Post by autumnfire on Apr 15, 2015 14:27:33 GMT -5
If this was an event that I didn't care to much for I would just politely decline. But if it's for family I like I'd figure things out and deal with an upset child (which I've had to do before).
It sucks but to me I also don't like feeling so chained to my child's schedule on the weekend. That's the time to have fun, see friends and family staying at home all the time would just get to me personally. 1:30 is pretty standard for a gtg at least to me it is. So I wouldn't be annoyed by the choice of time. It's his birthday and something nice is being done for him.
Now I realize I'm not you, but this is just what we've decided in the past when faced with nap time scheduled events that we want to go to. In the end our daughter will live on one day out of schedule (and has), and so will we.
I think an important skill to teach kids is to sleep in places other than the crib. Honestly I'd rather have kids that sleep like shit than to spend years of my life stuck in the house from 12-3 every single day.
Eh my kids always slept best in their beds and never really took naps other places didn't mean we were stuck in the house everyday.
This is me too. I could never figure out how to "teach" him to sleep on the go. He sometimes catches snoozes in the car but never was a stroller napper. Still didn't keep us stuck either though.
Post by expectantsteelerfan on Apr 15, 2015 18:53:54 GMT -5
I was really strict with my kids' naptimes until they stopped napping regularly. If it was me and it was a kid who was young enough to take a nap like clockwork every day at the same time and would be a mess without the nap, I'd either find someone to stay with my kid while I went, go late, or not go.
That being said, by 3, even though dd was still napping really regularly (didn't see a ticker but you said you had your kid for 3 years), she was also fine with an occasional missed nap (ds stopped napping at 2.5), so I would have been fine skipping it for one day.
I think an important skill to teach kids is to sleep in places other than the crib. Honestly I'd rather have kids that sleep like shit than to spend years of my life stuck in the house from 12-3 every single day.
My kids never slept anywhere other than their cribs, and I totally disagree, I think it was important to teach them that sleep is an important thing, and I adored having a consistent nap time without them every day.
I think an important skill to teach kids is to sleep in places other than the crib. Honestly I'd rather have kids that sleep like shit than to spend years of my life stuck in the house from 12-3 every single day.
Eh my kids always slept best in their beds and never really took naps other places didn't mean we were stuck in the house everyday.
I don't know how that's possible. I can think of 3 community events we have gone to in the last month alone that were 12-3. We are going to a party on Saturday from 1-3.
Also when you have kids crib dependent what do you do when traveling? They must freak out, no?
Eh my kids always slept best in their beds and never really took naps other places didn't mean we were stuck in the house everyday.
I don't know how that's possible. I can think of 3 community events we have gone to in the last month alone that were 12-3. We are going to a party on Saturday from 1-3.
Also when you have kids crib dependent what do you do when traveling? They must freak out, no?
Um we are OOT at least once a month they sleep in a PNP. We still go to community events no nap isn't going to kill my kid he will be fine. How do you teach a kid to sleep on the go?
I don't know how that's possible. I can think of 3 community events we have gone to in the last month alone that were 12-3. We are going to a party on Saturday from 1-3.
Also when you have kids crib dependent what do you do when traveling? They must freak out, no?
Um we are OOT at least once a month they sleep in a PNP. We still go to community events no nap isn't going to kill my kid he will be fine. How do you teach a kid to sleep on the go?
That situation wasn't what I was talking about where you're ok skipping nap. It was more the attitude of why should I expect to be at an event during nap time. We worked on sleeping on the go by not making it a choice. I wasn't going to keep ds stuck in the house all day with a sleepy newborn. We rotated places we put the kids to sleep--pnp, carrier, stroller etc so it never had to be a situation that they had to be in their crib in a silent house exactly at 1159am or they simply couldn't sleep.
Um we are OOT at least once a month they sleep in a PNP. We still go to community events no nap isn't going to kill my kid he will be fine. How do you teach a kid to sleep on the go?
That situation wasn't what I was talking about where you're ok skipping nap. It was more the attitude of why should I expect to be at an event during nap time. We worked on sleeping on the go by not making it a choice. I wasn't going to keep ds stuck in the house all day with a sleepy newborn. We rotated places we put the kids to sleep--pnp, carrier, stroller etc so it never had to be a situation that they had to be in their crib in a silent house exactly at 1159am or they simply couldn't sleep.
