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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Post by ledareansley on Mar 31, 2015 21:13:15 GMT -5
I'm really sorry anyone is calling down the Lord to make you feel any less than about something really important because the fact is I want to echo everyone who said that the way of fertility is most certainly luck and science. Prayer is nice and all but not necessary. You keep your head up.
The Lord is busy with other shit like poverty and Indiana and women making .77 cents on the dollar to be blessing people's uteruses, in my opinion.
But this is America and everyone is free to think what they want.
So what happens if she loses the pregnancy? (not wishing it on her, just asking) Will God be punishing her for her joy? It makes no sense.
She is a big believer in putting stuff out there. She posted an article once that basically said "women should be more vocal about their miscarriages! Let's make it a less taboo subject!" I responded to her. She's never HAD a miscarriage. She has no idea what she is talking about. But by God, she'll take the sympathy and the attention if it does happen to her. Eta: not that she wouldn't deserve sympathy. I've had a mc I get it. She's just a massive AW
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Post by underwaterrhymes on Mar 31, 2015 21:24:30 GMT -5
Prayer is helpful only for those who want to pray and even then only in that it makes people feel peaceful or more in control of a situation in which they feel helpless or lost.
Please know that your sister is not pregnant because she asked God in more or better ways. She's pregnant because IUI helped a sperm meet the egg and implant.
It's okay to feel sad or jealous or angry and it's completely unfair. I really hope it happens for you soon.
So what happens if she loses the pregnancy? (not wishing it on her, just asking) Will God be punishing her for her joy? It makes no sense.
She is a big believer in putting stuff out there. She posted an article once that basically said "women should be more vocal about their miscarriages! Let's make it a less taboo subject!" I responded to her. She's never HAD a miscarriage. She has no idea what she is talking about. But by God, she'll take the sympathy and the attention if it does happen to her.
I guess I can understand that. And I suppose I can understand wanting the empty support from people if it makes you feel better, but man, for someone who has never been there and had her first IUI work, she seems really short sighted about this whole process. I wish her the best, but man...I don't know.
Big hugs. Pray if you need to pray - for you and your heart. But please don't feel like more faith or more prayer would change the outcome of anything. This isn't a situation that changes based on who deserves it more, or who wants it more. At the end of the day, it's luck & science.
More hugs.
ETA - I am sorry if this is insensitive. I will DD if you'd like.
i wish there was something i could say to make this even an iota easier, i know there isn't. i'm so sorry Elsa
would it help if you posted more on ML for support? i hope you feel like you can if you need to.
Yes. Post here. Or pm people or me. I just want to squeeze you. I'm so sorry.
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I'm so grateful I have you guys. Seriously. I'm tearing up over here- I just really really appreciate your support. Even when I haven't been around much lately bc work has been insane, You guys are still here for me. And it means so so much.
So many hugs. I don't think that just because you're more private with your struggles that means you deserve it any less. Sending so many positive thoughts your way!
Post by Monica Geller on Mar 31, 2015 21:50:04 GMT -5
I'm sorry Elsa. I really struggled (and still do)with my faith and my understanding of God since going through infertility. It's not fair and doesn't make sense. ((HUGS))
I'm so sorry. I had IVF that didn't work and I've had miscarriages, and I'll be dammed if someone says to me that my family didn't pray enough for us to have a baby. That's bullshit. I'm so sorry that you've had to read this AW and all the stupid responses. Hugs.
Big, huge hugs Elsa. It's not a matter of who deserves it or not. If it were, you'd have half a dozen kids by now. I hope and pray that your time is coming really soon.