State of the Ute 4.15.15

[oneslybookworm]

1. Where are you in your journey? - cycle 27, CD15, not sure how many days past ovulation, as I'm not temping or testing this cycle.


2. Testing this week? - Nope, taking this month off from all things TTC (other than sex)


3. Thoughts? Advice? Concerns? - DH had to leave on a work trip, so we couldn't do an IUI this month. We tried to BD anyways in my FW, so we'll see. I don't have much hopes for this cycle, but it has been nice to not have to test or chart. Just been relaxing and hanging out!


4. QOTW: What do you do for a living? Are you planning on being a working or SAH mom? - I'm a program manager in the automotive industry. I plan on working after having kids, as I can't imagine myself as a SAHM. I have all the respect in the world for them, but I don't think it's me. We are (thankfully) able to have one of us stay home, though, if we change our minds.

[Deleted]

1. Cycle 19, CD 20, but I ovulated on CD17
2. Not testing
3. No thoughts
4. I'm a secretary with a master's degree lol. I plan to be a SAHM.

[daisy]

1. Where are you in your journey? Cycle 10, 11 DPO

2. Testing this week? Only if AF doesn't show on Saturday. My temps have been steadily decreasing since CD8.

3. Thoughts? Advice? Concerns? My MIL brought up babies no less than a dozen times Saturday. I get it, you want a grandchild. We're trying.

4. QOTW: What do you do for a living? Are you planning on being a working or SAH mom? I'm in the financial industry. I would love to be a SAHM but we like having 2 salaries and the nice things that come with that too much.

[HoneySpider]

1. Where are you in your journey?
TTC #1 since Jan 2012, 1 loss

2. Testing this week?
Just OPKs, not for timing sex but just so I have a better idea of when my cycle will end

3. Thoughts? Advice? Concerns?
Met with the RE again this morning, we start our IVF cycle on my next cycle which should be in ~2.5 weeks. Anxious to get going but also depressed at how much it's going to cost even with insurance. We want to do pre-genetic testing because of the issues with our first child and it's expensive.


4. QOTW: What do you do for a living? Are you planning on being a working or SAH mom?
I run a very small nonprofit, Through the Heart, that provides pregnancy loss education & support. It's really more of a volunteer position than a career, though. I'm currently trying to get a job in my career field which is higher ed. Whether I work or stay at home depends if I have a job...at the rate I'm going, I'm honestly not sure what's going to come first, a job or a kid

[awick14]

1. TTC 2 1/2 years CD 37

2. Nope

3. I think this cycle i am not going to O. I have never Od this late before and I've given up this cycle. I'm waiting to hear back from my OB on if I should just jump start AF. Then I will meet with him May 4th to see what is going on.

4. I work as a paramedic. I will most likely just work a few less shifts to stay at home a little more then now, so a part time SAHM.

[raangoli]

TTCAL Cycle 7 6 DPO

Nope

My EDD would have been this Friday. I had been dreading this week/day for months. I ran a 8k on Sunday that I signed up for after the mm/c and sobbed crossing the finish line. It was bittersweet to be able to run the race but I felt like there was closure - at least I was able to see that through. Plus with everything going on with my mom I have been on a roller coaster of emotion.

I work in compliance and will continue to work after baby. We are in a HCOL area and it's just not feasible otherwise. Plus I do enjoy what I do.

[starryfish]

1. Where are you in your journey?
1st month starting to try

2. Testing this week?
not yet

3. Thoughts? Advice? Concerns?
Concerns...I am a little scared bc I have endo (diagnosed via surgery 9 years ago)

4. QOTW: What do you do for a living? Are you planning on being a working or SAH mom?

I am an aerospace engineer. I will be a working mom!

[HoneySpider]

((raangoli)) I'm glad you at least feel like you got some closure

[raangoli]

Thanks HoneySpider and scm1011 - I hope both of your respective appointments go well.  (hug2)

[ouokie]

1. Where are you in your journey? TTC #2, 3 losses, CD21, 4DPO


2. Testing this week? Nope, I'll test next week to see if I need to stop my progesterone

3. Thoughts? Advice? Concerns? This is my first cycle using Progesterone and I have been extremely emotional. I could barely watch the news last night because they were interviewing a lady that survived the Oklahoma City bombing (coming up on the 20th anniversary).

