Things you said you wouldn't do as a parent

[eb777888]

Play video games- he loves Minecraft.

Go overboard for Christmas/Easter/etc. I even set a $50 limit when he was 2 and planned to stick to that. LLLLLLLOL

I know there's more.

[McGavin]

Pretty pink princess stuff. Ugh, they love it.

[lilafowler]

Smoke crack.

[pagas]

Buy American Girl stuff

[jinkies]

I don't even know where to start with this question. I am not living up to my pre-kids parenting standards at all.

To commiserate with you, though, my kids live in crocs year-round, even though I SWORE that no one in my family would ever wear those hideous things on their feet. They love them.

[underwaterrhymes]

- cosleeping
- watch TV before 2
- feed him nonorganics
- curse in front of him (hahahahahaaaaaa)

[ECB]

I learned a LONG time ago to "never say never", so I never had any hard and fast "I will never do ___ as a parent".

But I did have some "I really hope to not do ___".

One is letting my kid wear shorts in what I feel is basically still winter. But my kid has a strong opinion on this and we've come to an agreement- if it's going to be in the 60s (and I'll even allow high 50s sometimes), he can wear shorts. Not my ideal - but also not my hill either.

[ninjabridemom]

The naked thing, definitely.

Pretty much once we found out we were having twins a lot of the "nevers" left my vocabulary. I'm sure there are things but I don't remember.

[Deleted]

TV before 2. What a crock that was.

[cookie510]

So many things, but the main one is I said I would never cook separate meals. But I do, every.damn.night.

[ninjabridemom]

Mar 31, 2015 8:43:50 GMT -5 TR said:

Mar 31, 2015 8:42:06 GMT -5 ninjabridemom said:

The naked thing, definitely.

Pretty much once we found out we were having twins a lot of the "nevers" left my vocabulary. I'm sure there are things but I don't remember.

lol what is this?

At some point people were talking about what age you'd stop being naked around your kid, and I said a year b/c ew, and Cville was like, hahahaha yeah right.

Well hahaha yeah right, lol. I don't prance around naked but they walk in on me in the shower, while getting dressed, and when we were starting PT I went to the bathroom in front of them, so they definitely saw me naked well past 1. They STILL do and they're 3 lol. I figure in appropriate settings it isn't a big deal.

I ate my words, fer shure.

[namasteak]

No Tv before 2

Eat all organic

Make only my own purées

Let him self wean (I'm actually still bummed about this even though weaning was the right choice)

[thebreakfastclub]

I didn't think much about this. I do remember making sure the pacifiers and bottle parts were perfectly sterilized, etc.

2 years later, the kid ate oyster crackers off the floor of my car the other day. At least he helped clean the car.

[gibbinator]

-Use the tv as a babysitter
-Give in to picky eating (aka, feeding my 2yr old spaghetti, chicken nuggets or pb&j for supper every night because I just want him to eat something dammit).
-get addicted to caffeine
-breastfeed when my kid was old enough to ask for it

[BaliHai]

When I was pregnant, I think co-sleeping was the only thing I would have vowed in blood I'd never do. Ha ha haaaaaaa ha! She's been sleeping in our bed at least three nights a week, for a large portion of the night, since she turned a year old.

ETA: Oh, we were also going to get rid of the pacifier around six months, no matter what. I still wish we would have, but I don't know if any of us would have survived the teething storm that descended from months nine to fourteen.

[CurlyQ284]

I didn't really do this. I was 19 when I met DH and SDs were tiny. I was kind of thrown into the deep end before I even thought about having kids. By the time I was pregnant I already knew I was going to have to go with the flow to some extent.

I do feel bad that I was not a good parent to SDs. I had no clue what I was doing and I really wasn't mature enough to be their stepmom. Luckily they don't remember much so I'm hoping with enough positive memories in recent years they will never remember all my screw ups lol.

ETA oh I did say no Caillou because you guys said how horrible it was. So far so good! we only play things on hulu or Netflix so nothing just "accidentally" comes on and if he points to something that will drive me crazy I tell him it's too scary.

[Deleted]

No TV before 2.

