One of my good friends just told me he and his wife are expecting later this year. Confession: My first thought was selfish disappointment - they are one of our few DINK friends and were very firmly on the "no kids" train (obviously something had changed). We were planning travel together for next year (tentatively) which obvi won't happen with a newborn. In June, we were doing a wine tasting extravaganza trip that is now off the table because it would not be fun for prego wife, duh.
I felt like a big phony selfish fake-fake-faker congratulating them. :?
@shoegal I've done the same thing. Several times. I love my friends and I'm happy for their joy, but I don't have many close friends as it is so it's a bummer when we can't hang out like we used to.
Yesterday I decided to get my head out of the sand and look at my retirement. I hasn't looked since I got divorced. It's bad. Fixable, but bad. Looks like I need to re-prioritize.
@shoegal, I know how you feel. I hate it when my friends get pregnant. Since these are confessions - PDQ but I confess I still don't love that my sister has a kid now. I'm still hopeful as he gets older it will be more fun, and I love HIM, but I hate how much my family dynamic has shifted and that things are so different than they used to be.
Post by emilyinchile on Mar 27, 2015 10:10:33 GMT -5
I think liveintheville's picture of puppies is ADORABLE, but my first thought thanks to some threads I've read on ML lately was "oh dear, is this a truly responsible breeder, like with certifications and breeding to show standards and the whole nine yards?" I'm putting it here so as not to derail a cute and potentially innocent post.
I think liveintheville's picture of puppies is ADORABLE, but my first thought thanks to some threads I've read on ML lately was "oh dear, is this a truly responsible breeder, like with certifications and breeding to show standards and the whole nine yards?" I'm putting it here so as not to derail a cute and potentially innocent post.
I completely understand. And yes she's certified AKC and the whole nine yards. We did our research She's breeding this brood for temperament and will temperament test them before sending them home. She specifically chose this brood for our family because she knew it'd be a family dog and temperament would be the most important to us. She does breed show dogs, as well. She's shown at Westminster.
Post by hurricanedrunk on Mar 27, 2015 10:35:08 GMT -5
@shoegal - I would feel the same way. Found out a friend who I thought was child free is trying and it made me pretty sad. No baby yet but I had hoped they would be our travel buddies in future years.
My confession is work related. Haven't been enjoying work lately. I've phoned it in most of this week and just can't get the motivation which is unlike me. I saw an ad on Facebook of all places to go back to school to be a radiologist and can't get it out of my head. May have to do some research this weekend about it.
Post by crashgizmo on Mar 27, 2015 10:59:06 GMT -5
monsterz, I'm so sorry. Ditto Ruralrabbit, if you ever need to talk, please reach out. I've been there.
@shoegal, I have had the exact same feelings and thoughts. We have a good couple friend who is on the fence about having kids and I selfishly keep talking about how great it is to not have them. I figure that enough people are telling them how great kids are, I have to make up for the other side.
I had a juicy one to share but... Decided against it.
So I'll share another one...
I picked up a 2-3 night serving gig while my biz income is so fluctuating. I'm not really happy about but glad that I have the ability to pick something up so easily.
monsterz Hugs. Our first year was really rough for us, too. DH got very selfish and self-righteous; it is better now, but the disagreements were rough.
@shoegal it's OK to feel that way. Just maybe suggest that trip again when the child is older. Trust me, you need adult only time!
I have a MM related confession. We just found out we need a new furnace to the tune of about $8500. In the past week we have also had a big out-of-pocket medical expense and had to buy a new fridge, so we've had an expensive week. I'm still shopping for our previously-planned July vacation even though the grown-up thing would be to skip this trip and put the money towards one of the expenses. I'm also planning to stop by the mall on my way home from dropping DD at her dad's later today.
I think part of the reason why I want to move is just to get away from my mom. She used to be supportive and actually listen to me when I talked to her. Now she just talks about herself nonstop and talks over me if I start trying to talk about my life. She creates so much drama in her life and refuses to admit that she is the one making drama out of nothing. It's everyone else creating the drama. Just talking to her for 10 minutes stresses me out soooo bad.