THAT DIDN'T GO WELL (oh shit, this is long. sorry. sorta)

[bex1973]

Holy shit, I'm sorry this happened.

No advice or anything - just hugs & an I'm sorry.

[bcv513]

I'm sorry smace. ((hugs))

[oliveyou]

I'm sorry Hugs!!

[jssymom14]

Woozers
I am sorry   I don't have advise either but wanted to offer hugs.

[styme46]

I'm sorry smace. I wish I had words of wisdom.

(((HUGS)))

[killercupcake]

I'm sorry.

[Eagles]

Oh SMACE. I'm really sorry. I know you have been having a rough go and you're feeling overwhelmed. Big hugs.

[rageragerage]

Shit man, you want one of us to come punch your asshat sister in the goddamn face? That needs to happen.

Sorry.

[malibu]

Aw. What a miserable situation.

[flex]

Issues with family are never easy. However, I think you made the right decision--it's been a long time coming. (((mondo hugs)))

[CurlyQ284]

I'm sorry smace. ((Hugs)).

[pegasuskat]

I don't know all of the backstory - but if mom is out of town why is she disowned too? Unless she is a crazy too, I completely understand that.

[noodleskooze]

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that.

[pandorica]

So sorry

[rosiebear]

Oh, that suuuuuucks. I am so sorry. Your sister sounds terrible, and I kind of hate her. Your dad brings nothing to your table now - I hope he gets help. Hugs to you, though, for the rough stuff you're going through.

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[dianecourt]

I'm just so sorry. My brother sounds a lot like your dad. He's in recovery now (which is great), but it's still hard. So many little cuts add up to a whole lot over time.

[ginger]

You're making a brave decision.

((HUGS))

LOTS of those.

[rachers]

I'm sorry Smace - DH and I are are dealing with something similar and it's so frustrating.

Nothing wrong with putting some distance between you and toxic people.

[bugandbibs]

I'm so sorry. Family dynamics can be so complicated.

[meggers5]

Oh I'm so sorry.

[venice2007]

I'm sorry! :--(

[flex]

Mar 27, 2015 14:27:06 GMT -5 @smace said:

Mar 27, 2015 14:24:21 GMT -5 pegasuskat said:

I don't know all of the backstory - but if mom is out of town why is she disowned too? Unless she is a crazy too, I completely understand that.

b/c she won't leave my alcoholic dad, so if cut him out, I cut her out b/c they're always together. 

Sometimes the enabler is just as dangerous as the active alcoholic.

[CurlyQ284]

Mar 27, 2015 14:27:06 GMT -5 @smace said:

Mar 27, 2015 14:24:21 GMT -5 pegasuskat said:

I don't know all of the backstory - but if mom is out of town why is she disowned too? Unless she is a crazy too, I completely understand that.

b/c she won't leave my alcoholic dad, so if cut him out, I cut her out b/c they're always together. 

My family was similar. I'm very close with my mom and my dad and I have never gotten along, he got nastier when he started drinking but she wouldn't leave him.

It got to a point where I just ignore him, I'm polite like I would be to a stranger. We basically see each other on holidays and if he happens to be around when I visit. I call my mom on her cell phone, I don't talk to him on the phone around when I used to live nearby she came to visit at my house.

My family used to be SO touchy, the exchange you described could have happened on a regular day with my family. Passive aggressive comments everywhere. I started ignoring them and shrugging it off, I quit caring if anyone was mad at me because it was exhausting to dance around all the things that piss people off. Eventually everyone got a little less touchy. Dad had a liver transplant and has been sober but our relationship was over for so long, I don't care to fix it. It took a lot of therapy to get to where I am with it.

I really hate that they made you cry. I hope you're able to find a way to see your mom still. ((more hugs))

[livinitup]

I think you should disown him after you get the $450. And I think you should round it up to $500 and treat your kids to a bouncy house or something.

That may be the worst advice every, so I offer an internet hug, too:

(hug)  (hug2)

 

[Monica Geller]

I'm so sorry. I hate family stuff that turns something nice into something awful. ((Hugs))

[mrsjuleshs]

That sounds so horrible. I am sorry you are going through this.

[underwaterrhymes]

I'm so sorry, @smace.

[sharknado]

[alicenelson]

Sorry, SMACE.  That's gotta be tough.