I'm not going to a baby shower for baby #3 of a loose friend bc I think it's a little gift grabby. DD1 is 4, DS is 16 months and the little baby girl is due in 2 months. Yeah, yeah, their girls are 4 years apart but she says she kept everything! Plus, it's an expensive month and I really don't have the money to spend on a baby shower for a third kid.
I would go to a meet the baby party though and bring a gift. That's different though, right?
I'm afraid no one will come to E's party and we'll have rented a bounce house for nothing b/c none of the other parents want to socialize with other daycare parents. It would be great to have some other parent friends, but damn this shit is hard as an adult.
I also didn't want to invite my IL's to the party, but DH didn't want to deal with having something separate for family. Ugh, my FIL is not fit for public anymore. I'm also sad b/c my parents won't be there b/c they're coming down the following week for Disney and they're a good buffer since they're normal.
Post by longtimenopost on Apr 1, 2015 15:11:01 GMT -5
Brought to mind by the chiro thread - we pay a crapload of money for an alternative therapy for DD that I'm not 100% sure is effective and sometimes worry is a scam, but part of why we do it is because I want so badly to believe in it. The other track is loading my kid up with orthotics and drugs like baclofen and botox and I don't want to do that.
I really need to call the fertility clinic so we can get the ball rolling for our FET but I have been putting it off because I am terrified that our embryos didn't survive or that it won't work. We won't be able to afford another fresh cycle so if the FETs don't work we have no other options
I get annoyed when people have girls and use Marie or Elizabeth as the middle name (family connection excepted). It just seems like such a cop out/default name. Be creative!
I get annoyed when people have girls and use Marie or Elizabeth as the middle name (family connection excepted). It just seems like such a cop out/default name. Be creative!
LOL, but everyone has a family connection because people have been uncreative for generations.
I think middle names should be family names. We gave one that "sounded good" to DS and I regret it. Not enough to change it, but I regret it.
Post by wanderlustmom on Apr 1, 2015 15:26:11 GMT -5
I would rehome our crazy almost three year old dog if I didn't love her to pieces. She is a hot mess and is still as unpredictable and wild as a puppy. Parenting a high energy dog is absolutely exhausting when you have another (albeit easy) dog, two cats, two kids and two jobs.
I get annoyed when people have girls and use Marie or Elizabeth as the middle name (family connection excepted). It just seems like such a cop out/default name. Be creative!
Hey now.
J/k I agree. Stop hiding such a pretty name in the middle name slot dammit! Let it shine as a first name!
I get annoyed when people have girls and use Marie or Elizabeth as the middle name (family connection excepted). It just seems like such a cop out/default name. Be creative!
(heart) Add Lynn to this list. Which is my sister's MN. I have a more rare MN, but it also happens to be my mom's MN as well.
I get annoyed when people have girls and use Marie or Elizabeth as the middle name (family connection excepted). It just seems like such a cop out/default name. Be creative!
LOL, but everyone has a family connection because people have been uncreative for generations.
I think middle names should be family names. We gave one that "sounded good" to DS and I regret it. Not enough to change it, but I regret it.
I agree re: family names as middle names. Or just something meaningful to you, generally. Both boys have MNs after our grandfathers.
Brie C's middle name is a family name from H's side (his dad's middle name). I was just telling my sister last night that if we have another boy, I bet my dad is going to be hurt that we don't use one of his names for a middle name. My dad's first name is not middle name friendly, and his middle name is my ex-boyfriend's name. Plus I don't really like my dad all that much...
I'm afraid no one will come to E's party and we'll have rented a bounce house for nothing b/c none of the other parents want to socialize with other daycare parents. It would be great to have some other parent friends, but damn this shit is hard as an adult.
I also didn't want to invite my IL's to the party, but DH didn't want to deal with having something separate for family. Ugh, my FIL is not fit for public anymore. I'm also sad b/c my parents won't be there b/c they're coming down the following week for Disney and they're a good buffer since they're normal.
Ugh, I am sorry. I am sure folks will come. IF I loved where ever it is you live, we would come! People can be so rude. This is where my confession is probably that I get a little sad when folks always complain about birthday parties or mention that they don't have time to go to them on the weekend. To me I always want to make time because I can't stand to think of a kid w/out any friends at his birthday. That is typically more important to me than whatever I was planning on doing. Well, that and I have made some really good parent friends through birthday parties.
But I also have a tenancy to over invite for DS' parties because I am afraid of a poor turnout. I probably invite over 50 people each time.
I get annoyed when people have girls and use Marie or Elizabeth as the middle name (family connection excepted). It just seems like such a cop out/default name. Be creative!
