A lady in my mom's group asked about deciding between OAD and having a second. Immediately, everyone started chiming in with, "Kids need a sibling!" and "Only children have a deep seated loneliness that never goes away" and "Don't be selfish" and "Make this sacrifice for your child!" Then one person made a comment about it being more selfish to have kids you can't afford and it was, "I would rather have my brothers than birthday presents!" and "You don't know my lyfe."
I know this isn't an UO here but I hate the only-child shaming and especially when people are so rude but get up in arms when it is thrown back at them.
Lofl. I am an only child and I can assure you I don't suffer from "deep seated loneliness." Smh.
A lady in my mom's group asked about deciding between OAD and having a second. Immediately, everyone started chiming in with, "Kids need a sibling!" and "Only children have a deep seated loneliness that never goes away" and "Don't be selfish" and "Make this sacrifice for your child!" Then one person made a comment about it being more selfish to have kids you can't afford and it was, "I would rather have my brothers than birthday presents!" and "You don't know my lyfe."
I know this isn't an UO here but I hate the only-child shaming and especially when people are so rude but get up in arms when it is thrown back at them.
Lofl. I am an only child and I can assure you I don't suffer from "deep seated loneliness." Smh.
No shit, right? I think some of these people need therapy, they're way too obsessed with how many kids other people have.
and ftr, I have 4 siblings and haven't seen any of them in a year and a half. DD doesn't even "know" she has aunts. She's only met them twice. Having siblings doesn't mean you'll be super tight forever.
Along the same lines, I have a FB friend (who grew up in a large family on a farm in the middle of nowhere--free range and all) who said her stepson (8 yr old) doesn't like to be outside and get dirty so she told him he had to stay out for 2 hours and she wouldn't let him wash off because "dirt is good for kids. They NEED to be out and playing." He was crying because he just wanted to wash off and she told him too bad.
Ummm sure. Exercise and sunshine are nice. Some kids don't like to be dirty though? Can't he play tennis or something? Why does it HAVE to be outside the way YOU like to be outside? Side eyes from me.
Holy shit I hope that kid doesn't have some kind of sensory issue that made this even more awful for him. Jack would absolutely not care if he was filthy, but Ava cries when her hands get dirty and immediately wants to wash.
A lady in my mom's group asked about deciding between OAD and having a second. Immediately, everyone started chiming in with, "Kids need a sibling!" and "Only children have a deep seated loneliness that never goes away" and "Don't be selfish" and "Make this sacrifice for your child!" Then one person made a comment about it being more selfish to have kids you can't afford and it was, "I would rather have my brothers than birthday presents!" and "You don't know my lyfe."
I know this isn't an UO here but I hate the only-child shaming and especially when people are so rude but get up in arms when it is thrown back at them.
I have people telling me "You really should have another, L needs a sibling." Granted they don't know I just had a loss less than three months ago, but still, why comment? It's painful for sure.
Yep on Christmas eve, DH's aunt was holding a neighbor's 6 month old girl & started in on, "LLL you need one of these! " I was pissed & she crossed the line when she told my DS that he needs to tell mommy to have one.
I reminded her that it took a long time & fertility drugs to get DS & that we don't have much control over it. I hope she felt like shit bc I sure did, especially on a night that's all about family & making memories.
A lady in my mom's group asked about deciding between OAD and having a second. Immediately, everyone started chiming in with, "Kids need a sibling!" and "Only children have a deep seated loneliness that never goes away" and "Don't be selfish" and "Make this sacrifice for your child!" Then one person made a comment about it being more selfish to have kids you can't afford and it was, "I would rather have my brothers than birthday presents!" and "You don't know my lyfe."
I know this isn't an UO here but I hate the only-child shaming and especially when people are so rude but get up in arms when it is thrown back at them.
Someone pulled the OAD shaming on my cousin recently. She lost her shit on them. Know why she can't have kids? She's 30yo with ovarian and uteran cancer and just had the cancer come back. Now she's looking at a full hysterectomy, on top of I'm sure some other horribly debilitating cancer treatment. And she'll need months and months to recover. And as the breadwinner in her family, it's probably going to hurt them badly from a financial perspective.
Post by rosesandpetals on Apr 16, 2015 16:06:36 GMT -5
To be fair, this lady's argument was basically that she couldn't afford to SAH or go on vacations w/o her husband if she had 2 kids. But still, why does it matter? People get so crazy about only children. If you're not paying for them and babysitting on call then stfu.
Oh and that "inclusive" classrooms where all kids get invited to parties are the same thing as giving everyone a trophy and it gives kids a sense of entitlement.
There's a UO on my BMB about how if you're jobless and you're calling companies inquiring if they're hiring you're lazy and don't deserve work.
I just can't.
Um, what exactly are you supposed to do? It's not like companies take walk-ins anymore. The last several jobs I got (retail and bank teller, so not higher professional levels) all directed me to their website when I asked in person if they were hiring.
It seemed really lost on them that gas is not free and if you're jobless.... You also likely lack MONEY.
I read that and your board is ridiculous! I love how they were all like public trans! Um I have never lived in a area with a public transportation service.
It seemed really lost on them that gas is not free and if you're jobless.... You also likely lack MONEY.
I read that and your board is ridiculous! I love how they were all like public trans! Um I have never lived in a area with a public transportation service.
Not to mention it's not like public transit is free! The NYC subway is up to $2.75/ride or $116.50/monthly. That's not a small amount of money, especially if you're unemployed!