Worked a half day. Just had he inspection of the new house and it's "almost perfect". Only concerns inspector noted were a torn window screen and the patio door seal has let condensation in . we're killing time at panera until our appt with the lawyer to sign closing papers then I'm off to do birthday dinner for my dad.
It felt like a Friday yesterday (went on a field trip) and with the half day today it again feels like a Friday. Why is it not Friday yet?
amaranth- HUGE ((hugs)) Crying babies and not being able to console them are the absolute WORST. Sending lots of love, hugs, and prayers to both you and M. I hope he feels better soon (and you too!)!
Yes, I know more of what's going on and it has been for quite some time. Wish he would want to do something about it but I can't force him to. It's definitely not just our new life with C, it goes much deeper.
awick14- I have requested counseling several times. He's very resistant. I'm praying he changes his mind. He asked what I wanted for our anniversary next month...my response was for us to get help and be healthy again.
I booked off for my staycation today! SO excited for next month!!!
H and I renting a free redbox tonight, not quite sure what but since we don't work tomorrow it'll be a nice date night in. Hoping the weather is nice to get outside and play tennis. It's been so rainy and cold this week!
I'm sorry that things are so up and down, luv2rn4fun. Have you had a really open and honest conversation about how you feel and why counseling feels so important? Your happiness and your needs are just as important as his are, and it sounds like he needs to hear you tell him that because he's just not getting it right now.
luv2rn4fun- I hope he considers counseling. I know a lot of people say it doesn't work but I believe that it does if you do it early enough. Waiting until it's to late and then trying it is not helpful.
Post by luv2rn4fun on May 20, 2015 17:21:44 GMT -5
Thanks ladies! I'm frustrated too. I feel like it's a lose lose situation with moving. And we just aren't in a place to make a rational decision.
katespade- I've been very honest, both in talking/fighting and through text/email.
HoneySpider- maybe. I went when dealing with our losses. We also went together...he saw it as a waste whereas it helped me. My therapist is near work so I would have to find a new one...luckily I have good mentors that have been helping.
awick14- I know, that's how I feel too. I also feel like it will take me threatening to leave (and really being in that place, which I'm not, to follow through) before he will agree to go. It's crazy because he says he wants our marriage to work, awknowledges that we re in a shitty place but doesn't want to do anything to fix it.