Going to need to kill my H now

[nursewife]

I finally had a chance to sit down and drink the coffee I'd been making (had forgot about it twice) since noon. I was happy to sit and reply to some stuff I'm selling on FB. H asked why I hadn't cleaned more (I've been cleaning for the last 2 hours) since my parents are coming over later. While giving him a death glare, and accidentally knocked my coffee onto the floor which he bitched about. Who is willing to post bail for me tonight?

[nursewife]

Apr 19, 2015 14:24:37 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I'm just thinking of a sentence that belongs on the top of the list of sentences NO ONE should ever say, and it's "Why haven't you cleaned more???"

Yes! That pissed me off. The coffee made me want to cry. I need my caffeine!

[EmilieMadison]

And how much cleaning has he done in preparation of the visit?
Unless he's been fucking Cinderella for the last week, while you have literally done nothing, then fuck him.

[AHappierHour]

I would have told him because it's your turn.

[leeluu]

Sometimes I feel like the death stare just isn't enough...like in this instance, for example.

[Velvetshady]

Apr 19, 2015 14:55:54 GMT -5 leeluu said:

Sometimes I feel like the death stare just isn't enough...like in this instance, for example.

True. Unless "death stare" includes death beams actually shooting from the eyes.

[nursewife]

Apr 19, 2015 14:46:17 GMT -5 EmilieMadison said:

And how much cleaning has he done in preparation of the visit?
Unless he's been fucking Cinderella for the last week, while you have literally done nothing, then fuck him.

Absolutely nothing. He has been getting his shit together for income tax (finally). I've left out a soaking dish for him to scrub 3 weeks ago that is still in the sink. I'm pissed he hasn't touched it (I HATE scrubbing dishes with stuck on food, it makes me gag) when he said he would the night it was used. I'm leaving it on principle. You can't say you are going to do it, and then decide you to get pissed off at me when you're too lazy to clean it.

[nursewife]

Apr 19, 2015 15:05:29 GMT -5 daisyfay25 said:

Apr 19, 2015 15:01:11 GMT -5 nursewife said:

Absolutely nothing. He has been getting his shit together for income tax (finally). I've left out a soaking dish for him to scrub 3 weeks ago that is still in the sink. I'm pissed he hasn't touched it (I HATE scrubbing dishes with stuck on food, it makes me gag) when he said he would the night it was used. I'm leaving it on principle. You can't say you are going to do it, and then decide you to get pissed off at me when you're too lazy to clean it.

Omg 3 weeks?! I would have murdered him after that comment.

I may have teared up. I hate that cleaning is the thing we fight about most. All I want is help. Since I'm a SAHM he thinks I should be doing all the cleaning.

[EmilieMadison]

Apr 19, 2015 15:07:25 GMT -5 nursewife said:

Apr 19, 2015 15:05:29 GMT -5 daisyfay25 said:

Omg 3 weeks?! I would have murdered him after that comment.

I may have teared up. I hate that cleaning is the thing we fight about most. All I want is help. Since I'm a SAHM he thinks I should be doing all the cleaning.

So hire a cleaning person. Tell him it's being paid for with the money you're not spending on daycare. And because you would rather spend it on a cleaner than his funeral. 

[Deleted]

Listen, one of you needs to grow up and wash that 3 week old dish.

[Deleted]

Apr 19, 2015 16:14:11 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I'd throw away the dish, because that's how I am. Don't wanna wash it? ok. neither do I. And I don't want to have to nag anyone about it, either, and I don't want to feel like shit about washing it after all this time.

And obviously no one needs to cook with it if it's been 3 weeks, lol. Throw that shit out!

[sandyapples]

Look, I get it. I'm a SAHM too. I do 90% of the cleaning on a day to day basis. But if it's the weekend and you are having people over, his ass better be cleaning.

[venice2007]

Apr 19, 2015 16:14:11 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I'd throw away the dish, because that's how I am. Don't wanna wash it? ok. neither do I. And I don't want to have to nag anyone about it, either, and I don't want to feel like shit about washing it after all this time.

This was my thought. At this point throw the gross ass dish away

[Deleted]

Apr 19, 2015 16:15:57 GMT -5 @smace said:

Apr 19, 2015 16:14:11 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I'd throw away the dish, because that's how I am. Don't wanna wash it? ok. neither do I. And I don't want to have to nag anyone about it, either, and I don't want to feel like shit about washing it after all this time.

I've done that with my husband's clothes when he refuses to use a hamper.

oops.

Haha, same. Dirty balled up socks in the middle of nowhere? Sorry dude.

