Are there any careers that you would rule someone out over?

[bl]

I can see why you would be hesitant, I think for me it would depend on why he does the weight loss stuff, is it a true desire to help people or is it just to capitalize on the business aspect.

I typically rule out police officers or military. I think its amazing that they choose that line of work, but I know with my anxiety if it were to turn into anything long term with real feelings it would not be healthy for me, so I try to avoid it up-front.

[Deleted]

Sometimes I think it'd be nice to date a doctor because they truly understand what we go through as its a pretty unique and stressful process. But I don't think I want to be with someone who has the same unpredictable schedule, especially during residency.

But other than that, I don't think I'd rule anything out career specific. It's more about their lifestyle/schedule and being understanding of my lifestyle/schedule.

[jojoandleo]

If I liked someone, I would probably go for it no matter what the (legal) career. Except porn star. I couldn't date someone paid to have sex with other people.

I didn't actively seek out people in the auto industry (sales or finance) because I knew a lot of those guys and a good 85% of them cheated on their wives/girlfriends. I also didn't seek out police officers because my sister's first husband was one and he was...bad. Really really really bad.

However, I know that there are good and bad people in EVERY career, so while I didn't actively try to date someone with a specific career, I didn't write off someone I liked based SOLELY on their career.

[bl]

Mar 24, 2015 9:05:17 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

If I liked someone, I would probably go for it no matter what the (legal) career. Except porn star. I couldn't date someone paid to have sex with other people.

Yeah that is a definite no go.

[Deleted]

Online where I can pick and chose? Yes. I won't date anyone who works in the restaurant industry. My dad does that and it was a notorious place for cheating. Anecdotes! But it's just not something I want to worry about. Also I prefer someone on my own schedule. I also won't date military or police officers (the overall lifestyle just isn't for me).
Now if I meet them in real life and I'm interested? None of the above would be deal breakers.

[Deleted]

There are a lot of guys around here that work offshore, and I try to stay away from that... they are gone for like a month at a time. Just generally anyone where the hours conflict a lot with mine. It's more about the hours, etc than what they actually do.

[glitzyglow]

I don't have a desire to date active military, police officers, musicians, or pilots.

[Eureka1984]

I can see why you would be hesitant. For me personally, I would say yes I am picky about the men and their careers. I think if they bounced from place to place then I might not want to date them and also I agree with the military. While I think they are courageous in their chosen profession, I couldn't date them.

[calle28]

Same here, I don't think I could date a military man. Porn star because that's gross. I don't care how often they get tested.

[calle28]

What exactly is a weight loss doctor?

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

I can't think of anything I would rule out. Politician maybe. Republican strategist? Yeah, we aren't a match. I am more like to message or respond to certain careers though. I like people in the arts, public service, attorneys, and anyone in IT. I tend to really get geek boners.

[pantsoffdanceoff]

Mar 24, 2015 10:27:16 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I don't have a desire to date active military, police officers, musicians, or pilots.

I'm just going to ditto this!

[jojoandleo]

Mar 24, 2015 10:44:44 GMT -5 lyssbobiss, Command, B613 said:

I can't think of anything I would rule out. Politician maybe. Republican strategist? Yeah, we aren't a match. I am more like to message or respond to certain careers though. I like people in the arts, public service, attorneys, and anyone in IT. I tend to really get geek boners.

Oh yeah. I couldn't date someone who worked for Focus on the Family or some shit like that. Or an Oklahoma politician. Because they are all Republican. Even the "Democrats."  (There is an exempt few, but they are mainly female anyway.)

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Mar 24, 2015 10:27:16 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I don't have a desire to date active military, police officers, musicians, or pilots.

Just curious, why not musicians? I'm dating a professional musician and audio engineer right now and I haven't seen many drawbacks to it. He does go on tour to different countries throughout the year, but I don't really mind jobs that have a travel component since it's just 1-3 weeks at a time mostly. What other drawbacks am I missing?

[DirtySouth]

I wouldn't date anyone with a dangerous job or in more of a "fun" profession. The latter is due to my past, as my ex being a sports writer and us disagreeing on what is a job and what is a hobby was a HUGE issue. I know myself well enough now to know that if I'm paying almost all of the bills while my partner gets to make pottery all day (or whatever), I'll end up getting resentful. And it's not that there is anything wrong with these jobs, but I just need someone with a more traditional career. It's also not about the amount of money. If someone works as a teacher or social worker (or even musician with a structured schedule), I'm totally fine with that.

I'll also add porn star to my list. Or even the camera man filming the porn. That's a bit outside of my comfort zone. lol. I probably also wouldn't date a personal trainer (although, I did once when younger) or plastic surgeon.

[cuddlyevil]

If I like the guy, his career won't bother me much (unless he's doing something illegal). That said, I probably wouldn't date a trucker again.