4. QOTW: What do you do for a living? Are you planning on being a working mom? I am currently a SAHM to DD. I did work in accounting for the first 4 years of her life.

[rockinrobyn]

1. Where are you in your journey? CD3 Cycle 12 TTACL


2. Testing this week? Nope


3. Thoughts? Advice? Concerns? Started this past cycle. HSG scheduled for 4/20, SA for H if he ever gets his shit together to make the appointment, then clomid pending all results. This is all very scary and overwhelming for me and I am not sure I am handling it well.


4. QOTW: What do you do for a living? Are you planning on being a working or SAH mom? Occupational Therapist and therapy manager. Working mom

[kellikans]

1. TTC since December 2013, IVF cycle #1, cd1

2. Nope

3. So glad cd1 arrived. Waiting for a call from my RE so we can schedule ET.

4. I'm an RN. I would absolutely love to be a SAHM, or at least go part time, but not sure how feasible it is since we are in a very HCOL area. We would have to weigh everything with childcare costs since we don't have any family near us.

[mac08]

1. TTC since March 2013, CD 15

2. I might use some OPK's, but this is my last cycle before IUI (hopefully) so I don't even feel like trying that hard this cycle.  I should probably go all out and hope for some sort of miracle so I don't have to do an IUI, but I am sort of resigned to it at this point.

3.  Ugh I just found out from the RE that I am a carrier of 2 genetic disorders, ones I have never heard of.  H is getting tested this week, so I am praying he is not also a carrier, otherwise that's another huge thing to deal with.

4.  I am a speech-language pathologist.  I would love to be a SAHM, but unless we move to a lower COL area it's not possible.

[boiler717]

1. IVF #1! Had ER Monday, will transfer saturday provided we have blasts. 3 zygotes incubating!
2. Nope
3. GL to all!
4. Pharmacist, I work in industry. I work from home with a flexible schedule and plan to continue to do so (with child care in-home until they are old enough to realize I'm around!)

[mskitkat]

1. Where are you in your journey? Cycle 10, CD 20

2. Testing this week? No

3. Thoughts? Advice? Concerns? Probably out. My grandfather passed away in the middle of FW, so that threw everything off. I didn't even temp through O.

4. QOTW: What do you do for a living? Are you planning on being a working or SAH mom? Chemist. I'll be a working mom.

[belle55]

1. TTCAL cycle 7, CD 11
2. OPK's
3. DH had his SA this week. Awaiting results. Will wait on CD 3 and CD 21 testing until/if I get a bfn this cycle.
4. I work in marketing. I will be a working mom. I'm not cut out for being a SAHM and it would be a real stretch financially.

[july]

TTC since summer 14. AL cycle 2, cd17
Positive opk today. Ovulation date should be Thursday or Friday.
Hoping for a little tax deduction on tax today.
I am a working mom. I manage engineers and professionals. I love my team and what we do. I knew sahm was not for me.

[july]

Sorry for,your loss, mskitkat

[mandiespharm]

1. Ttc since 2/13. 7d post IUI #2

2. Not allowed until a week from today

3. These two weeks aren't as bad as the first time. Mostly bc I'm super busy at work.

4. Pharmacist for a large retail chain. I will keep working. I thrive on being busy.

[EllenGriswold]

1. Where are you in your journey?
TTC since Nov. 2013; 11 dpIUI #2

2. Testing this week?
I might test Saturday or Sunday - I sort of want to wait and just see if I'm late.

3. Thoughts? Advice? Concerns?
I just got a job offer which makes our next steps somewhat tricky. If this IUI worked thats probably ideal, although new job might not be pleased. I'm not sure if I would have time for another IUI before we moved, and its a much smaller city so any new RE would be at least a couple hours away if we needed it. Things to consider.

4. QOTW: What do you do for a living? Are you planning on being a working or SAH mom?
I officially graduate from law school in a month. I'm applying (and have an offer) to be a criminal prosecutor.  I have no desire to be a SAHM, it's just not for me - H has potentially talked about being a SAHD, but I don't know if he would really do it.  

