If you've been living in your home awhile...

[treedimensional]

how would you feel about selling it?

I think it would be very traumatic for me.

Someone else would get custody of my garden. They could KILL it and rip it all out.

But I'm not so attached to the structure itself.

[Marmee]

Depends where I'm moving. Probably mixed. IF I can take the huge custom play structure with us, I'd feel better about it. Lol.

[auntie]

I don't think I'd care.

I don't love my house.

My parents built the house and my father can be very proprietary about some of the choices he made. He was here yesterday for 20 hours for a funeral.

He's too invested in the garden. He's pissed that I dug out his weeping Norway spruce. It was planted in too small a space and was starting to prevent access to the front walk and door. Plus, it scared DS for some reason. He accused me of removing the hoopsi spruce when it really just fell over. He thinks my hosta would look better if I lined them up in a row instead of scattered. And I need to lime the lawn more. (that part's probably true)

He doesn't like my red office. "It's all dark and closing in on me."

My fridge is too big. "Stainless, is that a millennial thing?"

He likes the dining room color, but I hung the curtains too high.

He thinks the walls in the powder room are the color of poop.

He thinks that I should give my mother the NJ Shore vintage poster because she had a bathing suit like the one the girl is wearing back in 1956.

[pixy0stix]

We've been in our home 8 years. I'm ready to leave. If it hadn't been for extenuating circumstances I'm sure I'd feel differently.

[springchick32]

We've been in our condo for 8 years and it's been a hard process to sell it. I get sad to think that everything is just the way we like it and we love most of the features. I'm so excited about beginning to house hunt soon, but I get nervous that we won't find anything that we just love but I know we will....we are doing this for a reason.

[theoriginalbean]

We would have been in our home 10 years, December, but we just moved. It was bittersweet. We were moving to a more exciting part of the country with the amenities we wanted (mountains, water, walkability), but we definitely sacrificed in terms of the house structure, itself, because of the COL differential (Cincinnati to Seattle). We put a lot of work into the house, itself, and it was kind of sad to leave that behind, but most of all it was the house we bought just after we were married, and the house where we brought home both of our children. Had we been forced to leave a neighborhood that we loved, I'd be sadder, but since it was our own choice I didn't cry all that much when I drove away. Mostly just at the closing

[mrs.jacinthe]

I'd hate to sell this house, for whatever reason. It's not often you find a house that you adore and I'd definitely resent any changes the new owners made, especially if they were different from my vision for it.

I'm a possessive bitch, apparently. LOL

[devonpow]

I've only been in this house a year but I would/will be devastated when we sell. Not yet because of what we have put into it, but because we just love it so much and it is so perfect for our family right now.

DH and I are planning on selling and relocating when my younger graduates high school - so about 15 years - and I'm already sad thinking about it !

[ssmjlm]

I've never loved this house. It was the nicest thing available in our poor price range that wasn't a 1 story, 1 bathroom monstrosity of 1950s.

But now that we're moving, it's harder than I thought. I mean, yeah I'm looking forward to moving, but we brought E home in this house. I love her nursery, it's the one room DH let me do what I wanted. We took her newborn photos in that room. So the memories, those will be hard to leave behind.

[melew]

We have been in this house for 5 years this year and we are both ready to move, for a variety of reasons. But that probably won't be for another 2-3 years. The waiting in limbo is painful, but I am sure when the time comes I will get a little sad. Not necessarily about leaving the house, but rather the memories attached to it. It is the first home DH and I purchased together, brought DD2 home from the hospital to, etc. I am sure it would be a great home for someone/family, but it just isn't working for us anymore. It is a pretty house though.

[adhdfashion]

We bought this house with plan of moving in 5 years. 7 years later, I am farely content. We will move closer to town with H's next career move. I am not attached to the house itself. But this area is home. H and I both grew up here. Being farther away from family will suck.

[magdala]

We are looking for a new house. I love our current house; but the schools here are not good. I will miss this house just as I miss my old place; but a good school for my DD just is more important.

[compassrose]

I've been here 6 months and I never want to leave. I love our house.

