Cause I have one. Not saying it's good, just saying its a confession.
We had two swivel chairs custom made for our family room. Nothing fancy, but swivel chairs that dont look like they belong in a nursery/bedroom are hard to find. That being said, they weren't cheap. Here's the thing, we are hosting Easter and I don't want any of the kids sitting in the chairs. I realize I have a toddler and they won't stay new for long, but more than a couple weeks would be nice.
I know this is not a request that should be made so I wont.
I also realize how my family is and if they know I don't want kids in the chairs they will all push my buttons.
We went out to dinner for MIL birthday. Both babies cried when she tried to hold them. It made me smile inside. Maybe you should visit your grandkids more so they know you!
I met with a good friend yesterday whom I love and talk to all the time but due to distance don't see too often. We had a lot of fun and it was great to see her.
The confession part: She's such a pretty girl and I think she dresses like a bag lady and 20 years older than she needs to. Yesterday she had on a long polyester skirt with a little tiny floral pattern all over it (I bet all our grandmother's have table cloths in that pattern) a really big ill fitting high neck T-shirt and a pink denim jean jacket (which could've been cute but totally cut wrong).
Why she does this I don't know and it's like 6th time I've seen her this way.
And before someone gets all worked up and says "It's me too!" it's not. I promise you. No one on here dresses like that.
My suspicions were confirmed when I asked if she wanted to hit Maurice's with me to check out dresses for a shower I'm hosting next week. She went but was all, "This stuff is so far out of our age range!" I am now $100.00 poorer with a super cute dress and some other things and thinking all along, doesn't 3/4s of this store cater to our age range?
I would totally do this if I wouldn't get the comments and eye rolling from Mom. She has seen them already and would wonder where they were. No mercy with my family!
I would totally do this if I wouldn't get the comments and eye rolling from Mom. She has seen them already and would wonder where they were. No mercy with my family!
Can you be all,"we were trying them out in different places? "
Post by MadamePresident on Mar 29, 2015 20:11:20 GMT -5
I'm really frustrated with my MIL and SIL. They were here on Saturday and Nods was being super clingy and wouldn't interact with them. Turns out she was sick and has a fever. Anyways they said she was so shy because I don't socialize her enough, and I need to basically put her in daycare and make her cry it out. her extreme shyness is something I do worry about, but I'm pretty sure forcing her to be social is going to have the opposite effect at 2.5. But I really don't like that they insinuated that this is my fault. She has play dates and I take her to a tumbling class once a week. She sees my family more often and is better with them.
My confession is that I really want to speak up more to defend my parenting decisions, but I'm too much of a wimp.
Also, I'm the one who does try to push her more, but my husband it's okay with giving her the time she needs to work through her social anxiety.
Post by imojoebunny on Mar 29, 2015 20:11:35 GMT -5
LOL... When I was a little kid, my parents got two new lazy boy type chairs (1970's). My uncle came to visit and my parents hid them in the neighbors basement. My uncle easily weighed 500 pounds and was very sweaty. They liked him too much to hurt his feelings (at that point, he later cheated on my aunt when she was pregnant, then not so much).
I would put them in your bedroom for the party. It will give you more room, and you can throw the dining chairs around the room to have more people sit.
I'm really frustrated with my MIL and SIL. They were here on Saturday and Nods was being super clingy and wouldn't interact with them. Turns out she was sick and has a fever. Anyways they said she was so shy because I don't socialize her enough, and I need to basically put her in daycare and make her cry it out. her extreme shyness is something I do worry about, but I'm pretty sure forcing her to be social is going to have the opposite effect at 2.5. But I really don't like that they insinuated that this is my fault. She has play dates and I take her to a tumbling class once a week. She sees my family more often and is better with them.
My confession is that I really want to speak up more to defend my parenting decisions, but I'm too much of a wimp.
Also, I'm the one who does try to push her more, but my husband it's okay with giving her the time she needs to work through her social anxiety.
Ignore them. I have a social child and a kid whose nickname was barnacle, until it became the terrorist because he hates to leave the house. He was "barnacle" because he would only go places if you held him, and he is now a "terrorist" because if you go somewhere and he is overwhelmed, you have to leave. He goes to school 30 hours a week. He has been in a playgroup since he was a month old. It doesn't make him more social, it makes him less.
MadamePresident, well that's just shitty. I am pretty sure there are lots of 2.5 year olds that are shy.
Could you tell them it's a shame that she wasn't feeling well and wasn't up for visiting? (And my passive aggressive self would add something like "or maybe she is a normal 2.5 year old and is doing just fine in the socialization dept...jerks).
