAHM and I feel bad complaining about my own children. I keep fantasizing about a life without kids, or maybe my old life pre-kids.
Flameworthy: I think it's weird when couples with kids call each other Mommy and Daddy. Does everyone do this? "Daddy, can you get the blanket?"
I forgot to say, my friend and her H do that. I HATE IT. It's like...gross to me lol.
I hated it too and was shocked when my husband called me "Mommy" after DS was born. Like, he's a huge fun sucker and despises anything cutesy so I was really amazed. And then we read something in a book that said it helps the baby learn your name/relationship and encouraged you to call yourself mommy/daddy and since then we both do it constantly. Every time I take a step back and look at us as parents I have a hard time recognizing us. It's surreal.
I hated it too and was shocked when my husband called me "Mommy" after DS was born. Like, he's a huge fun sucker and despises anything cutesy so I was really amazed. And then we read something in a book that said it helps the baby learn your name/relationship and encouraged you to call yourself mommy/daddy and since then we both do it constantly. Every time I take a step back and look at us as parents I have a hard time recognizing us. It's surreal.
Ugh, Poppy lol. I do think there is a difference between saying to a child, "Ask Daddy to bring the blanket for you and Mommy," and "Daddy, please bring us the blanket." I also thinking it's really important for spouses not to just start viewing themselves only through the lens of parent, however. Like kids have been catching on for years who their parents are without the parents calling each other Mommy and Daddy. If it takes them an extra month to catch on so that my husband doesn't call me Mommy, I can live with that. Besides that, I'm not calling anyone but my own daddy daddy! As a possibly interesting but gross aside, I've also used that exact phrasing when I hear about women who use the word daddy during sex .
I know! I can't believe we are these people! I mean, we are not the people who call eachother mommy/daddy during sex, lol. But still. It's bizarre.
We are definitely working on the balance thing and how to maintain our identities outside of being parents.
I don't understand that hate on people who rehome their dogs. They recognize that they can't give them what they need / deserve so they want them to be happy and loved by someone who can?
Why does this make someone a terrible person?!
I see it on here a lot and the recent thread reminding me that I don't get the hate. It's not like they are leaving the animal on the side of the road.
I try to post salacious not-boring things in these threads but it never gets a bigger conversation going since I'm still a newb and no one "knows" me. Kinda makes me roll my eyes when people say the lurkers need to come out but then no one notices the lurker posts!
I will say I feel included in the MM posts so thanks for that!
Your avatar always makes me do a double-take because MH had that photo as his phone's lock screen/home screen/whatever-the-hell-it's-called for a year or so.
I'm always like, "Mr. MB? WTF are you doing here???"
That's really funny!! That would freak me out! I have it on my home screen, too. Every once in a while clients will see the home screen and make a comment and I'm like "crap! what if they lurk on MM and they'll figure out who I am?" But whatever, the odds of that are low and I truly don't say much here that would be harmful in real life. DH could figure out who I am super quick, too.
Here's a confession--I feel like I am a big reason DH fell apart during the great shitshow of 2013--not enough tough love when he needed it the most. It's been a long road back, and we're still on it.
Thanks!
Don't be hard on yourself. DH and I had a shitshow year of 2013/2014 and I also waiver between wondering if I did too much tough love and/or too much pushover. Honestly I feel like I've learned that it's not my job as a spouse to fix my partner. If our handful of come-to-jesus talks hadn't made progress happen I would have been meeting with a therapist, either together, or alone, or both. And not because he or I or we were broken, but because we were obviously missing some necessary tools and communication strategies.
Is it flameful that when I saw the announcement, I was afraid that the next 100+ messages were just people saying congrats, and not any interesting discussion?
I feel like this might be flammable...my husband said he messed up a very important job interview today and I want to rip him to shreds over it because I know he did zero prep work. I'm trying to be supportive and not say much about it, but in my head I'm so pissed at him. I kept trying to get him to prep for it and he was too lazy.
I get like that sometimes. With my DH the less I say the better at that point. He knows I was right, and if I do the "told ya" and rub salt in the wound, it gives him more reason to be mad at ME instead of mad at himself. Frankly I'd rather he be mad at himself! So I try to just be normal or even supportive!
Flameful confession (although I'm sure I'm not the only one): Sometimes when people post their budgets it makes me feel better about my life. And my budget isn't even that great.
I'm going to need more information on why this is.
XH and I fell apart in 2009. Was sober but started calling me fat, etc. No sex. In early 2010 found out he was cheating and using drugs. Left him. Since then I haven't dated or anything. It's just me and the kids. I really have no friends and my sister and brother and I aren't close. Not interested in dating. And since I really can't get out of the house, it's been rough. But I realized a few days with the anxiety I've been having I could really used my berries razzed. (to quote grey's last night.)
Flameful confession (although I'm sure I'm not the only one): Sometimes when people post their budgets it makes me feel better about my life. And my budget isn't even that great.
How's the view up there on your high horse?
I feel like this is pretty uncool.
Is this the part where we ask people to post flameworthies and then tell people they're too flame worthy?