Black people meeting-->The Problem With Black Women

[iammalcolmx]

Welcome to the plight of the light African American woman navigating the "darker the berry the sweeter the juice" cosmos,

I stopped here. I hope this doesn't go the wrong way........::goes back to reading::

ETA: JUST GOT HERE!!! I think this is going to be OK

In all fairness, this "mulatto" (which technically I am not) has led a far easier life simply because I lack darkness.

Oh boy......

Since moving to Atlanta in the millennia, I've befriended mostly white women. Why? The unvarnished truth lies somewhere between my own emotional hang-ups and the fact that most of the darker black women I've met are competitive, strident, pushy and critical of my decisions. As such, it's been easier to socialize with those women who value my friendship without stipulations and constant backtalk. Thus, my friendships with white women are neat, unfettered and based solely on our likes and dislikes. And instead of forcing my friendship on black women who want nothing to do with me, I've allowed my other relationships to develop organically even if it meant there was a glaring absence of color that would cause my ancestral foremothers to spin in their unmarked graves.

[orangeblossom]

I had to force myself to finish. As she said, she has issues that she needs to work on.

I've got plenty of black girlfriends, some childhood friends, and some I've made in adulthood. Their skin tone or lack thereof has never played a role in our friendship.

[redwino]

I have no time for this foolishness. I absolutely can't deal with the "Black women can't get along and only want to bring eachother down" bullshit. It's stupid and completely untrue.

[meshaliuknits]

I feel a lot like I did after reading that piece about Cornell West yesterday. I have no idea why it was written, what the point is and why it was published.

[gazpacho]

Like redwino, I am tired of this "Black women can't be friends" stuff. I have friends of all different shades. While I notice difference in shade, I don't think I have ever used skin color as a factor in the friendships that I develop. Most of my friendships have lasted several decades. I will say that I have had to drop a couple of friends (in my younger days) who talked about how important it was that their kids had "light eyes" or "good hair". Obviously, they had other issues going on.

Also, the author needs to visit Iyanla to help work through these issues.

[Queen Mamadala]

As a "mulatto" woman, I have not dealt with this. A good number of my friends are black women of varying shades. Over the holidays I talked to my sister about race/ethnic relations at her college and she didn't mention anything about not being able to make friends with other black women. I believe one of her best friends is mixed. She did mention there are some obvious cultural differences since Kennesaw is a bit different from So Cal.

However, my mom said she dealt with these issues when she was in middle and high school, but that was back in the 70s.

[Black Lavender]

In the words of Michael Baisden this is some "frackle-nackle-bull".

Sent from my XT1096 using proboards

[Queen Mamadala]

Apr 21, 2015 13:26:50 GMT -5 @stilljustash said:

i was done with this: 

When will we replace our hip-swerving, eye-rolling bitching with a genuine sisterhood that's unwavering in its devotion?

because, of course, only white women know how to treat their girlfriends (and boyfriends!) well.

fuckouttahere.

or black women with white men. Because that will make things all warm and fuzzy.

As seen in this mess of a video. *vomit* (I saw this pop up in my feed earlier today)


www.facebook.com/teamdelorean/videos/10153290365119767/

[summer]

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Don't let me find this bitch in a dark alley.

[Deleted]

Also, STOP USING THE WORD MULATTO!

You can't be describing me seriously or jokingly as anything printed on a slave auction poster. NO and NO.

[iammalcolmx]

She has her own issues she needs to work out. Case and Point being this board. As far as I can see you High Yella ladies aren't excluded from anything!!!

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Apr 21, 2015 14:13:45 GMT -5 iammalcolmx said:

She has her own issues she needs to work out. Case and Point being this board. As far as I can see you High Yella ladies aren't excluded from anything!!!

[summer]

I can see why she has a problem making friends.

iammalcolmx, I think of you every time DD1 says "Mommy, I'm light and you're dark brown."

[iammalcolmx]

LOL!! Ok you guys this is a serious topic so my jokes aren't contributing to anything.

I am hoping the author gets some gentle yet eye-opening feedback. I mean Black women don't like you so your friend can only be White women? Really??? No issues EVER with all white friends?

[wawa]

Apr 21, 2015 14:04:33 GMT -5 @songforyou said:

Off topic - I'm afraid this is a dumb question...but who is this? 

[wawa]

Apr 21, 2015 14:27:30 GMT -5 @soudesafinado said:

Apr 21, 2015 14:23:01 GMT -5 wawa said:

Off topic - I'm afraid this is a dumb question...but who is this? 

Also, this fool is running for president: www.rollingstone.com/music/videos/waka-flocka-flame-for-president-watch-his-exclusive-campaign-video-20150420

(there is a video on that page that must be seen)

Two years ago, Waka Flocka Flame made a promise. "I'm dead ass running for president in 2016," the Atlanta rapper tweeted. The date was November 6th, 2012.



Today, he's keeping his word. In a high-level meeting with Rolling Stone today, on April 20th, 2015, Waka declared his candidacy for the next President of the United States, with DJ Whoo Kid as his running mate. Watch his campaign announcement video exclusively at RollingStone.com.