I would totally do this if I wouldn't get the comments and eye rolling from Mom. She has seen them already and would wonder where they were. No mercy with my family!
Can you be all,"we were trying them out in different places? "
I would totally do this if I wouldn't get the comments and eye rolling from Mom. She has seen them already and would wonder where they were. No mercy with my family!
Post by curbsideprophet on Mar 29, 2015 20:31:42 GMT -5
DD has been in daycare since she was 4 months old and is still shy around new people/people she has not seen in awhile/etc. hope your DD feels better soon MadamePresident
MadamePresident my HUSBAND is 35 and if he leaves the barnyard once a week he will say, "That's enough outing for the week. Too stressful." He's also infamous for, "If I go. Then I have to socialize and be all chatty. Exhausting."
He's always been shy and reserved and he's still a fully functioning and productive member of society. I wouldn't worry about it.
I hate being pregnant. I do not understand people who love it, one of which is my SIL who always tells me how much she loved each (of the 6) times she was pg. I have a recurring thought way too often of "thank god I don't have to go through this again".
DD has been in daycare since she was 4 months old and is still shy around new people/people she has not seen in awhile/etc. hope your DD feels better soon MadamePresident
Ditto,! My DS is the same way, and has no issues at school or otherwise now that he is in in kindergarten. Hang in there and don't let your mil or SIL make you feel bad.
I would totally do this if I wouldn't get the comments and eye rolling from Mom. She has seen them already and would wonder where they were. No mercy with my family!
Can you say that you moved them to make more room for more chairs and put some extra dining chairs there instead?
I would totally do this if I wouldn't get the comments and eye rolling from Mom. She has seen them already and would wonder where they were. No mercy with my family!
Can you say that you moved them to make more room for more chairs and put some extra dining chairs there instead?
Since its just my family coming for Easter, it will be like all of our other Sunday dinners. I am actually hoping it will be nice outside and we can eat out there and do an egg hunt out there, etc.
MadamePresident I kind of feel you. My mIL has told my h that my child doesn't listen. I know she isn't talking bad behind my back or judging me but it feels like it. And even though I know she doesn't listen, I don't want other people to criticize my child or worse make it seem like I am not doing the best for her.
Like when you go on about your annoying mother and your friend says 'yeah and your Momma...' And you stop and say 'uh no. You can't say that. She is my Mom'
And also- now just talking about my situation, say that L doesn't listen/ behave due to us being lax with her but the minute we do any form of discipline, they make the sad noises for L
I feel bad for my poor second child. I've hated this pregnancy (I was soooo sick the first trimester and was struggling with antepartum depression for a while), so I've taken maybe 10 belly pictures. I wrote letters to DD when I was pregnant with her; I've done nothing for this one. Two in daycare is going to stretch our budget to beyond tight, so he's getting nothing new. I'm sad that he's not getting a bunch of excitement and attention like DD did. I know that's dumb because obviously he's going to get attention when he's born and all, but I'm still having all sorts of feelings about it.
Same here. I have maybe 3 belly photos of me pregnant with DD. And after week 5, I stopped doing the week photos of her. Oops. That said, the second time has been much sweeter because I appreciate how fast the first year goes and I savor every moment. (Well, not at 3am, but you get the idea)
I was just looking for a gif, and accidentally stumbled upon some softcore porn tumblr site, and one of the gifs started playing really loud sex sounds. DH looked over at me and said "what was that?" and I was like "oh, geez, just a stupid ad that started playing on this website" while I was frantically trying to shut it down. Lol. I don't know why I didn't just admit it to my H. But damn, now I am never going to look for gifs at work!
We keep hoping to guide Kirklette away from having a 5th birthday party. When you host and go to a bunch of events for work, the last thing you want to do is throw another party on your day off. Too bad, she's not having any of it.
This morning, we tried again with the options of 1. Disneyland, 2. A trip to Portland and Seattle (she loves Seattle, and wants to go to OMSI), or 3. a birthday party.
She said those were all good choices, but the party is her final choice. Damn it! (wilted)
It took a few discussions to sell DD on a staycation instead of a party for her 5th birthday. We won eventually. And she has already requested "a vacation" for her next one
I was just looking for a gif, and accidentally stumbled upon some softcore porn tumblr site, and one of the gifs started playing really loud sex sounds. DH looked over at me and said "what was that?" and I was like "oh, geez, just a stupid ad that started playing on this website" while I was frantically trying to shut it down. Lol. I don't know why I didn't just admit it to my H. But damn, now I am never going to look for gifs at work!
I think the obvious question here is what kind of gif were you looking for?? LOL!