3. Thoughts, vents, etc.? If I'm not pregnant this cycle, I'm going to contact the fertility specialist DH saw and see if I can get in. I did get pregnant once, so half of me thinks that I should be fine. But then again, we got pregnant in the first cycle last time and now it's been nearly year...I just worry something's wrong or got messed up during my D&C or something. (Probably irrational, but there you go.)
Not irrational, there are a lot of things that can change/happen after a D&C (or even after a regular pregnancy). Even if everything was done perfectly your body still responds in certain ways and it could be causing an issue now.
3. Thoughts, vents, etc.? If I'm not pregnant this cycle, I'm going to contact the fertility specialist DH saw and see if I can get in. I did get pregnant once, so half of me thinks that I should be fine. But then again, we got pregnant in the first cycle last time and now it's been nearly year...I just worry something's wrong or got messed up during my D&C or something. (Probably irrational, but there you go.)
Not irrational, there are a lot of things that can change/happen after a D&C (or even after a regular pregnancy). Even if everything was done perfectly your body still responds in certain ways and it could be causing an issue now.
Thank you. I was really nervous to have the D&C to begin with as I have never been admitted to the hospital for anything, so I think that adds to my concern about something having gone wrong despite the doctors saying the surgery went fine. My cycles are consistent and regular and I seem to be ovulating.
However, we got pregnant after one month off BCP which I had been on for a number of years. This is the first time I've had my regular, heavy, painful, terrible periods since I was 18. So maybe that has something to do with it, too. I don't know. But I guess it's good to get some answers. I'm just anxious because people keep telling me I'm young, I have time, I should be able to get pregnant no problem, so I feel like a failure when it's been such a struggle.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
I'm so sorry @madiesh14 mrsbunny I think if you are feeling it, you should contact the RE. I don't know anyone who says they should have waited longer!
Post by HoneySpider on Apr 22, 2015 15:02:34 GMT -5
mrsbunny I know everyone's different so I say this not in a "this is what happened to me so this must be what's happened to you!" kind of way, more just to share my experience.
I had a D&E in Feb 2013, everything went well according to the doctor. Once my period came back it was normal (I started spotting ahead of time but only difference), I ovulated, etc. Everything sort of fell back in to place. Later that year we started some testing, all my bloodwork came back normal. After many months of excellent timing, trying clomid, etc still not pregnant.
Long story short, my new doctors here found a few issues that developed since my procedure - I actually had a piece of the baby's bone that was retained in my uterus, I had a ton of scarring, and I have damage to my tubes. So even though my procedure DID go well (except for that retained piece of bone, ugh) the way my body healed made it really hard for anything to happen even though everything appeared normal.
This is a very long way of saying stuff can happen, definitely talk to your doctor/see a RE if you're concerned. Just because you're young, got pregnant easily, etc doesn't mean anything but people - even doctors - like to operate in that mindset sometimes. You need to be your own advocate! I told this exact same thing to my SIL recently - first pregnancy, pregnant first cycle trying, no issues. Starting trying again last year, a few cycles in, got pregnant, miscarried. It's now been 8 or so months and she's not pregnant again but when she brought it up to her ob/gyn, he said not to be concerned until it's been a year - and the year reset when she miscarried. I told her no way! Although there may be nothing wrong, there very well could be, and it doesn't hurt to at least start bloodwork, HSG, etc.
Sorry I ended up rambling but I feel strongly that women who have miscarried need a different plan than others.
HoneySpider, no worries about rambling, that was all actually VERY helpful to hear. I was barely 24 when I got pregnant the first time (25 now) so I've heard from everyone, including doctors, that we shouldn't worry unless we've been trying for a year+. And yes, that the year "resets" after the MC. I hate wasted time, though. I think advocating for DH was easy for me compared to advocating for myself. With him, we knew about his low testosterone for a few years before TTC so it was easier for him to be seen and for me to cause a ruckus when the doctors put it off. I haven't asked to be seen yet, but my primary care doctor said to wait until the end of the year before checking into things. (You're young, it might just take time, doesn't mean anything's wrong necessarily...) I don't believe I can wait that long.
I am SO sorry about everything concerning your D&E. That sounds terrible. At the same time, it shows that I'm not totally crazy for wondering if something is wrong. If you don't mind my asking, how do they check for damage to your uterus/tubes, etc? I mean, if I made an appt, what would they do? I had a PAP smear a few months ago and that was normal, so I don't know what else they do. My mom had some tests done when she was having us kids and it was horrible, but things have probably changed since then.
DH and I are also SO worried that we're going to get pregnant and then miscarry again and then start this whole damn process ALL OVER. After the year+ we've been working on this. I do feel like I want to be treated differently by doctors due to my MC, but they just say 'unless you've had 3 or more...'
