Yeah ... So this is the first time this has happened to me. We got a cabin the very end of summer last year, so this was pretty much the first time we've really been there. We were walking to a restaurant and passed a house where the owners were outside with a tiny puppy who was so cute and it ran after me. I picked him up and brought him over to their house. They said that he loves people and we had a short polite conversation and then ... they asked "how far along are you?" And I said umm and just started walking away. I already have self esteem issues where I think I'm fat and ugly (partly derived from sexual abuse) and I've been beat up emotionally at work this week and I don't know what to do. On top of feeling like shit about myself, I just feel defeated. I don't really know what I'm looking for. If someone can dummy explain to me how to post a pic from an iPhone I'll give it a try. I've fallen of the health wagon but I didn't think it was that bad.
No picture is necessary. (& I couldn't tell you how to post one anyway!) That person is rude and just wrong. HOW DO PEOPLE NOT KNOW THAT THIS IS NOT OK?!?!?
Of course, if you want an ego boost, post a pic and we'll all be happy to remind you that you are beautiful.
Post by killercupcake on May 2, 2015 0:04:31 GMT -5
We were eating at Jimmy John's the other day and there was a sign on the wall with a list of suggestions for life.
Number 10 was: You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests that you think she's pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment.
Wow that person is very rude. ((Hugs)) I have had people ask me "how far along are you" as well and I just usually say something back that will make them think twice about saying anything again. "Thanx for reminding me I'm fat", and "thanx for reminding me that my baby is dead." (Said after a m/c, when I didn't look pregnant at all.)
It may not be the right thing to do but if someone's rude to me then I'll be rude right back to them.
That's happened to me a couple times. I try and make the person feel as shitty as humanly possible. I'm sorry you had to experience that, too People are SO DUMB.
Post by fivechickens on May 2, 2015 7:11:01 GMT -5
I will never understand people. i am sorry that happened.
My cousin, who I unfortunately saw once a year, would ask me every time I saw him if I was pregnant (actually, no, the one time he didn't ask I actually was pregnant...fucker). I usually just glared at him and walked away without answering. At Thanksgiving a couple years ago I heard him ask someone if I was pregnant so I said to 'OMG, seriously? Again? NEVER ask a woman she is pregnant unless there is a baby coming out of her vagina!' Queue awkward Tday dinner laughter.
I actually am sending back a dress that I don't think looks bad on me but my fear is that people will think I am preg because I have a tiny post baby gut. It was too clingy in that area and I wouldn't be able to handle someone assuming I was pregnant.
Post by noodleskooze on May 2, 2015 7:35:56 GMT -5
I feel like this is just a conversation starter for people (inappropriate as it is). Whyyyyy do strangers think it's ok to talk about that stuff (marriage, family, kids) at all?
This happened to me too after losing weight and feeling good about myself. It was crushing. I haven't had your experiences so I won't say that I "get" you, but I understand a little.
People are idiots sometimes. It might have been an unflattering shirt or lighting or whatever. At the end of the day that person is the dummy. It does suck though
That was someone else's rudeness and lack of couth talking. Nothing to do with you. NOTHING.
This happens to people no matter how much they weight based upon a trick of the light, clothing that pulled funny, the speaker's own insecurities, etc. It's happened to me at my lowest weight and when I was 2 weeks postpartum and HOLDING MY INFANT, it's happened to my bff who is 5'9" and weighs like 125 lbs. It's not you. It's not you. It's not you.
A woman at Walgreens told me to 'put those things (what I was buying) up on the counter, you're already carrying a load' and pointedly looked at my stomach. I went home and cried and cried. People suck man, I'm sorry they were assholes.
A woman at Walgreens told me to 'put those things (what I was buying) up on the counter, you're already carrying a load' and pointedly looked at my stomach. I went home and cried and cried. People suck man, I'm sorry they were assholes.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand I'd be on the news. OMG.
This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the utter stupidity of too many humans on this earth. Her comment is only proof that we need to find a new inhabitable planet. My 100 lb sister who looks like she's 16 get this occasionally. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.
Sorry, I tried to post last night but it didn't go through I guess - we get really shitty signal at the cabin. You guys are so nice, thank you very much for your kind words - even though you're internet "strangers" and I'm just a newb, put you've been so nice. The comment just hit when I've been feeling like shit and I have really low self esteem already from the other crap so it was like the topping of the cake.