Weddings for an acquaintance would be in the $100-$150 range.
Weddings for close friends would be in the $200-$250 range. These are amounts based on a couple gift, because I'm married, so from two people.
I'm one of those people who gives gifts for showers (because duh) and cash for weddings. I also haven't had to attend more than 2 weddings in one year, so my opinion could change!
It's been a while since we went to a wedding for close friends; we used to give $150 or so but we'd probably give more now. I know there has been a wide range when we've discussed this here before.
I think it's OK to decline wedding invites for people you're not close to.
This is all really, really personal (also, regional).
The correct answer -- always -- is the amount that you personally feel comfortable with in light of your budget and your relationship with the couple. Whether that's the same as everyone else's answer is not all that important
On Family Fued one night championship round, whatever they call it - the question was how much cash do you give for a wedding gift. The over-whelming #1 amount was $50. I was really surprised. The reason I'm surprised is on here and other sites everyone seems to give a LOT more.
Weddings for an acquaintance would be in the $100-$150 range.
Weddings for close friends would be in the $200-$250 range. These are amounts based on a couple gift, because I'm married, so from two people.
I'm one of those people who gives gifts for showers (because duh) and cash for weddings. I also haven't had to attend more than 2 weddings in one year, so my opinion could change!
On Family Fued one night championship round, whatever they call it - the question was how much cash do you give for a wedding gift. The over-whelming #1 amount was $50. I was really surprised. The reason I'm surprised is on here and other sites everyone seems to give a LOT more.
That is standard in my hometown, and I'm guessing in a lot of middle class US towns. If I gave $200 as a wedding gift in my hometown, people would think I was either crazy or showing off. Even in the medium sized city where I live, it's still only more like $100.
On Family Fued one night championship round, whatever they call it - the question was how much cash do you give for a wedding gift. The over-whelming #1 amount was $50. I was really surprised. The reason I'm surprised is on here and other sites everyone seems to give a LOT more.
That is standard in my hometown, and I'm guessing in a lot of middle class US towns. If I gave $200 as a wedding gift in my hometown, people would think I was either crazy or showing off. Even in the medium sized city where I live, it's still only more like $100.
I never give cash, and only two out of about 300 guests gave us cash for our wedding, so obviously cash gifts aren't the norm with our crowd.
We usually give shower gifts in the $50-75 range and wedding gifts anywhere from $100-250 in value depending on how close we are to the couple (and, to some extent, what is available on their registry).
I also received cash gifts that were in the $50 - $75 range from my parents friends and I'm from the midwest. My 2 favorite aunts/uncles gave $100 each plus a small gift. My friends at the time were a year out of college so I don't compare that at all to what people give now. Funny enough, H's parents friends who as a whole are in the same financial boat as the people invited from my hometown gave much much more. So some of it is about knowing your audience.
I generally give $150 - $250. There's a lot of variables that goes into that - how close I am, how far I've traveled, how many weddings I've attended, if I sent a shower gift. Sometimes if I'm not close I'll skip the wedding altogether and send a token gift. Sometimes I just skip altogether and don't send a gift.
I would absolutely not go to a shower that asks for cash though.
Post by irene adler on Mar 30, 2015 21:25:47 GMT -5
I love this question--I feel like I come from the land of cheap bastards. $30-50 is the norm where I grew up (as was evidenced at our wedding as well) and these polls always make me feel oddly self conscious.
Fwiw, $30-50 typically covers a couples' plates at a wedding.
I don't give cash for showers, so I probably wouldn't attend a cash-only one. For a gift, I'll spend around $50. For the wedding, for close friends, I'd spend $100, for acquaintances it's more like $50.
I would skip the cash shower unless I really loved the couple (but I can't imagine anyone I'm really close to having a cash shower!). $50-$75 is our typical range for wedding gifts. We don't go if we're not close to the people getting married. I have actually sent just a card before when not attending and not knowing the people very well.
Post by WinterWine on Mar 30, 2015 22:23:53 GMT -5
I've only attended events for close friends and family, no acquaintances. I usually go $50-75 for the shower. $130-200 for the wedding. I prefer to buy from the registry for both, but if I know money is tight for the wedding r honeymoon, or that Ty are saving for a house, I'll give cash.
We usually go $100 for a wedding, which feels like a big upgrade from them$50 that's common among my relatives.
I'm embarrassEd to admit that I was disappointed by the $100 check from my grandparents for our wedding. I was really, really hoping for another zero... (Because I'm an asshole!)
I typically do $50 for showers and $150 for weddings//maybe $200 for siblings or BFFs. I am in the Chicago burbs.
It does seem to vary a lot by region. When we got married, every single person in my family gave us cash and every single person in his family (various southern states) gave us gifts.
Post by hopenotlost on Mar 30, 2015 22:47:21 GMT -5
$20 gift for a shower. I wouldn't give money. $20 cash for a wedding. That's the norm around here for people my age. Older people gave us more for our wedding, but our age gave $20 gifts off the registry or just cash.
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I love this question--I feel like I come from the land of cheap bastards. $30-50 is the norm where I grew up (as was evidenced at our wedding as well) and these polls always make me feel oddly self conscious.
Fwiw, $30-50 typically covers a couples' plates at a wedding.
I don't know, I kind of think that we'd all be better off if giving small gifts was the custom. For the most part, the people we've given gifts to have given gifts of comparable value to us so why not go for more reasonable gifts?
For showers, I usually spend around $50 and weddings $200 (from both H and me). I've only been invited to weddings of close friends or family, never an acquaintance. I would probably decline a shower invite for an acquaintance and give $100-$150 for wedding.