[glitzyglow]

Mar 24, 2015 10:58:58 GMT -5 @wandering said:

Mar 24, 2015 10:27:16 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I don't have a desire to date active military, police officers, musicians, or pilots.

Just curious, why not musicians? I'm dating a professional musician and audio engineer right now and I haven't seen many drawbacks to it. He does go on tour to different countries throughout the year, but I don't really mind jobs that have a travel component since it's just 1-3 weeks at a time mostly. What other drawbacks am I missing?

Travel, weekend nights spent doing gigs, climate of performing, and huge variance in pay depending on ups and downs of industry. I'm sure the fact that I live in a city that is completely over-saturated by musicians plays into my reluctance. Most of my retail coworkers were also musicians (and some had national recognition at some point in their careers) and I've met quite a few people who are married to musicians here and I just don't think being with someone with that type of career would work for me.

[jojoandleo]

Mar 24, 2015 10:58:58 GMT -5 @wandering said:

Mar 24, 2015 10:27:16 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I don't have a desire to date active military, police officers, musicians, or pilots.

Just curious, why not musicians? I'm dating a professional musician and audio engineer right now and I haven't seen many drawbacks to it. He does go on tour to different countries throughout the year, but I don't really mind jobs that have a travel component since it's just 1-3 weeks at a time mostly. What other drawbacks am I missing?

Everyone is different. Just because she does not want to date a musician doesn't mean all musicians are bad.

I think I wouldn't like the fans/groupies stuff. Musicians seem to get hit on a lot. This doesn't mean they respond to it, but it can be annoying. I don't like sitting watching women hit on my SO. Some people are okay with it.

I wouldn't like the touring. I wouldn't like the late hours (before making it, they often play the bar scene and are there until 3:00 am).

[Queen Mamadala]

I don't remember actively excluding any particular profession. Most of the men I met or dated fell into a few professions: teaching/academia, software programming, game developing, or something within the IT field.

A few were military or former military during my time in So Cal (they tend to saturate the dating scene). Honestly, though, toward the end I wasn't into servicemembers or law enforcement. The vast majority were NOT my type. There were few times I'd come across more progressive types, but this was a rarity in the area I lived. My first husband was AD military for 12 years. We were together for 10 of those years, and I didn't mind the lifestyle at all, and had adapted to it early on. Though we were compatible, I came to discover that I was just not compatible with most. Not in the least.

So, yeah, after realizing military men made up a good chunk of the dating pool in San Diego I started becoming more selective with my searches.

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Mar 24, 2015 11:05:21 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Mar 24, 2015 10:58:58 GMT -5 @wandering said:

Just curious, why not musicians? I'm dating a professional musician and audio engineer right now and I haven't seen many drawbacks to it. He does go on tour to different countries throughout the year, but I don't really mind jobs that have a travel component since it's just 1-3 weeks at a time mostly. What other drawbacks am I missing?

Everyone is different. Just because she does not want to date a musician doesn't mean all musicians are bad.

I think I wouldn't like the fans/groupies stuff. Musicians seem to get hit on a lot. This doesn't mean they respond to it, but it can be annoying. I don't like sitting watching women hit on my SO. Some people are okay with it.

I wouldn't like the touring. I wouldn't like the late hours (before making it, they often play the bar scene and are there until 3:00 am).

Oh I didn't think she thought they were bad, just asking for other drawbacks since we have only been dating a few months. I could be missing a huge drawback.

I didn't even think about groupies! Good call. I guess that probably depends on the type of music? I can't imagine where he tours has a lot of groupies but I'll have to ask him, ha. He doesn't play for the orchestra, but I wonder if the orchestra has groupies

I guess since he's a little older and well known/established in his field it's a little different than the 20 year old musician trying to make it.

But yeah the travel definitely isn't for everyone. I just feel like I can't be too picky and complain about anyone's schedule since mine is shitty as well lol.

[Deleted]

I specifically chose a career that is 9-5, Monday-Friday (or similar hours) so I'd be really hesitant to partner with someone who had a drastically different type of career - tons of travel, weekend hours, late nights, etc. I really like spending my evenings/weekends with my partner. I mean occasional travel, extra shifts, doing fun stuff apart? Absolutely. But someone who is going to be gone during the majority of hours I'm home wouldn't be a good fit.

So that's actually a lot of careers, unfortunately! And never say never. But I'd be more hesitant to date someone who was going to keep drastically different hours than me on a long term basis.

[jojoandleo]

Mar 24, 2015 11:17:47 GMT -5 @wandering said:

Mar 24, 2015 11:05:21 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Everyone is different. Just because she does not want to date a musician doesn't mean all musicians are bad.