I think kids sleep better in their crib when on the go and I think good quality sleep is essential for development. I have no problem being home for two hours a day to give a child time to sleep. Let's be real you aren't missing out on life for two hours a day. DS will not sleep in a stroller. We took him to Disney at 6 months old and there were two days he didn't nap at all. Poor little guy was not happy. There is no teaching him to sleep.
That situation wasn't what I was talking about where you're ok skipping nap. It was more the attitude of why should I expect to be at an event during nap time. We worked on sleeping on the go by not making it a choice. I wasn't going to keep ds stuck in the house all day with a sleepy newborn. We rotated places we put the kids to sleep--pnp, carrier, stroller etc so it never had to be a situation that they had to be in their crib in a silent house exactly at 1159am or they simply couldn't sleep.
I think kids sleep better in their crib when on the go and I think good quality sleep is essential for development. I have no problem being home for two hours a day to give a child time to sleep. Let's be real you aren't missing out on life for two hours a day. DS will not sleep in a stroller. We took him to Disney at 6 months old and there were two days he didn't nap at all. Poor little guy was not happy. There is no teaching him to sleep.
I think there's a balance of never being at home at nap time ever because you're always out and not being able to attend anything in that 2 hour window because your kid couldn't be ok. Of course some kids have rigidity around sleeping that's just their nature but I think a lot of parents unintentionally encourage them to be that way.
I think kids sleep better in their crib when on the go and I think good quality sleep is essential for development. I have no problem being home for two hours a day to give a child time to sleep. Let's be real you aren't missing out on life for two hours a day. DS will not sleep in a stroller. We took him to Disney at 6 months old and there were two days he didn't nap at all. Poor little guy was not happy. There is no teaching him to sleep.
I think there's a balance of never being at home at nap time ever because you're always out and not being able to attend anything in that 2 hour window because your kid couldn't be ok. Of course some kids have rigidity around sleeping that's just their nature but I think a lot of parents unintentionally encourage them to be that way.
We aren't such social butterflies that it's typically an issue. I simply don't sign up for activities during this time. Daycare adheres to a strict nap schedule and I do at home as well. I honestly don't mind staying home during that time, but I know some people have busier schedules. Frankly I need that time to get ready for the week. I would be irritated about giving up that time whether it was for this event or not, but I would do it on occassion. FWIW, my older dd will sleep anywhere or deal without a nap, my younger doesn't sleep worth shit, never has, so I value every precious moment of sleep she gives me. I agree that kids should be able to be flexible and nap elsewhere when absolutely needed, but I feel strongly that there's huge value in having a routine for kids and I make it a priority. Obviously not everyone does and that's fine.
I think there's a balance of never being at home at nap time ever because you're always out and not being able to attend anything in that 2 hour window because your kid couldn't be ok. Of course some kids have rigidity around sleeping that's just their nature but I think a lot of parents unintentionally encourage them to be that way.
We aren't such social butterflies that it's typically an issue. I simply don't sign up for activities during this time. Daycare adheres to a strict nap schedule and I do at home as well. I honestly don't mind staying home during that time, but I know some people have busier schedules. Frankly I need that time to get ready for the week. I would be irritated about giving up that time whether it was for this event or not, but I would do it on occassion. FWIW, my older dd will sleep anywhere or deal without a nap, my younger doesn't sleep worth shit, never has, so I value every precious moment of sleep she gives me. I agree that kids should be able to be flexible and nap elsewhere when absolutely needed, but I feel strongly that there's huge value in having a routine for kids and I make it a priority. Obviously not everyone does and that's fine.
I agree that routine is important. Can you go over early and put dd2 down at your parents' house in a pnp? Or will she not sleep out of her crib at all?
I think kids sleep better in their crib when on the go and I think good quality sleep is essential for development. I have no problem being home for two hours a day to give a child time to sleep. Let's be real you aren't missing out on life for two hours a day. DS will not sleep in a stroller. We took him to Disney at 6 months old and there were two days he didn't nap at all. Poor little guy was not happy. There is no teaching him to sleep.
I think there's a balance of never being at home at nap time ever because you're always out and not being able to attend anything in that 2 hour window because your kid couldn't be ok. Of course some kids have rigidity around sleeping that's just their nature but I think a lot of parents unintentionally encourage them to be that way.
I hear what you're saying but I def couldn't "teach" ds to sleep in a stroller either just didn't work for him. But we have taken him to Vegas, Nashville and San Diego and the pnp was fine for naps and nighttime sleep. Ds will cat nap in the car and that's it.
Our pedi said crib sleep is best but yeah can't always happen so we try to be flexible too.