As president, Waka would immediately legalize marijuana. (Happy 4/20!) He would also ban dogs in restaurants and impose harsh restrictions on the big-footed. He also discusses innovative new policy proposals on education, jobs, Congressional reform and more.



Move over, Hillary Clinton. Marco Rubio, take a seat. Rand Paul? C'mon, son.



This race just got interesting.



#WakaForAmerica



#Waka2016



#SQUAD

OMG HE DID NOT ROLL A DAMN BLUNT ON VIDEO. 
That's shit the president do.

Schoolwork gettin' too hard - don't touch the blunt.  Think about it. 

I like to look at him. 

[gazpacho]

Apr 21, 2015 14:04:33 GMT -5 @songforyou said:

Wacka looks JUST like Kel from "Keenan and Kel"  to me (and that horrible Good Burger movie)!

[redwino]

Apr 21, 2015 14:35:11 GMT -5 wawa said:

Apr 21, 2015 14:27:30 GMT -5 @soudesafinado said:

Also, this fool is running for president: www.rollingstone.com/music/videos/waka-flocka-flame-for-president-watch-his-exclusive-campaign-video-20150420

(there is a video on that page that must be seen)

Two years ago, Waka Flocka Flame made a promise. "I'm dead ass running for president in 2016," the Atlanta rapper tweeted. The date was November 6th, 2012.



Today, he's keeping his word. In a high-level meeting with Rolling Stone today, on April 20th, 2015, Waka declared his candidacy for the next President of the United States, with DJ Whoo Kid as his running mate. Watch his campaign announcement video exclusively at RollingStone.com.



As president, Waka would immediately legalize marijuana. (Happy 4/20!) He would also ban dogs in restaurants and impose harsh restrictions on the big-footed. He also discusses innovative new policy proposals on education, jobs, Congressional reform and more.



Move over, Hillary Clinton. Marco Rubio, take a seat. Rand Paul? C'mon, son.



This race just got interesting.



#WakaForAmerica



#Waka2016



#SQUAD

OMG HE DID NOT ROLL A DAMN BLUNT ON VIDEO. 
That's shit the president do.

Schoolwork gettin' too hard - don't touch the blunt.  Think about it. 

I like to look at him. 

I love to look at that pretty mouth. I hate to hear the ridiculousness that comes out of it. That includes his lyrics. But he's not bad entertainment with the sound off.

[cville]

Apr 21, 2015 14:27:30 GMT -5 @soudesafinado said:

Apr 21, 2015 14:23:01 GMT -5 wawa said:

Off topic - I'm afraid this is a dumb question...but who is this? 

Also, this fool is running for president: www.rollingstone.com/music/videos/waka-flocka-flame-for-president-watch-his-exclusive-campaign-video-20150420

(there is a video on that page that must be seen)

Two years ago, Waka Flocka Flame made a promise. "I'm dead ass running for president in 2016," the Atlanta rapper tweeted. The date was November 6th, 2012.



Today, he's keeping his word. In a high-level meeting with Rolling Stone today, on April 20th, 2015, Waka declared his candidacy for the next President of the United States, with DJ Whoo Kid as his running mate. Watch his campaign announcement video exclusively at RollingStone.com.



As president, Waka would immediately legalize marijuana. (Happy 4/20!) He would also ban dogs in restaurants and impose harsh restrictions on the big-footed. He also discusses innovative new policy proposals on education, jobs, Congressional reform and more.



Move over, Hillary Clinton. Marco Rubio, take a seat. Rand Paul? C'mon, son.



This race just got interesting.



#WakaForAmerica



#Waka2016



#SQUAD

I'm so with him on dogs in restaurants.

#irrelevant to the OP

[elleblue]

Apr 21, 2015 15:07:45 GMT -5 @stilljustash said:

Apr 21, 2015 15:01:42 GMT -5 @songforyou said:

How far did you get?  I got to around 1:21 and clicked the X harder than it deserved.

like 30 seconds, and then i started fast-forwarding. i saw the two scrolling lists of "how they act with white men" and "how they act with black men", INCLUDING gems such as "they think we ain't shit" and "they call us bitches".

lol. oook.

That video is messed up. So messed up. 


As for the article, I stopped reading when she used the phrase "cotton picking". I get that she's (probably) trying to be inflammatory but it makes me angry and ashamed to know that many white people out there reading this won't give a second thought to just how racist it is. Ugh.

[iammalcolmx]

Apr 21, 2015 13:49:34 GMT -5 Queen Mamadala said:

or black women with white men. Because that will make things all warm and fuzzy.

As seen in this mess of a video. *vomit* (I saw this pop up in my feed earlier today)


www.facebook.com/teamdelorean/videos/10153290365119767/

I could only make it to the minute mark. What tha fuck did the ignant ass World Star Hip Hop video making wannabe mean by we don't act like typical Black women. Yeah some people thought that , tested me, and saw me "show my color".

#dontbelievemejustwatch 

[gault]

It sounds like the typical mean girl thing perceived by a gal with self-image issues.