I think I wouldn't like the fans/groupies stuff. Musicians seem to get hit on a lot. This doesn't mean they respond to it, but it can be annoying. I don't like sitting watching women hit on my SO. Some people are okay with it.

I wouldn't like the touring. I wouldn't like the late hours (before making it, they often play the bar scene and are there until 3:00 am).

Oh I didn't think she thought they were bad, just asking for other drawbacks since we have only been dating a few months. I could be missing a huge drawback.

I didn't even think about groupies! Good call. I guess that probably depends on the type of music? I can't imagine where he tours has a lot of groupies but I'll have to ask him, ha. He doesn't play for the orchestra, but I wonder if the orchestra has groupies

I guess since he's a little older and well known/established in his field it's a little different than the 20 year old musician trying to make it.

But yeah the travel definitely isn't for everyone. I just feel like I can't be too picky and complain about anyone's schedule since mine is shitty as well lol.

Most of the musicians I come across are the "I'm in a band" guys, not the "I play in the orchestra for the ballet" guys.  I would probably date a musician who played in an orchestra.  Not one who played in a BAND.  One of my good friends is dating a guy in a band and I get so annoyed for her when girls are like trying to get his attention and whisper in his ear song requests.  He blows them off and it doesn't annoy her, so it works for them.  I would be sitting there, seething. 

[pinkdutchtulips]

I'm leary of guys who are self employed. if they're really successful at what they do and there's a steady stream of work and they've prepped for the inevitable SLOW DOWN that sometimes happens and have the marketing ability to promote themselves right ... yes. most don't and that I'm not willing to go through - again (my dad is an independent contractor who's been steadily employed the last 40 years, xh was an independent contractor and once his gig dried up, there was NO backup plan *well I was the back up plan but that's another story*)

I don't ever want to be in the position again where I am the SOLE breadwinner - it was hell on me, xh and our relationship.

[Wanderista]

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[chchchia]

Someone who works in a fish market, because I just don't think you ever get that smell off you. Ever.

[lookingup]

I do not date men in the military, maybe unless the guy was about to get out. I don't find anything wrong with these men in particular, but at this point in my life I don't want to make life decisions based on someone else's career.



I was married to a military man, btw.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Mar 24, 2015 12:14:34 GMT -5 chchchia said:

Someone who works in a fish market, because I just don't think you ever get that smell off you. Ever.

I DID work in a fish market, in high school. I could NEVER get the smell off my clothes and the smell was so bad that my mom taught me how to use the washer/dryer so I could come home, throw my clothes in there, start the machine and she wouldn't have to get NEAR them !

while the smell did come off of me, it NEVER came out of my work clothes.  when I stopped working there, I threw 'those' clothes away lol

[chchchia]

Mar 24, 2015 12:30:56 GMT -5 pinkdutchtulips said:

Mar 24, 2015 12:14:34 GMT -5 chchchia said:

Someone who works in a fish market, because I just don't think you ever get that smell off you. Ever.

I DID work in a fish market, in high school. I could NEVER get the smell off my clothes and the smell was so bad that my mom taught me how to use the washer/dryer so I could come home, throw my clothes in there, start the machine and she wouldn't have to get NEAR them !

while the smell did come off of me, it NEVER came out of my work clothes.  when I stopped working there, I threw 'those' clothes away lol

See I knew it without knowing it.  I lived on the bay for awhile and when the wind blew down from the fish houses...eewwwwwwwwww.

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Mar 24, 2015 11:29:11 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Mar 24, 2015 11:17:47 GMT -5 @wandering said:

Oh I didn't think she thought they were bad, just asking for other drawbacks since we have only been dating a few months. I could be missing a huge drawback.

I didn't even think about groupies! Good call. I guess that probably depends on the type of music? I can't imagine where he tours has a lot of groupies but I'll have to ask him, ha. He doesn't play for the orchestra, but I wonder if the orchestra has groupies

I guess since he's a little older and well known/established in his field it's a little different than the 20 year old musician trying to make it.

But yeah the travel definitely isn't for everyone. I just feel like I can't be too picky and complain about anyone's schedule since mine is shitty as well lol.

Most of the musicians I come across are the "I'm in a band" guys, not the "I play in the orchestra for the ballet" guys.  I would probably date a musician who played in an orchestra.  Not one who played in a BAND.  One of my good friends is dating a guy in a band and I get so annoyed for her when girls are like trying to get his attention and whisper in his ear song requests.  He blows them off and it doesn't annoy her, so it works for them.  I would be sitting there, seething. 

Ahh ok got it, that makes sense about the band thing! I don't have experience with that, thankfully lol.

[1confused1]

To go out on a date with? No. I'm willing to meet pretty much anyone.

To consider a relationship with? Yes. I have decided, as I'm getting older, that I need to be with someone who is in the same or similar financial state as I am (has a job/career, makes money, is financially stable).