isabel that is normal. I long for a a child free adult life even though I never had one (I became a momma at 22).
My confession... we are buying DS a $300 bat. In our defense it should last 3 years size wise and we typically spend about $100 per year so maybe breaking even...
It is the top of the line bat and I am so excited to see DS start using it. He tried one out last week and he put one in the trees with it.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Apr 28, 2015 11:00:27 GMT -5
I really didn't like two of my classes this semester. I mean, there some students in each that I liked, but the majority kind of sucked and I didn't enjoy teaching them very much. I feel bad about it.
Post by VeryViolet on Apr 28, 2015 11:00:35 GMT -5
isabel I saw your post in the randoms about sleeping. I hope this doesn't sound too trite but if you can try and get some continuous sleep for a few hours without the baby in the room you will probably feel so much better. For me I would sleep after dinner when I was on ML so like 6p - 9p maybe no baby in the room was key for me because I could sleep like the dead.
I really miss my life with just H and the dog. Like, a lot.
I feel a bit bad for my dogs. They've done SO WELL with the transition for the most part, and we do our best to give them everything they need from us, but we only have so much time/attention/energy, and they definitely get less of it. I know it will get better (and maybe better than it was!) once DS is old/stable enough to play WITH them, but I wonder how they really feel about him right now..
Isabel, totally normal. My baby is 9 weeks old and I just went back to work. It's a hard adjustment. And exhausting. And overwhelming. All normal. I'll second the sleep. Last week my H took her out for about 2 hours and I slept with complete silence in the house. So worth it. Also during my leave, when H would come home I would try to run to target or somewhere even if for an hour just to feel "normal" again.
Post by W.T.Faulkner on Apr 28, 2015 11:06:36 GMT -5
isabel I am sure that is such a normal thing to feel at this stage in the game. You are so new. Give yourself time. <3 <3 (hugs)
Confession: I irrationally judge BF's miscellaneous purchases and question him about them, but I shop online way more than he does. I need to get my shit together.
Another confession - my BIL and his GF had their baby today. I went this morning to see the baby and give congrats. I was looking at his GF and I felt such pity for her. BIL has already given up his first kid with his other teenage GF and now this sweet little 19 year old is a mom too. I hope things work out this time for all of them. That sweet baby was so cute though.
Having only had dysfunctional relationships modeled to me growing up, and having only been in seriously dysfunctional relationships myself, I worry that I don't even know whats "normal" to think and feel in the context of a "normal relationship" now that I'm getting married.
Ah, Isabel - as others have said, completely normal. Whether brand new or when they get older. Kind of like with husbands. You love them, but sometimes dream of single life. ;-)
My flameful - there's a senior living center near my son's old Pre-K. Every once in a while there would be vultures circling above it and I couldn't help but laugh. I'm going to Hell, aren't I?
I really miss my life with just H and the dog. Like, a lot.
I feel a bit bad for my dogs. They've done SO WELL with the transition for the most part, and we do our best to give them everything they need from us, but we only have so much time/attention/energy, and they definitely get less of it. I know it will get better (and maybe better than it was!) once DS is old/stable enough to play WITH them, but I wonder how they really feel about him right now..
Animal services would have something to say about our cats litter boxes post-kids. Something has to give and unfortunately for our cats a pristine litter box was the first to go. They're still happy, healthy cats but life has changed for all of us. Don't beat yourself up for the change or the fact that you fondly remember pre-kid things you enjoyed. Totally normal.
Post by firelight1210 on Apr 28, 2015 11:15:44 GMT -5
My confession is that I'm going down to San Luis Obispo this weekend to see my parents for my birthday - this has become a tradition every year, and I love it. I think my H wanted to come with me but I told him no. This is my time to pretend that I'm 17 again and living at home and being taken care of. But also to get drunk with my mom, lol.
Post by fangoriagurkel on Apr 28, 2015 11:19:53 GMT -5
I'm cash poor until Thurs and told BF as much. Last night after dinner he gave me $60 to tide me over and put gas in my car. My ladies days just started and I feel bad I cannot thank him properly.