[iamgrace]

I absolutely cannot get over the fact that a dish has been soaking in your sink for three weeks.

Are you still in college?

Seriously.

This is going to keep me up at night.

[cville]

Apr 19, 2015 16:25:24 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

I absolutely cannot get over the fact that a dish has been soaking in your sink for three weeks.

Are you still in college?

Seriously.

This is going to keep me up at night.

What must be growing in that water. I shudder.

[jreeds]

Apr 19, 2015 16:14:11 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I'd throw away the dish, because that's how I am. Don't wanna wash it? ok. neither do I. And I don't want to have to nag anyone about it, either, and I don't want to feel like shit about washing it after all this time.

Yup, this is me too. Done and done.

[venice2007]

Apr 19, 2015 16:30:45 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Apr 19, 2015 16:16:41 GMT -5 venice2007 said:

This was my thought. At this point throw the gross ass dish away

and clearly, it is not used very often, so no one's going to miss it. I wouldn't make whatever it was I'd made in that dish he wouldn't wash, either. 

age does not always bring maturity, I'm just saying. 

It's like you're in my head! :-) lol

[killercupcake]

Apr 19, 2015 16:28:55 GMT -5 cville said:

Apr 19, 2015 16:25:24 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

I absolutely cannot get over the fact that a dish has been soaking in your sink for three weeks.

Are you still in college?

Seriously.

This is going to keep me up at night.

What must be growing in that water. I shudder.

[tacosforlife]

Sue sue is killing it this thread.

[pantsparty]

I would not be doing a goddamn thing until that dish was cleaned. OMG.

[killercupcake]

Listen. Break that dish, stab him with a sharp piece, bleach the hell out of your sink, and then bury the body in the backyard.

I do the cleaning around here because it relaxes me. I don't even want H to help. But if H ever asked me why I wasn't cleaning more, he'd be the new fertilizer in the vegetable planter.

[nursewife]

Apr 19, 2015 16:30:45 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Apr 19, 2015 16:16:41 GMT -5 venice2007 said:

This was my thought. At this point throw the gross ass dish away

and clearly, it is not used very often, so no one's going to miss it. I wouldn't make whatever it was I'd made in that dish he wouldn't wash, either. 

age does not always bring maturity, I'm just saying. 

It's a piece of my stoneware. It's been sitting beside the sink. I do realize I'm being a total pain in the ass about it.

I also am waiting to hear back from a few people about cleaning. My fingers are crossed by next week I have something worked out with one of them!

[nursewife]

Apr 19, 2015 16:52:09 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

Apr 19, 2015 16:28:55 GMT -5 cville said:

What must be growing in that water. I shudder.

I've rinsed it out multiple times. It isn't growing anything! I need to get gloves as I can't stand touching things that have been soaked. If it wasn't stone it wouldn't be a problem as I'd put it in the dishwasher.

The reason this is a stand off is since he thought it was ok to tell me that I do dishes not to his liking. Since I don't do it well enough for him, he can clean it! 

[Jalapeñomel]

Apr 19, 2015 20:03:04 GMT -5 nursewife said:

Apr 19, 2015 16:52:09 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

I've rinsed it out multiple times. It isn't growing anything! I need to get gloves as I can't stand touching things that have been soaked. If it wasn't stone it wouldn't be a problem as I'd put it in the dishwasher.

The reason this is a stand off is since he thought it was ok to tell me that I do dishes not to his liking. Since I don't do it well enough for him, he can clean it! 

Apparently, his liking is to let it soak for 3 weeks.  Try that next time. 

[cville]

Apr 19, 2015 20:32:28 GMT -5 intentionalsnarkshark said:

The boyfriend I lived with complained about the way I folded his clothes.

After that they were never again folded by my hands. And for good measure I didn't hang up any shirts or roll any socks either. Ya know, lest I do it wrong.

I haven't touched my husband's super special baking tools/knives/pots/whatever for the same reason. Oh, I'm supposed to dry that by hand under a full moon or some shit? Naw.

[Deleted]

Any complaints received pre-coffee are not acceptable. 

[themysteriouswife]

There is no fucking way I weould use that stone dish again. Those damn things are already germ catchers.

[franklin]

It's one thing to have a few days, or maybe even a week, standoff but three weeks - that's crazy! Maybe I missed it, but have you brought it up at all? If you guys are stubborn enough to leave dirty dishes for three weeks maybe you need to start a chore schedule. I don't ... I've gotten pissed at H about not doing dishes, but I only let it go like two or three days.

[nursewife]

Apr 19, 2015 21:27:05 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Is it stoneware, or is it a stone dish?

Stoneware.