Engagement help!

[MyName]

I think since they've been together for 10 years, he should just talk to her about the ring she wants, buy it, and then propose.

I hate surprises though. lol

[alabasterangel]

I would totally do a cheese quarter ring until she could pick out what she wanted.

[MyName]

Apr 15, 2015 11:52:04 GMT -5 @stellarsailor said:

They have. She's really vague and has high expectations.

If I were a dude that would be daunting as hell LOL

Well, that is certainly counterproductive!

Maybe he shouldn't marry her; she sounds difficult.  hahaha

But given that this is how she's playing it, I don't think she'd be happy with a ring-less proposal either.  He needs to start showing her stuff online (my e-ring came from Blue Nile) or find an excuse to wander into a jewelry store to get a real idea of wtf she wants. 

[lexxasaurus]

My BFF got proposed to with a Cracker Jack ring! They later picked out a gorgeous wedding set for her but he asked with "a ring" because it didn't feel complete without it, and then she was able to pick out exactly what she wanted.

[lexxasaurus]

Actually I'm kind of hoping when Bryan asks he either gets the one I have on file (I had to go in and get my diamond ring from my mom repaired, tried some on while I waited) or takes me with him to pick it out. I would love anything he bought me, but I have knobby thin hands and I'm not comfortable with very many styles so I'd like to try it on before I commit to it.

[RoxMonster]

I wouldn't be offended if someone proposed to me without a ring, but it would be a little bit of a letdown/disappointment if I'm being totally honest. I know a ring isn't even a requirement to be engaged or married, but it's something a lot of us look forward to, I think.

What about taking her ring shopping with him before proposing? H took me ring shopping a couple times. I was still flabbergasted and totally surprised when he asked. I didn't know he'd be asking so soon, didn't think he'd even saved up enough to buy a ring yet, etc. I didn't pick out the exact ring he got me, but he paid attention to the cut I liked and what not and got me one I loved. You could have her pick out the exact ring though or one very similar to what he'll buy. It can still be a surprise when he proposes.

[sapphire bou]

It sounds like she needs a ring to accompany the proposal.

Ideas (in addition to what's already been said)
-He could take her on a date and just go browsing around, take her to the jewelry store, drop down on one knee, propose and say (in an eloquent way) now pick your ring. Then have a nice dinner planned.
-I had a friend who proposed with a ring he got from his grandmother, then he took his new fiance ring shopping the next day.


We were super romantic (not). I knew where I wanted my ring from, so I was shopping online and had picked out a few. H saw one over my shoulder and said "that one's really pretty." It was one of my top two, so that's the one we went with. He proposed a few months later, and I totally ruined the romance in that too.

[darkling_glory]

We picked out my ring together before we were "officially" engaged. I'm glad. My ring is perfectly me. Unique and custom made. I love it.

If she's picky, I'd go with that route.