DH didn't, he let his ex have pretty much everything since she had the kids most of the time. I honestly can't remember anything he had from their marriage.
Post by Captain Serious on Mar 31, 2015 22:34:33 GMT -5
Some. I'm sitting on a couch that his ex picked out. He wanted to replace them, but I liked them and decided to keep them a while. It's now been 12 years, and I'm finally ready to replace. I did get new dishes because I hated hers (but then we pulled them out and used them at the ski house rather than buy a new set).
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
My sister got a lot of kitchen stuff and housewares in the divorce, but has subsequently given quite a lot of it away to friends and family members. I don't thinks she still uses much from her first marriage, though her divorce was almost 10 years ago and she's been in two serious live-in relationships since then.
I know someone whose husband kept the mattress from his first marriage. I'm WTFing that hard.
Mattresses aren't cheap. Unless you are going to buy me a new one, you can take your WTF somewhere else! I also hate throwing out things unnecessarily, so bad for the environment.
I really don't give a shit that I sleep on a mattress that someone else had sex with someone else on.
Post by Queen Mamadala on Mar 31, 2015 22:45:06 GMT -5
No. Not that I can think of. My exH took some things, and I sold or gave away almost everything in preparation for our move from Atlanta to So Cal. I bought new stuff after the move. Much thanks to Ikea and Craigslist.
Post by Shreddingbetty on Mar 31, 2015 22:48:04 GMT -5
I didn't take too much actually. I took the computer desk which was decent, the old TV and cheap entertainment center, some glasses and some dishes and a futon mattress to sleep on as well as some silverware. He kept the house and everything in it (including the dogs). I left with $2000 to my name (how generous he was!) and no job as I had just graduated and was looking. I got royally screwed....but it was worth it to cut all ties. It pissed him off that I could just walk away and not need him. He no longer had anything to control me with.
I live in the house that DH and his ex bought together (she lived in it for 5 years and I have been here for 12 years now). She pretty much took everything except for a few pieces that she didn't deem worth anything or that were family pieces. So DH and I ended up getting all new furniture and dishes. So it really wasn't that weird actually.
Post by MixedBerryJam on Mar 31, 2015 22:55:41 GMT -5
My h was widowed very young, about 15 years before I met him. I have a ton of miscellaneous household stuff from that marriage: off the top of my head I can think of some planters, certainly tools, and kitchen gadgets. But I also have HER ASHES next to my husband's ashes in a corner of my bedroom, so ... Yeah, I have some of her stuff.
I got the house and everything in it, so yeah, everything is from my first marriage. Granted, I'm only dating someone and definitely not living together, but I can't imagine being all "ok, I'm divorced, so let me go out and buy brand new everything!!" He got all of his stuff and I have bought new things here and there, but most of the household stuff is here
Mattresses aren't cheap. Unless you are going to buy me a new one, you can take your WTF somewhere else! I also hate throwing out things unnecessarily, so bad for the environment.
I really don't give a shit that I sleep on a mattress that someone else had sex with someone else on.
They can afford a new mattress. And the new wife is unhappy
H kept his bedroom furniture, but had bought a new mattress shortly before we started dating only because the previous one was really old.
Post by sawyerthedestroyer on Mar 31, 2015 23:03:17 GMT -5
I kept a lot of things at first, but gradually phased things out for better quality items. The only thing I still have that I can think of off the top of my head is my crock pot, which I love and was a gift from my mom.
I didn't take much because I packed up my car and left. I did have dishes but I gave them to my sister because I was tired of moving them. Had I been able to fit my mattress in my car, I probably would have. I just asked my h and he said he wouldn't want to sleep on it. He rides in the car we had together, though we did not have sex in it, so I guess that makes the difference? Whatever, I have a fabulous temperpedic bed now so that's all that matters. Hahahaha.
Post by FrozenSunshine on Mar 31, 2015 23:45:16 GMT -5
After 5 years together I took what I could fit in the bed of my Ford ranger and drove from Tampa to AK. There was a promise of another shipment when the settlement went down and of course nothing. Pictures 3 years later showed most of the stuff I paid for and a different woman living there with him.
I'm pissed off I didn't have room/the fight for 2 things. The tables my dad taught ex-H to build and the humidor we bought him for his graduation. (Yes gift I know, but when I got stuck with your loans, I thought giving the gift back would be expected.)
Mattresses aren't cheap. Unless you are going to buy me a new one, you can take your WTF somewhere else! I also hate throwing out things unnecessarily, so bad for the environment.
I really don't give a shit that I sleep on a mattress that someone else had sex with someone else on.
They can afford a new mattress. And the new wife is unhappy
Well I think the new wife is dumb for being unhappy and it's still wasteful to get rid of a perfectly fine mattress.
Still not wtf worthy in my opinion for someone to not buy all new things after divorce.
Post by goaskalice on Mar 31, 2015 23:52:29 GMT -5
When I first moved out on my own my mom gave me her vintage pyrex mixing bowls. No joke she said to me, "these are from my first marriage so you can take them." Oh mom.
If I had to replace a mattress after every guy I had sex with, it would not help my bank account. I would probably also need to replace the couch, flooring, shower...
I basically get rid of things as they are necessary, so we still have bedroom furniture (not the mattress, but we did have that for a few years) and a kitchen table set that was my ExH's before I even met him yet my DH loves.
It's furniture, so I don't see it as an issue. I don't see it any differently than furniture I bought in my single days that I now share with DH.
Since almost everything XH and I had was mine before he was there, I kept most of it. We did acquire some stuff while we were married, but it was mostly cheap crap, and I did a major purge when he moved out. He was happy to keep buying cheap shit and just throwing it away when it broke; I wanted better quality stuff so I spent the money once I became single.
DH let his XW take pretty much whatever she wanted when she moved out. In fact, for about 2 years after that, it wasn't unusual for her to go into his house when he was at work and help herself to whatever caught her eye. He finally put a stop to that when she cleaned him out after a Thanksgiving dinner meant to be a "last family holiday dinner."
I know someone whose husband kept the mattress from his first marriage. I'm WTFing that hard.
Mattresses aren't cheap. Unless you are going to buy me a new one, you can take your WTF somewhere else! I also hate throwing out things unnecessarily, so bad for the environment.
I really don't give a shit that I sleep on a mattress that someone else had sex with someone else on.
I agree!
I'm currently laying on a mattress that I bought with my ex. I bought it and the bed set, just before my ex and I broke up. It was only 6 months old when I met my (now) H and 2 years old when we moved in together. (Other then my car my mattress was my biggest purchase that I made when I first was living in my own.) It now needs to be replaced but they are damn expensive.
I also want to add that DH DHAF that I bought my mattress with my ex.
My dishes and decor items that I had thrifted. Things I bought with my mom. All my Christmas decorations. Things that were sentimental to me. I still have my comforter. It was only 2 months old and I loved it. Haha. But I'm sure it will be gone by the time I start something serious.
And then the 1st of three days I went to get my things. I took a bunch of dirty towels from the laundry. Because I needed towels and I could wash them right away. Well next thing is a text about how I took "all" the towels. And then he must of told xSMIL and or xFIL that I took all the towels because she was emailing him asking if she should buy towels from Aldi and send them along with his dad flying in from Germany. And that's when I really realized how much of an idiot he was and how he liked to be the center of attention. The baby couldn't go out and buy his own towels plus he had towels to begin with. The poor me act got real old.