Post by yourmother on Apr 26, 2015 11:09:28 GMT -5
Just checking in to see where everyone's heads are at. I feel weird about celebrating for myself as I don't have an outside baby yet. I don't have any expectations of celebrating from my DH, other than a nice card which would be nice.
I guess I'm just feeling weird. I've suffered with IF for years and years and it feels surreal that MDay is now a holiday to celebrate ME.
What's your gameplan? I'll probably be at my inlaws' annual celebration. I'll feel a little more included this year.
I hadn't planned on it. I haven't mentioned anything to H but I wouldn't be surprised if he got me flowers or did something like that.
Mothers day isn't big in our families. My mom passed when I was teenager, I usually call my SM, and MIL is quite insistent that she doesn't need a day dedicated to recognizing the fact that she's a mother. Makes things pretty simple.
I doubt it. I would feel a little bit funny about it. Plus I'm leaving that afternoon for a 10 day trip for work, so I wouldn't be home to enjoy flowers or anything.
I hadn't planned on it. I haven't mentioned anything to H but I wouldn't be surprised if he got me flowers or did something like that.
Mothers day isn't big in our families. My mom passed when I was teenager, I usually call my SM, and MIL is quite insistent that she doesn't need a day dedicated to recognizing the fact that she's a mother. Makes things pretty simple.
Sorry about your mom.
Celebrating MDay is pretty big with my inlaws. All the women give each other gifts (including Godmothers). They are big gift givers and I always felt left out because the I'm been neither and still felt somewhat obligated to participate by giving the other mothers (including aunts and SILs) gifts. Same for FDay. It was always a thorn in my side because my family "celebrates" by giving our own mothers and grandmothers small gifts and I always thought it was silly to give gifts to other mothers who didn't mother me.
Post by jennistarr1 on Apr 26, 2015 12:17:33 GMT -5
This will be my first with baby but I would still like to keep focus on mom and mil, my mom is sick and I think I won't want to celebrate the holiday at all once our moms aren't around
I will be with my mom at our annual beach weekend - my aunts/female cousins/mom and I do it every year and this year it happens to fall on mother's day weekend. There isn't really much in the way of gifts/cards, just being together, so that makes it bidirectional and not so much everybody gifting the moms. So that won't really change with me being pg. I won't be home until that night for Calvin to do much of anything. I'm not really expecting anything.
I hadn't thought about it. We will be at my sisters but don't have big plans. A card would be nice, I bet he will do something small he is very thoughtful about things like that.
Post by brandienee on Apr 26, 2015 13:57:39 GMT -5
Nothing for us here. I would feel super awkward for not doing any actual mothering, except eating and sleeping. Mothers Day was always hard for me, because of issues with my own mother, so there's also that. But I normally try to avoid my own birthday, I just don't like too much attention, I guess. My ILs like to make make big deals out of nothing, however, so I could see them doing something. We will see what happens. Hopefully nothing.
Oh yes. After leaving church services crying due to IF for 2 years, and finally just working on the day of last year (not much better, BTW, considering I work with new moms and babies), I am absolutely going to church service the day of, in a new dress, and wearing a necklace my sweet SIL gave me that says "Mommy-to-be" on it. For the first time, I will be honored on the day of, after wanting it for so long.
Post by hainesherway on Apr 26, 2015 17:30:04 GMT -5
I'll most like still be in the hospital, unless I have the baby early. I'm sure DH will visit and bring me food and a gift. My mother passed away last year, so I'll be thinking of her (although I do everyday so it's nothing different).
Mothers Day is a week before my due date. I hope that H will think to give me a card or flowers. Or maybe she'll be here, best gift of all!
Same here! I hope baby arrives around then.
We have nothing planned. I feel like celebrating before the baby is actually born is a bad idea, I guess I'm superstitious. But it is also my birthday weekend so I hope H will do something for that. She'll definitely be here for Fathers Day so I'll plan something for H.
Funny, my birthday is the day after Mother's Day and H's is the day after Father's Day.