Anyway, thank you for validating my feelings of worry. They tell you there's such a small chance of anything going wrong with the D&C that I felt like I was just making things up so I could get in to the doctor.
Post by HoneySpider on Apr 22, 2015 15:29:27 GMT -5
mrsbunny You can get a HSG done to check if your tubes are open (they insert dye to see if it flows through) and this is a pretty common step early on for people who are having trouble.
I had a HSG in June of last year and my tubes were open. Fast forward ~6 months, I moved and started with a RE in my new city. She reviewed the films and didn't like what she saw so she sent me for a hysteroscopy which is how they can look at your uterus. That's how I found out about my issues there. Had a few more hysteroscopies and got cleaned up and now my uterus is in good shape. When that was done, went to have another HSG and that's when I found out one tube is blocked (likely scar tissue) and one is damaged. There's no way of knowing what caused the damage and really it doesn't matter (although it's frustrating not to know) the main thing is, it's a problem. Now that we know, we can create a better plan for moving forward.
If you're able to see a RE I would suggest going, it's their job to get you pregnant and so they're more proactive about testing, etc. I am really grateful I have such great doctors here, it's made such a difference.
HoneySpider, thanks for the information. It's helpful to hear about someone's experiences as this all seems so foreign to me still. I do think that knowing what is happening or not happening is what is most important so we can move on and figure out what to do from here.
DH is actually being seen at U of M's fertility clinic which has been great. He sees the urologist there for his testosterone problems (started there in Jan after terrible work with his old endocrinologist), so I figured I could go the same place. I've heard nothing but good things about them, and I did like our last experience there. I had honestly not thought of going to a fertility specialist despite everything until my mom mentioned it several months ago. I didn't think the doctors would take us seriously, but they did and it was so awesome.
I think I'll wait until after this cycle to pursue it, though. I'm in the TWW period (AF is due a week from Friday) and I don't want to start something if I wind up being pregnant this cycle. Of course, I think that EVERY cycle so there's that.
Three and then we would use FSH instead of clomid. Which is making me a hot freakin mess. I'm crying over nothing and let me tell you how much I HATE my job right now. Like if I could quit today I would.
Three and then we would use FSH instead of clomid. Which is making me a hot freakin mess. I'm crying over nothing and let me tell you how much I HATE my job right now. Like if I could quit today I would.
Ughhhh, I'm so sorry. Are you in a commercial pharmacy? Working with the public can be the worst when you're not in a good head space. By FSH, do you mean something like Letrozole/Femara? I'm new to this.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
Three and then we would use FSH instead of clomid. Which is making me a hot freakin mess. I'm crying over nothing and let me tell you how much I HATE my job right now. Like if I could quit today I would.
Ughhhh, I'm so sorry. Are you in a commercial pharmacy? Working with the public can be the worst when you're not in a good head space. By FSH, do you mean something like Letrozole/Femara? I'm new to this.
I do work in retail. For a large chain. I love my people but I hate the politics that run said company.
I don't know what they mean exactly...I think follistim maybe?? I've been doing clomid and hcg shots.
Ughhhh, I'm so sorry. Are you in a commercial pharmacy? Working with the public can be the worst when you're not in a good head space. By FSH, do you mean something like Letrozole/Femara? I'm new to this.
I do work in retail. For a large chain. I love my people but I hate the politics that run said company.
I don't know what they mean exactly...I think follistim maybe?? I've been doing clomid and hcg shots.
Ah, okay! I am just graduating to injects, so I apologize for my ignorance. I hope this next one is it for you!
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
3. Thoughts, vents, etc.? I'm just frustrated with TTC this week. I was really optimistic about last month and it obviously didn't happen. CD1 was also the same day (the 19th) that I started bleeding during my CP so I was extra emotional.
4. Favorite spring recipe? I love a simple pasta salad with lots of fresh fruit and veggies in it.
Ughhhh, I'm so sorry. Are you in a commercial pharmacy? Working with the public can be the worst when you're not in a good head space. By FSH, do you mean something like Letrozole/Femara? I'm new to this.
I do work in retail. For a large chain. I love my people but I hate the politics that run said company.
I don't know what they mean exactly...I think follistim maybe?? I've been doing clomid and hcg shots.
I didn't know you were a pharmacist! I'm one too . I work in Pharma though.
I'm a lurker, so I hope its ok if I use this as my intro.
1. Where are you in your journey? Cycle 4, 11 DPO (CD 26). I had a missed m/c in jan of 2009 with exh, and then 3 years of unsuccessful trying. I made my OB promise to start testing and stuff after 6 months instead of a year, so we'll see how it goes.
