Moms who count to 3: what do you do when he only starts to comply immediately AFTER you said 3. Consequence? No consequence? My kid likes to live in this gray zone, you know, to add a little spice to life.
This is why my dad said he never counted. We knew what was expected of us and we did it immediately (or at least responded immediately to say "can I have 5 more minutes?" or "can I do it after dinner?", the answer to which was almost always no, lol). It eliminates grey and makes consequences clear -- do X, or Y. No other phrases of before A or unless B etc etc.
Moms who count to 3: what do you do when he only starts to comply immediately AFTER you said 3. Consequence? No consequence? My kid likes to live in this gray zone, you know, to add a little spice to life.
I don't know that everything is worth a count to three. Some things DS knows about / has been asked not to do several times in the past. In those cases, no counting required we go immediately into something (i.e. he drinks his bathwater sometimes. I say don't do that or you're coming out. He does it again and comes out. The next bath if he drinks the water he comes out immediately. We had the discussion, he knows the consequence, why should I simply give him a few extra seconds to enjoy a nice sip of tepid bath water?).
Moms who count to 3: what do you do when he only starts to comply immediately AFTER you said 3. Consequence? No consequence? My kid likes to live in this gray zone, you know, to add a little spice to life.
This happens over here too. Its something I know I'm screwing up. I consider it success if they do what I ask at 3 even though I know that's not how 1-2-3 Magic is supposed to work.
Except my kids have never done what the kids in the stupid book do, which is start listening by warning #2.
Plus I have twins so if one cooperates and the other doesn't, it throws things off. I'm not great at thinking of consequences on the fly that work in that situation.
LOL. This is the kind of shit my school wanted us to do in regards to discipline.
Today H heard me use my quiet teacher voice on Ollie when he wasn't listening and told me it was "stone cold terrifying" lol.
My business partner is a former teacher. I've never seen my kid stand up straighter and listen harder. I love it when she gets her teacher voice, shit gets done.
I think I may have freaked toledo out with my teacher-mode when we volunteered together for backstage duty during our kids' Nutcracker performances. I take no shit!
My mom did not count and she did not warn. Just that look was enough typically. She had six of us and didn't have time for warnings and countdowns and all that jazz. I can just imagine her face if I told her about glitter bottles.
She also had some pretty darn good get these kiddos to do what I want skills.
If my siblings and I wanted to argue about whose turn it was to do the dishes (or wash vs dry), it was figure it out or figure out how you'll wash and dry and put away every dish in the cupboards, including the Thanksgiving turkey platter.
If she was on the phone and we were bugging her and asked her for something that could clearly wait, she would say, "If you want an answer right now, it's no. If you want a different answer, come back later" and resume her conversation.
My mom did not count and she did not warn. Just that look was enough typically. She had six of us and didn't have time for warnings and countdowns and all that jazz. I can just imagine her face if I told her about glitter bottles.
She also had some pretty darn good get these kiddos to do what I want skills.
If my siblings and I wanted to argue about whose turn it was to do the dishes (or wash vs dry), it was figure it out or figure out how you'll wash and dry and put away every dish in the cupboards, including the Thanksgiving turkey platter. If she was on the phone and we were bugging her and asked her for something that could clearly wait, she would say, "If you want an answer right now, it's no. If you want a different answer, come back later" and resume her conversation.
If she was on the phone and we were bugging her and asked her for something that could clearly wait, she would say, "If you want an answer right now, it's no. If you want a different answer, come back later" and resume her conversation.
The writing on that sign hurts my eyes. How many warnings do you really need and does she lose track of which warning she's on? Too much going on with this.
I count to three and if I get to three, they know it's over. Time to come inside, pack up toys, turn off TV whatever. So, I guess that's a consequence.
My business partner is a former teacher. I've never seen my kid stand up straighter and listen harder. I love it when she gets her teacher voice, shit gets done.
I think I may have freaked toledo out with my teacher-mode when we volunteered together for backstage duty during our kids' Nutcracker performances. I take no shit!
I'm still scared of my mom's teacher voice. So is DH.
and forget the look. If you get the look, you better figure shit out quick.