[macmars45]

1. CD 17... not sure if I ovulated. I may have tested at a time where I missed my window for a positive OPK.

2. Still just OPKs. I'm nearing the end of FW.

3. I really really hope I just tested at a time where I missed my positive OPK window. We had good timing this cycle if I did in fact ovulate at some point.

4. I teach preschool for a public school district. H and I have discussed our options and will cross the SAHM bridge when we get there. Most likely I'll stay home for a year or two mostly because daycare costs would equal my monthly pay. (H out earns me by so much that we can't afford for him to be a SAHD.)

[loira]

1. Cycle 4 TTCAL#4, 9DPO
2. Yep, but BFN today so far.
3. I really, really want this hail mary cycle to be it for us, but I have the sinking feeling it won't be. Yesterday was hard for me as it was the anniversary of the day we went into the hospital just thinking it was a follow up, and were told there was something seriously wrong with our daughter. I still don't remember how I got home from the hospital that day. All I remember is crumpling to the floor, then the next thing I knew, I was back at home trying (and failing) to eat pasta salad. I haven't eaten pasta salad since.
4. Before losing V, I would have been very enthusiastic to keep working after my mat leave. Now I think if we could swing it, I'd like to stay home for a couple of years. Of course, I could totally change my mind and go back to work after finding myself bored, so it's all up in the air.

Huge hugs raangoli.
I'm sorry for your loss mskitkat.
Hope your appointment goes well, HoneySpider!

[mrsbunny]

1. Where are you in your journey?
TTC #1 since Jan '14. 1 loss. Cycle 12 (since loss), CD 14.




2. Testing this week?
No. 


 
3. Thoughts? Advice? Concerns?
The next two weeks are going to be crazy as I'm wrapping up my semester. I'm excited for summer, though. I'll be taking a few online classes, but I'll be done with my internship and the million credits I'm taking now. Loving this warm weather, too!



4. QOTW: What do you do for a living? Are you planning on being a working or SAH mom?
I'm a social worker, working on my MSW right now (I'll graduate May of next year.) I'll have to be a working mom since I doubt we'll make enough for me to stay home. I do plan to stay home for the first few months, though. DH wants to be a SAHD but since he's in IT where the money is and I'm in social work (no money, haha) he doesn't have that option. 

[mrsbunny]

mskitkat, sorry for your loss.


raangoli, sorry for your loss, although it sounds like you got some closure. I was in class on my due date and started crying right there. It's hard.


mac08, I hope everything goes well with your testing. It can be a scary thing.

[raangoli]

Hugs to you, too loira. And fingers crossed that this is it.

mrsbunny - I am sorry for your loss as well. It is so hard, and I keep hoping in time that it gets easier and it has to a degree. Except sometimes it just blindsides you again.

mskitkat - I am sorry for your loss

[belle55]

hugs raangoli. I'm glad you got some closure and hope you start feeling like yourself soon.

hugs to you too loira.

[shauni27]

raangoli, I am so sorry. I hope you were able to get some closure.
mrsbunny and mskitkat I am so sorry for your losses.

1. Where are you in your journey?
Cycle 24, CD 5


2. Testing this week?
Nope. Taking a couple of months off TTC.



3. Thoughts? Advice? Concerns?
I leave for vacation on Monday and cannot wait. We need a break and are enjoying the break from trying. We watched the episode of Friends last night where Monica and Chandler decide to adopt and my husband and I just got quiet and hugged because we are worried we are going to be at that point soon too.


4. QOTW: What do you do for a living? Are you planning on being a working or SAH mom?
I work in higher education (medical school). I will be a working mom because I am the primary breadwinner of our home and we cannot afford for me to not work. We are a MCOL area but daycare here is pretty reasonable, some people in other regions pay for a week what we will have to pay in a month!

[Waffles]

1. TTC #1 got BFP on cycle 3 but it stopped growing and there was no heartbeat at 9 weeks scan so I had a d&c yesterday. Will be on the pill for the next 2 months but then planning to ttc again so I might not be a regular poster but I'll sort of stick around if you don't mind.
2. Obviously not.
4.

[Waffles]

Stupid phone! Anyway.

[Mushe]

Waffles, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please do stick around.