I have enough "significant" names picked out to have at least two, possibly three, more children. If all I had to do to have a child was name them (not provide for them, not feed them, not figure out all the difficult work-life-where-to-live stuff), I'd be set!
Post by scribellesam on Apr 1, 2015 17:15:13 GMT -5
At least one small part of not wanting a third child is because we're out of boy names with family significance that we like. Both boys' names, first and middle, are after family members. There's nothing good left for a third boy!
Our girl name has the family connection from both sides-first name was late MIL's middle name, middle name was my first name, my mom's middle name, and her mom's middle name. Then my sister took that middle name for her daughter (after getting the green light from me, she was super relieved that I didn't give a hoot). I'm not against keeping the middle name the same IF we have another kid and IF it's a girl (cousins with the same MN isn't that weird is it?) but J wants to change it because he likes my middle name (Elizabeth) better. It's also my dad's mom's middle name so we'd still keep it in the family, but who knows what'll happen. Two very big IFs have to happen first
Not weird at all! My second daughter's middle name is my niece's first name (and my daughter's first name is similar to my sister, niece's mother's, first name). Both are named to honor our aunt who has been like a second parent to us our entire lives.
All three of my children were given first and/or middle names honoring someone we love.
I would personally love a sprinkle. In my close group of friends we've had several so I'm hoping they have one for me.
I would have loved a sprinkle. The utter indifference people have toward second pregnancies among my acquaintance circle baffles me. I offered to throw several people a sprinkle for their seconds and everyone turned me down. Come on, who doesn't want free diapers?
I don't feel like a lack of shower/sprinkle means an indifference towards second+ pregnancies at all. My family and friends were amazing when I had my 2nd and 3rd.
I was always taught that the shower is a celebration f the major life change of going from non parents to parents and you don't celebrate the baby until the baby is here and healthy.
At least one small part of not wanting a third child is because we're out of boy names with family significance that we like. Both boys' names, first and middle, are after family members. There's nothing good left for a third boy!
I was going to be so happy to have a 3rd boy, because I love my boys and think a house full of boys would be fun. But DH and I were so stressed about having to name a third boy. Boy names are super hard!
So now we are having a girl. The name for a girl was so easy! Had it picked out since before we know DS1 was a boy.
I would have loved a sprinkle. The utter indifference people have toward second pregnancies among my acquaintance circle baffles me. I offered to throw several people a sprinkle for their seconds and everyone turned me down. Come on, who doesn't want free diapers?
I don't feel like a lack of shower/sprinkle means an indifference towards second+ pregnancies at all. My family and friends were amazing when I had my 2nd and 3rd.
I was always taught that the shower is a celebration f the major life change of going from non parents to parents and you don't celebrate the baby until the baby is here and healthy.Â
Oh, I like that! A much nicer more mature way of looking at it.
The indifference I mentioned from my experience had only a little to do with the lack of shower. I'm not quite as greedy as I may appear in this thread (I don't think).
I don't feel like a lack of shower/sprinkle means an indifference towards second+ pregnancies at all. My family and friends were amazing when I had my 2nd and 3rd.
I was always taught that the shower is a celebration f the major life change of going from non parents to parents and you don't celebrate the baby until the baby is here and healthy.
Oh, I like that! A much nicer more mature way of looking at it.
The indifference I mentioned from my experience had only a little to do with the lack of shower. I'm not quite as greedy as I may appear in this thread (I don't think).
That makes perfect sense! I love all the new squishy babies, so I'm sad to hear anyone made you feel like subsequent ones weren't as special! And I definitely didn't read your opinion as greedy at all! I have no opinion on others having or wanting a sprinkle or 2nd/3rd shower, it's just not something I've seen IRL at all and I think it is a difference in mindset over who the shower is honoring if that makes sense!
I also was raised in a very superstitious family that wasn't thrilled about having showers at all. Nobody had one until after grandma passed because she didn't allow them (neonatal nurse married to an OB/GYN, both of whom were trained in the late 20s, early 30s). So it's kind of a "new" thing in my family to do a shower at all versus bringing presents once the baby is home and healthy.