(heart) Add Lynn to this list. Which is my sister's MN. I have a more rare MN, but it also happens to be my mom's MN as well.
As a former Lynn middle name I could not agree more. It is a big reason I now use my maiden as my middle. Ugh Lynn.
I get annoyed when people have girls and use Marie or Elizabeth as the middle name (family connection excepted). It just seems like such a cop out/default name. Be creative!
I get annoyed when people have girls and use Marie or Elizabeth as the middle name (family connection excepted). It just seems like such a cop out/default name. Be creative!
LOL, but everyone has a family connection because people have been uncreative for generations.
I think middle names should be family names. We gave one that "sounded good" to DS and I regret it. Not enough to change it, but I regret it.
I agree with using middle names as family names. I also think it should be a name from MY family (because DD and any subsequent children will have his last name).
Sometimes I feel bad for DS2 when it comes to names. DS1's first name is DH's name, middle name is FIL's name. DD's middle name will be a name that is a family name on both sides (both mine and DH's grandma, my middle name) and then poor DS2 just has two random names we liked. No family connections at all. But I do love his name.
I think it's silly to stress about choosing a middle name. We spent about 2 seconds deciding on DS's middle name (which is DH's first name) because nobody cares about your middle name after you are a baby anyway.
My period has not arrived and I'm wondering if @notquiteblushing's superlative prediction may be on point. Another close friend had a dream that I POAS and was pregnant, and the called her pissed about all the beer I wouldn't be able to drink in Germany.
It's super rare to get pregnant with an IUD. By typing this out I probably just triggered the Red Socks to arrive in town.
my confession is that I'm extremely irritated with my mom. We're driving 9 hours with a toddler this weekend to surprise my dad for a milestone birthday. She wants to be there for our surprise arrival, but refuses to take off work early (she claims she can't, but I call BS!). So we're going to drive 9 hours, check into our hotel, and kill an hour or two while we wait for her to get home before we can go over there and surprise my dad. DD goes to sleep at 7pm on the dot, so this means we'll have like 1-1.5 hours, tops, before we have to put her to bed because she can't leave an hour early. She is the one who suggested this whole surprise visit and she's done nothing to make it easier for me or my cousin (who is also coming, traveling 6 hours by car with her husband and their 4 month old!). My dad is the one who always rolls out the welcome mat. This is more of a rant than a confession, I guess. Bah!
I think it's silly to stress about choosing a middle name. We spent about 2 seconds deciding on DS's middle name (which is DH's first name) because nobody cares about your middle name after you are a baby anyway.
My dad retired yesterday. His staff, who adorably love him, ordered an engraved gift, and one of them (who I happened to go to HS with) messaged me specifically to get his entire name. Some people DO care about middle names
DS doesn't have a family middle name because we couldn't find one we liked (and I wanted Hawaiian, so we were only choosing from my side, ha). I feel a teensy bit bad about that, but he ended up with a good one anyway.
Using family names seems like a good way to open up a whole can of worms if you don't use the right name or someone else called dibs (I know, not a thing) or if you honour your mother but not MIL or whatever. Or if one side is super Ukrainian, and your choices are like Slavoslav and Wolodomyr. Lol.
Although our #1 girls name is technically my dad's adopted aunt's name, lol. Obscure family connection and she's been gone for years, so I think we're in the clear.
My kid's middle name is Iver. (PDQ) I really hate it, but it's tradition. H's MN is that, so is his dad's. My mom and I share a MN too, so we knew right away that if we had a boy he would have Iver and if we had a girl she would have Renee. At least my family name is pretty. lol
I'm not going to a baby shower for baby #3 of a loose friend bc I think it's a little gift grabby. DD1 is 4, DS is 16 months and the little baby girl is due in 2 months. Yeah, yeah, their girls are 4 years apart but she says she kept everything! Plus, it's an expensive month and I really don't have the money to spend on a baby shower for a third kid.
I would go to a meet the baby party though and bring a gift. That's different though, right?
A friend keeps hinting around that she wants me to help host a sprinkle for a mutual friend's 2nd child. She wants to host it at the country club. NO. I am fine with "let's all do lunch while the kids are at MDO and celebrate friend's upcoming arrival!" but these are my mom friends and we all have young toddlers, and, most importantly, 2nd showers aren't common here. If she wants to throw it, I'll attend with a gift, but that's it.
In order to keep DDs' first names they were given at birth, we changed their middle names to our family MN which happened to be Marie and Elizabeth. We had wanted to give DD2 the female version of FIL's first name, but MIL thought it sounded funny.