My dog more often than not annoys the hell out of me now. Someone here said it would happen but I didn't believe them. It's cute watching how much Noah loves her, though.
Post by shopgirl07 on Apr 28, 2015 11:22:11 GMT -5
Sometimes I think I love my dog more than my son. Granted, my son is grown and lives across the country and is quite independent, while my dog is like a needy toddler. Im quite sure my dog loves me more than my son does too. And our pets are with us for such a short time. Ugh, I get teary just thinking about it.
FUUUCKKKK I haven't seen this season of GA!!!!! We had TV issues at the beginning of the season, so I missed the first few episodes. I knew I wouldn't be able to avoid spoilers until it came out on Netflix. Sigh.
I'm sorry it was spoiled for you, but I am surprised this is the first spoiler you've seen of this! I'm almost caught up with this season but I wasn't able to avoid this past week's spoilers because of social media. I still don't know the details, but I get the basic gist of what happened.
Aw, I can see how that would be a hard transition. (((hugs)))
I think the people freaking out about Grey's Anatomy/Derek's death are off their rockers. And this is from someone who can probably recite the entire series of Friends from memory. I get having strong feelings for a tv show, but...it's a TV SHOW. Check yourself.
I get sad the day I watch and maybe the next day. Going on for weeks and begging for a character to come back is weird.
isabel I am pretty sure I mumbled those words out loud this morning while my rugrats screamed and fought with each other at 6am. Oh how I miss the days of having some quiet time in the morning. I also feel sorry for my dog. When my husband comes home, she's the only one that runs to him and gets all excited and in that moment I don't feel so guilty.
My confession is that my brother's divorce is final. Just shy of them being married 10 months and I am doing a happy dance. She had an affair after 5 months of them being married and for the longest time I was raging mad at her for hurting him and making me waste $5K of our money on travel expenses but we actually had a great time outside of that shit show of a wedding. PLUS, SEQUIN BRIDESMAIDS DRESSES? Only someone with pour judgement would do that. When he called me to say it was final, I secretly sang DING DONG THE WITCH IS DEAD.
((isabel)) So normal. So many times in those first few months I had almost panicky thoughts wondering what we'd gotten ourselves into. Babies are cute because they're overwhelming enough to make you want to pack your bags and flee the country. Everyone says this, but it really does get better than those first few weeks/first couple of months. So much better. Wait until he starts smiling! Then you'll at least feel like you're being rewarded for ruining your life. Hugs again.
isabel I am pretty sure I mumbled those words out loud this morning while my rugrats screamed and fought with each other at 6am. Oh how I miss the days of having some quiet time in the morning. I also feel sorry for my dog. When my husband comes home, she's the only one that runs to him and gets all excited and in that moment I don't feel so guilty.
My confession is that my brother's divorce is final. Just shy of them being married 10 months and I am doing a happy dance. She had an affair after 5 months of them being married and for the longest time I was raging mad at her for hurting him and making me waste $5K of our money on travel expenses but we actually had a great time outside of that shit show of a wedding. PLUS, SEQUIN BRIDESMAIDS DRESSES? Only someone with pour judgement would do that. When he called me to say it was final, I secretly sang DING DONG THE WITCH IS DEAD.
Was this the wedding you had to wear that pink garbage bag?? Wow, that didn't last long.
Having only had dysfunctional relationships modeled to me growing up, and having only been in seriously dysfunctional relationships myself, I worry that I don't even know whats "normal" to think and feel in the context of a "normal relationship" now that I'm getting married.
This is in no way flameful. I went through the same thing and had so many freak outs over if my relationship with my now H was normal. I think questioning yourself and going over any red flags and just being more mindful of how your relationship is progressing means that you've learned from your mistakes and your parent's mistakes. I hope that makes sense.
Yeah it does make sense. Sometimes when I think about it I just feel so... broken. Like I have no idea what I *should* be thinking and feeling in this situation because I'm so used to just reacting to an abusive scenario and trying to cope.
But now there's this guy who doesn't humiliate or berate me, who does nice things for me, loves me, and even knowing all my shitty past STILL wants to marry me? WHAT DO I DO WITH THAT??