If my kid didn't like the dinner I made, too bad so sad, have to wait until breakfast. LOLOLOLOLs.

[chickadee77]

Mar 31, 2015 8:38:27 GMT -5 ECB said:

I learned a LONG time ago to "never say never", so I never had any hard and fast "I will never do ___ as a parent".

But I did have some "I really hope to not do ___".

This is me. I'm still pretty early on, so so far nothing to report, but I know that will change! 

[Deleted]

Mar 31, 2015 9:00:19 GMT -5 @lorelaireadsagain said:

No TV before 2.

If my kid didn't like the dinner I made, too bad so sad, have to wait until breakfast. LOLOLOLOLs.

I will say, I also had a very asshole-ish view about meeting friends at a restaurant and the mom sat down and BF for the entire meal. I think I even posted about it here and got flamed, for good reason. How wrong I was!

[kwx2]

Back in the day I told everyone that my kid wouldn't use a binky. I held strong for about 24 hours after she was born. The nurse came to take her for her newborn pics, and came back with her and she had one in her mouth,. It was gone by her second birthday, but still. Also, was totally against Barney. Like wanted to stab him in the face. But DD LOVED him, so we bought all the videos and all the Barney stuff. UGH. I still hate it, but it was the only thing that would keep her occupied for any amount of time.

[greysgirl]

I don't know if there is anything I said I wouldn't do but my view on a lot of things is different now. Before when I would see a kid screaming in a store or something and I would be annoyed, now I just feel bad for the parents and thankful it's not my kid that's screaming.

[cville]

"BECAUSE I SAID SO, THAT'S WHY."

[VeryViolet]

Food stuff, it was going to be all organic, no processed, etc. LOFL

I make an effort to have him eat healthy but really it is laughable the amount of control I thought I would have over this and how little I knew about toddlers breaking your spirit.

[silva]

TV more than 2 hours.

[cookie510]

Oh and the pacifier, I said it would be gone by 1....she freaking still sleeps with it. I deserve beatings/judgment for that one.

[pittsmcgee]

TV time
Video games
Picky eating

[Deleted]

Co-sleeping when they were infants

Using the TV as a babysitter

[MixedBerryJam]

Mar 31, 2015 8:32:45 GMT -5 tators said:

and do.
Mine-
I vowed my kid wouldn't wear any character clothing ever.
Crocs.
Both are happening in the Tator household.

Not exactly "I never thought I'd do this as a parent" but I can remember when my twin nephews were little, visiting my sister, and thinking to myself (thank God I had the good sense not to say it out loud) "OMG, can't you wipe the fucking table down occasionally?" My poor sister probably barely had time to blink, but I had no idea how unimportant an clean tabletop would become until I had two of my own.

[ninjabridemom]

Mar 31, 2015 9:40:28 GMT -5 MixedBerryJam said:

Mar 31, 2015 8:32:45 GMT -5 tators said:

and do.
Mine-
I vowed my kid wouldn't wear any character clothing ever.
Crocs.
Both are happening in the Tator household.

Not exactly "I never thought I'd do this as a parent" but I can remember when my twin nephews were little, visiting my sister, and thinking to myself (thank God I had the good sense not to say it out loud) "OMG, can't you wipe the fucking table down occasionally?" My poor sister probably barely had time to blink, but I had no idea how unimportant an clean tabletop would become until I had two of my own.

We housesat for my BIL and SIL one weekend (we were also visiting what ended up to be my grad school). They'd just had kid #3, she was 5m old.

There were things like the unclean tabletop that I was so grossed out over and I still think of it now when I look at my house lol. Such a jerk and thank GOD I never said anything to them. I did straighten up and wipe stuff down, though.

[Mrs.Rad888]

I swore that I'd never be one of those parents that couldn't talk about anything baby related. I think I did OK, but it was a struggle sometimes.

I also swore that I'd never make my kid play on his own. "Why wouldn't you get down on the floor with him?"
My mom said that I swore that my kids would never wear a bib outside feeding time. If they were drooling up a storm, it's easy enough to just change their outfit! In my defense, I don't remember this.