Considering his job is the reason you can stay home, you have a vested interest in making sure he does it well. In any line of work where you need clients, Top 40 is a big deal and he should for sure be there meeting other people.
As far as two nights in a row rule? Bahhahahaha I wish. Actually I don't bc that job pays the bills.
Post by amynumbers on May 20, 2015 12:11:35 GMT -5
I get wanting to know a time and being annoyed. But in the flip side I would be hella pissed and resentful that my spouse kept expecting me to put arbitrary parameters in this kind of stuff, or else face a battle at home.
I get wanting to know a time and being annoyed. But in the flip side I would be hella pissed and resentful that my spouse kept expecting me to put arbitrary parameters in this kind of stuff, or else face a battle at home.
First, there was never a battle. I was ticked, I vented here, and we had a conversation. That's what we (DH and I) do when someone is unhappy. Apologies were made, wine was poured, and it was done.
Second, there are no arbitrary parameters. When DH works long days, the kids don't see him at all. Sure, it's draining for me as well, but the bigger issue is the kids don't see him and that stinks for everyone. We sat down and came up with general "rule" that if he is gone for dinner one night, he should try to be home for breakfast the next morning. Failing that, he should try to be home for dinner. Things come up, and the rule goes out the window, but it's been a good guide for scheduling things. When there is something like last night's happy hour, which was in no way a required event, but unquestionably good for him to go to, we look at the week together and figure out how to make it work in the best way for our family. If that means him missing dinner and bedtime, fine, we deal with that. His solution - not mine - was to be home at his regular time. As soon as he realized that went out the window, he should have texted. He agrees and apologized. I promise I am not some raging, demanding shrew of a wife.
I generally agree with you Amy, but I also don't think a text is so hard to send. If you don't want people to see you doing it, excuse yourself to the bathroom. Done.
I also agree it's all about expectations. I set them low when it comes to this kind of thing.
Post by iheartthe80s on May 20, 2015 17:53:58 GMT -5
This might be the most ridiculous post ever. He was an hour late. An hour? Dh called at 5:00 and said he was on his way home. It's now nearly 6:00. I know that he is probably driving and also making work calls. I can't imagine giving him shit when he arrives home. I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone.