Just DH. I'm sure my mom would love to be there but I'm not cool with that.
My best friend would be allowed bc it was there for the birth of her second child (which was such a neat experience) but I doubt she would be there since she's a sahm with two kids.
Post by liverandonions on Apr 21, 2015 23:21:28 GMT -5
Just my husband. My mom was in the room while I labored with my daughter and she was bugging the shit out of me-she kept asking me questions and talking to my while I was having back to back contractions and back labor-and not about my labor, but asinine questions. My in laws showed up right after the epidural. Once I had that I was cool with everyone being there until I pushed. They all left to the waiting room when the doctor told me I'd be pushing with a half hour.
Just DH. We're not even having anyone at the hospital until after delivery. I'm so glad we both agreed on that! I mean, ultimately my decision but I'm glad he agreed!
Post by emoflamingo on Apr 22, 2015 8:56:20 GMT -5
My H and MIL were there for the first, we added my sister (a nursing student) for the second. I think it'll possibly be just H and my sister (finally getting her RN next month!) for the third (MIL may need to be on kid duty).
Just DH. We're not even having anyone at the hospital until after delivery. I'm so glad we both agreed on that! I mean, ultimately my decision but I'm glad he agreed!
Ditto. If i could get away with not having anyone visit until we'd been home for at least a week, I'd probably do it. Unfortunately, we need my ILs to take care of our dog while we're in the hospital, and my husband doesn't drive, so we're going to need at least sporadic help fairly quickly.
My mom cried when I told her we'd call her after he's born. Cried! She lives 90 minutes away, she can't come in to the delivery room, and my hospital recommends* not letting anyone visit until you've moved out of labor & delivery. What she thinks she's going to do for however long I end up being in labor, I don't know.
*which means that as far as everyone who is not my husband is concerned, it's a hard and fast rule.
Post by countthestars on Apr 22, 2015 11:38:03 GMT -5
Just H. We want the time alone with the baby again before visitors come (and will likely wait a little longer to call people this next time than last).
My husband only. Last time it was so nice. My husband hates needles, shots, and blood. I was worried because he passes out. He was amazing. The nurse was a little pushy about him watching (even though we had decided before he would stay above my shoulders) and he ended up watching the entire thing. He loved it and is planning on watching this time. I think that when it is your kid being born it helps get over fears you have.
I will seriously lose my shit if my nurse pushes my H into watching everything. No means no, lol.
I feel bad for the nurse who pulls this on H. it won't end well.
Post by whiskeyandwine on Apr 22, 2015 13:32:22 GMT -5
Just my H. My parents want to drive over (4ish hours) while we are in the hospital but I've been VERY clear that I won't be seeing anybody during delivery. If they want to sit and wait I guess that's fine w me...
Last time, DH was with me the whole time. My mom showed up halfway through the day to hang out, and my dad came around dinner time. My mom and dad stayed in the room until it was time to push, and then they went to the waiting room. I wouldn't mind it being the same way again (but my dad said he would stay with DD1), but I def. do not want my inlaws anywhere near until the baby is born. They stress me out way too much.
I know it's still early, but I'm thinking just H because as much as I love my MIL (and know she would love to be there) I'm afraid she would try to pressure me into getting an epidural even though we've decided to try unmediated. I understand why (who wants to see someone you care about in pain?) but don't want that extra pressure.
My husband and possibly a doula. Our friend is an OB and as long and she's not OOT she will come in for the delivery despite her call schedule. So sweet of her!