Recognizing the anniversary of a death

[wambam]

I think a "thinking of you" text would be appropriate.

I would only do more than that, if they respond and are open to it.

[BaliHai]

I just do a "Hey, just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you today" text.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Catholic girl checking in- I do a text with a thinking of you kind of message. It's good bc they can respond or not and not seem rude

[ECB]

On the first anniversary of my mom's death, I received a few cards and emails. I really, REALLY appreciated it. I always try to acknowledge at least the first anniversary for others. (Unfortunately, it falls off my radar after that. But I don't remember b-day either unless Facebook tells me!)

[revolution]

ON the anniversary of my dad's passing, my BFF sends me a text telling me she loves me and is thinking of me. On the first anniversary, she told me a story about him that made her smile and remember him fondly.

Not everyone is the same. I find comfort in other people remembering him. I like to know he isn't forgotten.

[xtine22]

A thinking of you message is apporriate. On the first anniversary of my moms passing I believe I got a card or 2 and a couple texts and they meant the world to me. As the years have passed I havent gotten any and they would still mean the world to me at almost 8 years.

[clseale]

Ditto the "Thinking of you" text. The actual date of my dad's death is a bit of a mystery, but I get those messages on his birthday and Father's Day. It's nice.

[cinderbella]

I try to get a card in the mail that will arrive on the date - if I forget or don't do that, I send a quick email/text.

[sugarbear]

My mom has been dead for 32 years, and my brother and I still send cards to each other on February 3rd. It means so much to me, even if it's just between the two of us. So I say, a text to let them know you're thinking of them would be great. Before my grandmother died, I would call her every year, too. Even if we didn't talk about my mom, my Grandmother knew that I called, intentionally, on that day.

[MixedBerryJam]

I don't think I'd like a text, personally, but I suppose some might. But OMG the friends that call the day of the anniversary with a simple, "Hey MBJ, we were thinking about you today. How you doin'?" definitely make the day better. A card would be nice if you have a few days lead time, but the phone call, even if it's only a 90-second check in, really mean the world.