s/o SILs, what's your relationship like with yours?

[HoneySpider]

jjwritergirl's post made me think...if you have a SIL (or multiple SILs) what is your relationship with them like?

[estrellita]

I don't have any SILs and I hope BIL's GF doesn't become one. I've posted here and there about her. H and I have said we wouldn't go to the wedding if they get married. I was pissed she came to the hospital when E was born. She stayed in the waiting room, but still. BIL can't go anywhere without her, one or more of her kids, or the dog. The topic gets me pretty riled up. She's emotionally/mentally abusive to him and there's not much anyone can do about it anymore

[Queen Mamadala]

I got along really well with my former SIL. We weren't super close, but she's really cool and great with the kids. We still talk here and there. She and I are two years apart.

DH's older sister... she's nice and great with the kids. She and DH aren't really close. She's eight years older than him, and is very conservative and religious. Things can be pretty tense between the two of them. She also didn't live with them much when they were growing up. She lived with her mom and visited them during some school breaks.

Younger sister, I don't know her super well. We've met a handful of times, and she's really nice. We tend to talk about school and a few shared interests. She lives in CO, so we really only see her during holidays.

[MrsMB]

I have 2 on my side and 2 on DH's side.

On my side: I ADORE my youngest brother's wife. She is a beautiful person inside and out..and I'm so thankful she married my brother. On the other hand, my other brother's wife is a real piece. She's an AW in real life, rude to my family, Fake....I could go on. We used to live together in college. But it seems like every life step she took (mariage, kids) she got more superficial and hard to talk to. She used to be so cool. My brother is spoils her...working like a dog so she can play on Facebook all day while the kids are in their play pen (what my nephew calls "Baby Jail). I've ugly cried over how she got pregnant accidentally with the twins (after wanting to be one and done) and acts so "bothered" by them sometimes. Those are your BABIES lady!

DH's side: They are both HOT MESSES. I will always be friendly and respectful when I see them....but I wouldn't leave my kid with them. It's amazing how the boys turned out to be good/respectable and the girls became such huge flakes.

[Deleted]

I have one SIL, my husband's brother's wife. She's 13 years older than me (BIL is 10 years older than me). H never got along with his brother, and we didn't talk to them in almost three years. Prior to that she was friendly with me, but we only had shallow conversations/small talk. She intimidated me because she was always talking crap about everyone, so I figured she'd do the same about me behind my back too.

[katespade]

My side: Well, I have two step-SILs who don't consider me a family member even though I've been in their lives since I was 9... so there's that. I used to have a SIL that I got along with really well, but she is now an XSIL.

H's side: Three SILs and one step-SIL. There have been a few issues in the past, but we all get along now.

I DD'ed details because I'm paranoid.

[katiek]

I don't have any yet, but I'm irrationally nervous about getting one I don't like/who doesn't like me. I'm pretty sensitive, and I'm already having MIL problems.

This is partly why I'm so pumped that my BIL is dating my sister! I already know I get along with her!

My brother is only 16, so I haven't started worrying about who he's going to marry yet!

[tacocat]

I don't have one yet. BIL isn't dating anyone, but I worry that I won't get along with whomever he ends up with. He's H's only sibling, so family get togethers are fairly small and it would suck to not get along with her.

[grover]

I don't have any yet.

My little brother's gf I like. Turns out I was friends with her sister in high school.

My BIL's ex I did not like. Can't say I was sad when they split.

[pooh8402]

I have none on my side.

DH's side: I have one. Technically, she's my BIL's wife, but I call her my SIL anyway. She's a total sweetheart and I adore her. She's 11 years older than me, but it doesn't matter. We hardly ever see her because she lives an 8 hour drive away and has a hard time making it to family functions because she's a children's minister (works weekends). We would talk more except chick has a hard time picking up the phone and returning calls--known issue with her that we all give her crap for. But when we do talk, it's so easy and we have a lot in common.

[cgpm]

I have one and a second one on the way.

DH's sister doesn't like me. Mostly because I see right through her BS and her manipulative ways. I sure as hell do not give in to her and my sympathy doesn't run very deep for her (example: buys tons of crap she doesn't need and has it shipped to ILs house to save the sales tax. Makes them deliver it to her, she's an hour away. But then will cry poor that she can't afford the $12 bus ticket to come home for a holiday. She's old enough to know better.)

My FSIL is a little more complicated. She makes my brother happy, which is what matters, but we are two very different people. I'm not afraid to speak my mind and I try not to worry what others think. She obsesses over what everyone else thinks and whether or not they are happy with her choices. Drives me a little nutty sometimes. But she genuinely wants to have a relationship with me so I'm trying to work on that with her. I'm hoping with time and as we learn more about each other it will smooth out.

[bk1]

I just have one, my BIL's wife. We get along pretty well. I know I can only believe about 80% of what she says.

I have the best relationship with her compared to her relationship with anyone else in the family. My MIL tried to talk BIL out of marrying her all the way until the wedding day. They have been married 9 years and MIL still talks about how they never should have got married and how her son could have done so much better. It's really awkward when SIL and MIL are together because they put on such a fake front. SIL doesn't like MIL either.

[Deleted]

I have 2.

My brother's wife I actually haven't met yet, but will be meeting next month. We chat on facebook and I know she makes my brother happy and that's what is important.

I love my SIL (DH's sister). We get along well. We always have a blast when we do stuff.

[travelbug]

(H's Side) I have one. I'd say basically non existent. She is 4 years younger than me, and I think we could be good friends but she doesn't really reciprocate communication. There is just something a little off with her, we are always talking, laughing and having decent fun at family get togethers but that's about where it ends...

H's whole family are really are nice people, but they don't inform us or let us know things prior to events and what not so I doubt I'll ever be very close to any of them like i'd want to be... I'm jealous of people with such awesome in-laws.

[rockinrobyn]

I have 1. My little brother's wife. She is nice, but we are from two different worlds. We live 6 hours away from each other so we only have to interact at family functions.

My BIL is also married. She is 5 years older than me. We used to be a lot closer before she and BIL had kids. We lived 4 blocks away from them for 2 years and never once did she invite me to hang out. I made many attempts and when I was only ever invited over to babysit while she went to the gym, or out with her friends, I gave up. So, we are pleasant to each but I know now what I mean to her.

[CrazyLucky]

I have 2. Dh's sister is fantastically awesome. She is a nice person, beautiful inside and out. She's a great role model for my kids (and her "kids" - she's a teacher)
My brother's wife is fine. We get along and she is good to my brother and niece, so I have no problems with her. But she is weird and I don't think we'd be friends if not for my brother. For example, she made the baby food for my niece. Because the chemicals in jarred food cause autism. You can't argue with that crap.