Mothers Day is a week before my due date. I hope that H will think to give me a card or flowers. Or maybe she'll be here, best gift of all!
Same here! I hope baby arrives around then.
We have nothing planned. I feel like celebrating before the baby is actually born is a bad idea, I guess I'm superstitious. But it is also my birthday weekend so I hope H will do something for that. She'll definitely be here for Fathers Day so I'll plan something for H.
Funny, my birthday is the day after Mother's Day and H's is the day after Father's Day.
I wouldn't do any major celebrating yet either, he gave me a card "from" her for Christmas so I imagine he'll do the same on MD. I hope you get the best bday or MD gift ever! That's cute about your bdays
At least both our H's will get to formally celebrate their first Father's Day! A friend actually gave me a cute Father's Day onesie.
I'll most like still be in the hospital, unless I have the baby early. I'm sure DH will visit and bring me food and a gift. My mother passed away last year, so I'll be thinking of her (although I do everyday so it's nothing different).
So sorry to hear that. The first couple years are always the hardest, sending hugs your way
We have nothing planned. I feel like celebrating before the baby is actually born is a bad idea, I guess I'm superstitious. But it is also my birthday weekend so I hope H will do something for that. She'll definitely be here for Fathers Day so I'll plan something for H.
Funny, my birthday is the day after Mother's Day and H's is the day after Father's Day.
I wouldn't do any major celebrating yet either, he gave me a card "from" her for Christmas so I imagine he'll do the same on MD. I hope you get the best bday or MD gift ever! That's cute about your bdays
At least both our H's will get to formally celebrate their first Father's Day! A friend actually gave me a cute Father's Day onesie.
My H loves penguins and I found the cutest onesie at Gap that has a daddy and baby penguin on it that says "daddy loves you". He's going to love it!
I had DS1 just in time for Mother's Day the year he was born. I think if he were going to be born later I would have accepted people wishing me a happy mother's day but I wouldn't have done anything special for myself or expected anyone to do it for me. That said, I wouldn't throw shade at anyone who did something for themselves.
I don't think we'll be doing much, but we'll definitely celebrate somehow. I'm due 5/5, but being induced this Tuesday night (eek!), so baby will definitely be here by then. DH's parent's anniversary is always around mother's day, and somehow FIL usually gets in an argument with MIL and they spend the day not talking and we don't get to celebrate mother's day with her. I told her yesterday that that's never happening again. She will come and be with us and celebrate mother's day with me, I won't have her sulking at home because FIL can be an ass.
Mothers Day is a week before my due date. I hope that H will think to give me a card or flowers. Or maybe she'll be here, best gift of all!
Same here! I hope baby arrives around then.
We have nothing planned. I feel like celebrating before the baby is actually born is a bad idea, I guess I'm superstitious. But it is also my birthday weekend so I hope H will do something for that. She'll definitely be here for Fathers Day so I'll plan something for H.
Funny, my birthday is the day after Mother's Day and H's is the day after Father's Day.
This is where in at too...just didn't want to say it out loud!
Post by aprilsails on Apr 27, 2015 14:15:46 GMT -5
DH is absolutely lousy at celebrating EVERYTHING so my expectations are nil with respect to him. Instead, I expect to spend the day running around doing stuff for MIL and my Mom.
My Mom and Stepmom will probably get me another set of onesies for the baby, as they just keep on dropping off more and more of them for odd reasons.
We just booked an appointment for a "keepsake" 3D ultrasound for mother's day afternoon, so that will be our way of celebrating. We went back and forth on doing it or not, but both think it'll be fun to get a sneak preview of our baby.
When I had an inside baby DH had a heck of a time finding an appropriate card and my family is kind of superstitious so we didn't celebrate that year. Last year DS was about 7 months and the 3 of us had a picnic outside on the lawn. DH and I opened a fancy bottle of wine and I had a long nap. It was awesome! This year I asked for a day off of parenting duty which I will use to take a long nap and do whatever I want.