2. Testing this week? Wondfo HPT this am, BFN. I need to learn to wait til I'm late. I'm too anxious to know. haha.
3. Thoughts, vents, etc.? I have an appt to get my wisdom teeth out next month,right when I should be several DPO, so I'm feeling like maybe we should sit Cycle 5 out? I'm assuming going under anesthesia is a no go if you are pg, so I dunno. We'll see.
4. Favorite spring recipe? MY grandma's lemonade cake. I guess its more summery, but its soooo good. And I usually don't dig lemon stuff.
I'm a lurker, so I hope its ok if I use this as my intro.
1. Where are you in your journey? Cycle 4, 11 DPO (CD 26). I had a missed m/c in jan of 2009 with exh, and then 3 years of unsuccessful trying. I made my OB promise to start testing and stuff after 6 months instead of a year, so we'll see how it goes.
2. Testing this week? Wondfo HPT this am, BFN. I need to learn to wait til I'm late. I'm too anxious to know. haha.
3. Thoughts, vents, etc.? I have an appt to get my wisdom teeth out next month,right when I should be several DPO, so I'm feeling like maybe we should sit Cycle 5 out? I'm assuming going under anesthesia is a no go if you are pg, so I dunno. We'll see.
4. Favorite spring recipe? MY grandma's lemonade cake. I guess its more summery, but its soooo good. And I usually don't dig lemon stuff.
Welcome, and good luck with TTC! I'm so sorry for your loss.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
BFN and cramping today despite my best looking chart yet. I found a local support group (thanks to someone who posted about it on my Facebook!) and plan on going. I cried because it feels good to physically be able to do something about this. GP has been a life saver for me...but I need to also go do something in-person. I can't afford therapy right now lol.
MrsMB, hugs! I'm so glad you found a local group. I swear, talking about it has helped me so much. I can now tell people my 'story' as it were without crying.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
I'm a lurker, so I hope its ok if I use this as my intro.
1. Where are you in your journey? Cycle 4, 11 DPO (CD 26). I had a missed m/c in jan of 2009 with exh, and then 3 years of unsuccessful trying. I made my OB promise to start testing and stuff after 6 months instead of a year, so we'll see how it goes.
2. Testing this week? Wondfo HPT this am, BFN. I need to learn to wait til I'm late. I'm too anxious to know. haha.
3. Thoughts, vents, etc.? I have an appt to get my wisdom teeth out next month,right when I should be several DPO, so I'm feeling like maybe we should sit Cycle 5 out? I'm assuming going under anesthesia is a no go if you are pg, so I dunno. We'll see.
4. Favorite spring recipe? MY grandma's lemonade cake. I guess its more summery, but its soooo good. And I usually don't dig lemon stuff.
3. Thoughts, vents, etc.? I'm just frustrated with TTC this week. I was really optimistic about last month and it obviously didn't happen. CD1 was also the same day (the 19th) that I started bleeding during my CP so I was extra emotional.
4. Favorite spring recipe? I love a simple pasta salad with lots of fresh fruit and veggies in it.
Sorry. The first cycle sucks. I was pretty optimistic and went through the loss grief again after cd1. Also, cd1 was on the 30th, the same day as the d&c. Feb doesn't have a 30th, so I kept thinking about how every 30th day on the month in 2015 so far has been absolutely shitastic.
BFN and cramping today despite my best looking chart yet. I found a local support group (thanks to someone who posted about it on my Facebook!) and plan on going. I cried because it feels good to physically be able to do something about this. GP has been a life saver for me...but I need to also go do something in-person. I can't afford therapy right now lol.
I'm a lurker, so I hope its ok if I use this as my intro.
1. Where are you in your journey? Cycle 4, 11 DPO (CD 26). I had a missed m/c in jan of 2009 with exh, and then 3 years of unsuccessful trying. I made my OB promise to start testing and stuff after 6 months instead of a year, so we'll see how it goes.
2. Testing this week? Wondfo HPT this am, BFN. I need to learn to wait til I'm late. I'm too anxious to know. haha.
3. Thoughts, vents, etc.? I have an appt to get my wisdom teeth out next month,right when I should be several DPO, so I'm feeling like maybe we should sit Cycle 5 out? I'm assuming going under anesthesia is a no go if you are pg, so I dunno. We'll see.
4. Favorite spring recipe? MY grandma's lemonade cake. I guess its more summery, but its soooo good. And I usually don't dig lemon stuff.
If you need a break from work and someone to talk to you can alway come visit me. but I'm guessing if you can't afford a therapist flying to another country isn't going to work either.
3. Thoughts, vents, etc.? On the downside, I think I O'd really early last month and my cycle was super short. On the plus side, this puts my FW during my Caribbean cruise next month (assuming I'm not successful this cycle)! If I'm not successful THEN, I will smack each and every person who tells me to just relax.
4. Favorite spring recipe? IDK what's a "spring" recipe, but warm weather means salads to me. I could eat salad every single day.