Absolutely not. Even if we were trying right now, we would not mention it to anyone IRL. I hate the "so when are you going to give M a sibling" comment(I thought by the time he hit four people would stop, but it s getting worse, regardless how many times we say we are one and done). I couldn't imagine the "are you pregnant yet?" Questions if people knew we were TTCing(which we are not).
Nope. I think our families and friends were genuinely surprised when we announced our pregnancies each time. Not shocked though, except maybe for the 3rd b/c I told everyone I was done (I really thought I was)
At first, we kept it fairly quiet. The longer it took the more open we became. Eventually, we came out on Facebook about our infertility during National Infertility Awareness Week last year. So everyone knew in the end. Family, close friends, and coworkers were informed of the actual date of testing, and we broke the good news to family the day we got bfp.
Post by iheartbanjos on Apr 1, 2015 20:20:06 GMT -5
Nobody the first time.
The second time, I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks, and our close friends and family knew. I got pregnant right away again, so it wasn't a huge surprise.
We were going through fertility treatments for almost a year. I told a few close friends, which was a mistake. Having people constantly asking about the status of my uterus, while going through lots of failed treatment, was terrible. One dumb friend told me a few times to "just relax." Motherfucker, if 5 IUIs doesn't do the job, I'm pretty sure a little relaxation isn't going to fix things.
Whenever we decide to do an FET for the next one, I will tell NO ONE (outside of my husband and GBCN, of course).
With #1, we ttc for 2 years. I didn't bother keeping it a secret because I was young and naive and assumed it would happen quickly. That didn't work out lol! I wished I hadn't been so open in the beginning. Several of my friends asked me constantly "are you pregnant yet?!" And that was really hard for me. However I was happy to have a wide circle to share my IF troubles with. I would have been miserable if I couldn't talk about that stuff with my friends.
With #2, I only told my very close friends that we were ttc. And then we got pregnant my very first cycle off bcp, soooo apparently that worked well lol!
Nobody knew. At first, we wanted it to be a surprise. We kept it a secret after finding out about IF, because I didn't want to be caught off guard by people asking about it when we were really struggling and I was in a bad place.
We tried for about 8 months, but didn't require any interventions. I know I had mentioned here so the girls from this board that I am friends with IRL knew. I really can't remember if I told my BFFs or not I'm pretty sure I did.
I drunkenly told a couple of my coworkers about a month before I actually got pregnant, ha! One asked if we wanted to have kids and I said something like "yeah, like 6 months ago." and I'm sure we went on to chat just a bit about it from there.
Our 2 best couple friends knew. Mostly because the 6 of us were hanging out together at a wedding reception and one couple mentioned this was their last drunk party fest before TTC. And I was like "us too!" (our kids were born a day apart lol). My best friend knew too because I was designated driver on her bachelorette party. Our parents kind of knew we were planning on having kids in the very near future but they didn't actually know when/if we'd pulled the goalie.
This conversation happened at a New Year's Eve party. The other 2 girls said it was okay to drink because they weren't pregnant yet. I just laughed. Our kids were all born within 4 weeks of each other.
My mom figured it out pretty quickly when she saw me taking pills again. They live 20 mins away, so we see them often.
First time around, I think again our parents knew in an abstract way, my BFF knew when we initially started trying, and then I had a close friend going through similar fertility issues at the same time, so we had intimate knowledge of each others cycles!