My oldest is 5.5 and my youngest is 2.5. My oldest will definitely try to comfort his brother when I'm not around. I love to watch them on our nanny cam because he is so protective when my husband or I aren't around.
DD is 5 and it's a crapshoot what she'll do. If she's responsible for the crying then she will apologize profusely. If not, sometimes she will bring him toys and others will yell at him for being so loud.
Baby is 10 months 2nd youngest DD is 2.5 she would ignore her or rub her head and tell her "it's awhite Wory, you want Mama?" Sometimes she shares the pacifier that she embarrassingly still uses. And if I am close by she always tells me "Wory (Rory) wants yo booby MAMA!!". DD1 is 5 and would pick her up and try to find me. DS is 7, he would ignore her as long as he could, look for me, ignore again, pick her up and bounce her on his tiny lap all while ignoring her and trying to resume whatever he was previously doing.
Thanks ladies. I have a 5 year old dd and a 1 year old ds. My 5 year old is completely obvilious to the baby. We did cry it out a few months back and she did not even bat an eye at why he was crying and no one was picking him up. He could be crying on the floor, screaming even but she continues doing what she is doing. Where did we fail? Why is she not empathetic?
I had a similar age difference to my little brother and understood that it was my parents' job to care for him, not mine. I was a child. I trusted they could and would take care of him. I didn't change his diapers or feed him, they did so I left it up to them. I wouldn't be worried.