Post by waterchurch on Apr 1, 2015 18:06:14 GMT -5
I'm an Elizabeth and I had a complex when I started school and everyone said "oh, that's my middle name!" I went home to my mom and asked why I had a middle name for a first name.
Post by curbsideprophet on Apr 1, 2015 18:33:57 GMT -5
I am thankful DH did not have any naming traditions in his family. I do not really have any in mine either, so no pressure to follow along if we did not like the name or tradition.
I am basically the opposite of choosing family names. I wanted names that were not associated with people we know/are close to.
As for middle names, I was given two middles names at birth. In high school I had to fill out a form for how I wanted my name on my diploma. I put down both middle names. The school called my mom to make sure it was correct since all my records just had my first middle name or initial. My middle names are also on my diplomas from undergrad and grad school.
I'm an Elizabeth and I had a complex when I started school and everyone said "oh, that's my middle name!" I went home to my mom and asked why I had a middle name for a first name.
LOL. My mn is also Elizabeth, as is dd's. It's a family tradition - my parents wanted to honor my paternal grandma, but her first name was Dulcinea (!). So they gave me her mn as mine and we kept that.
My toddler is wandering around screaming because she refused to take a nap today. I'm basically just ignoring her and sitting on my ass on the computer. It's too early for bed and she just screams if I come near her, so oh well.
Once when I was a kid I sat on a cactus because I thought it would make me fly 10 feelt up in the air, like in a cartoon.
I did not fly.
I did have to have my mother pull cactus spines out of my butt with a pair of tweezers.
I once got my lips stuck to a stop sign pole in the winter. I was too chicken to do my tongue, so I kissed the pole instead. Same result. Fucking ouch.
DS' middle name is old and pretty odd, after DH's grandfather.
DS2 will have either my dad's first or middle name as his middle name...my dad passed away in 2013 so I won't compromise on that. I think my ILs might be sad that we don't use DH's middle name which is also FIL's middle name but...oh well.
Post by mandapanda18 on Apr 1, 2015 23:05:25 GMT -5
Omg.... Don't quote! But I got Botox today! My 11's make me look way older than I am (especially in photos) so I finally bit the bullet and did it.... Go ahead and flame away! I won't be able to scowl in a few days
Our girl name has the family connection from both sides-first name was late MIL's middle name, middle name was my first name, my mom's middle name, and her mom's middle name. Then my sister took that middle name for her daughter (after getting the green light from me, she was super relieved that I didn't give a hoot). I'm not against keeping the middle name the same IF we have another kid and IF it's a girl (cousins with the same MN isn't that weird is it?) but J wants to change it because he likes my middle name (Elizabeth) better. It's also my dad's mom's middle name so we'd still keep it in the family, but who knows what'll happen. Two very big IFs have to happen first
Not weird at all! My second daughter's middle name is my niece's first name (and my daughter's first name is similar to my sister, niece's mother's, first name). Both are named to honor our aunt who has been like a second parent to us our entire lives.
All three of my children were given first and/or middle names honoring someone we love.
Thank you! J thinks it's weird, but he also wanted to name our kid the same (very common, but still) name as my uncle and two of my cousins and while I didn't think it was weird I wanted something a little different. Since the name is also J's grandpa's middle name we settled on using it as the J in AJ.
I get annoyed when people have girls and use Marie or Elizabeth as the middle name (family connection excepted). It just seems like such a cop out/default name. Be creative!
I know I'm late to this, but DD1 has one of these as her MN, but yes, it is a family thing It was my grandmother's MN, and we gave DD2 DH's grandmother's MN as well for hers (which is similar to the two you mentioned). The girls first and middle names together sound so pretty, I like to say them both a lot to the girls.
I'm an Elizabeth and I had a complex when I started school and everyone said "oh, that's my middle name!" I went home to my mom and asked why I had a middle name for a first name.
Oh no. I hope dd2 doesn't feel this way. Her first name is Grace.
I don't have a complex about it or anything. I like my name now! I'm sure DD will too.