Post by spedrunner on Apr 22, 2015 14:33:42 GMT -5
To have a friend of the opposite sex that you really click with and want to just cuddle up and watch tv with, movies, etc, show affection but in a NON SEXUAL way?
Post by Wanderista on Apr 22, 2015 15:11:43 GMT -5
I never really feel cuddly about friends. I guess that I'm not much of a non-sexual cuddler. I do easily make guy friends, sometimes exes, but I am not touchy-feely with them at all. I do think that my straight guy friends generally would like to bang me.
I think that cuddling is a line for me. It's something that I just do with the guy I'm dating. See the bit above, I can't really separate cuddling and screwing. I can hang out very platonically with guys but I maintain my physical space. Also, I banged a gay BFF so that is probably not a line for me. Gay BFF in hs cuddled me and then we turned sexual.
Agreed with the gay bffs. As far as straight men? I can't imagine wanting to cuddle with one I wasn't interested in banging. But then again I'm not much for cuddling as it is, so if I feel like showing physical affection I'm probably sexually attracted to you.
Post by jojoandleo on Apr 22, 2015 15:40:51 GMT -5
With straight men? I feel it is less probable a straight man will want to just cuddle with you and not want to get in your pants. Possible? Sure! Gay men? Much more possible. I cuddle with my guys all the time. We share beds on trips. They have no interest in what is under my skirt.
I am sure there are straight men out there that would do this non-sexually, I just haven't run into one. Every straight guy I thought we were mutually friend zoned and I cuddled with (because I tried this in undergrad) ended up hitting on me at SOME point.
*I should say, I was a well known promiscuous girl in undergrad. That may have played into the non-sexual cuddling difficulties.
I'm going with no on that one. With the exception of male friends that are gay. I had a gay guy friend and we went on a few trips together, he came to a few weddings as my date and it was awesome. But straight guy friend cuddling...nah.
Post by stephreloaded on Apr 23, 2015 12:14:56 GMT -5
Of course it's possible. I have had a several of those friends throughout the years. My best friend in the US is now married and I actually gave him a back massage in front of his wife.
I had this a few months ago. We started as friends with benefits. But decided to stop having sex for a variety of reasons. We always clicked so then just started hanging out and cuddling but nothing sexual. We even slept in the same bed a few times after we agreed to no sex and it was fine. We still hang out but no more cuddling since I have a boyfriend.