[emoflamingo]

We have been here almost 3 years and with the current basement issues (yeah, still leaking - we have had an abnormal amount of rainfall the last 6 weeks and all our rivers are full for the first time in too long), I would leave easily lol. I am attached but not sentimental.

[pumpkin]

While I know my home is not my forever home, I can't imagine leaving it right now. Not because I love everything about it but more about what it represents for me; its part of my new beginning in that after my divorce I lived with my parents at first and then bought this place, so while not perfect, it's mine and was a huge milestone and step forward for me

[bunnymendelbaum]

I'm just sad that our old house is a rental. I was a little hard to sell it because we worked so hard on it, but the profit helped. HA!

[AmyRI]

Incredibly mixed feelings.

It is not our forever home, but it's got a ton of nice things about it that I'll be sad to leave. And if it someday sells to someone that's going to kill the character of the house, it will kill me a little.

That said - I'd be happy to ditch a couple of our neighbors, get out of a crappy school district, own a house with insulation in the walls, and have a second toilet.

[mrsukyankee]

I'm quite sad about leaving our house to move in with MIL. It's our first married house and is lovely (we made it exactly the way we wanted it to look). We'll be renting it out.

[wawa]

I get irrationally attached to homes. I still have affection for the random shitty apartment with ants and the leaky roof that I only lived in for 8 months. I can easily get all misty thinking about the house I grew up in that my mom sold while I was in college.

I will cry giant salty tears when we sell this place - whether that's in 3 years or 30.

[alf17]

We built our house 26 years ago. We planned it for years, saving pictures and floor plans. We have so many memories here. We live close to our grandchildren. Still love my house. We plan on staying until we can't take care of it anymore. It will be a sad day. I also was attached to our old house. It was the most fun neighborhood, but it was time for all of us to move on. I am still very good friends with the friends we made there.

[candreco]

I was sad to leave our last house, it was the first house we owned, had DD when we lived there, etc. but not too sad because we always planned to move out of that one. Also, we still have friends in that neighborhood and the new owners don't close their blinds, so I know they haven't changed paint colors in at least 1/2 the house and shelves we put up are still there.

This one I think I'd be sadder- we bought intending to live here a good long time, we love the neighborhood, had DS, DD has a lot more memories associated with this house.

[finally]

I had that attachment to our first house.  I hated our street so it was the right thing to do to move but I had put so much of myself into redoing a lot of the house and yard that I literally grieved for about a year after we moved. 

I still drive by occasionally and am happy with what the buyers have done so that has helped. 

I am am now very attached to my new single girl home. Maybe not having kids makes our attachment to homes worse?  

[TBM]

I am fully committed when I live in the house, and the thought of leaving it is unthinkable, but once I decide to move..it suddenly becomes nbd. I have my stuff and my memories.

I had checked out of our old house mentally, long before we put it on the market, and we were so stressed and rushed at the end just trying to get things packed/given away/tossed and get the work finished before we had to be in FL, that I just wanted to be done with it.

I was glad to see my vision for the inside done, but I was really looking forward to a house that wasn't cookie cutter and was more our style. Our house was what we could afford at the time and a new build seemed like a good idea at the time, but suburban cookie cutter was not our style so it had become evident that it was not going to be our forever home.

We had some landscape work done to help it sell, and the first thing they did was take out the things that were my favorite and replace them with boring, same old same old type plants, and they trimmed up the lower part of my bamboo that hid a 'secret' patio and garden. I cried, and everyone thought I was ridiculous, but the secret garden/patio was my absolute favorite thing in the backyard and it had taken a long time to really hide it and make it perfect. It was so easy to walk away at that point, because it just didn't feel like it was my house any more.

I will admit to that it made me sad to hear that the new owners had repainted the exterior of the home. I loved the color and it was what really made it feel like home to me. I get it though...it was definitely "me'. I think I was more sad that what they painted it was super boring and cookie cutter...I had hoped that whoever bought the house would take a cue from me and find an actual color to make it their own.

[2curlydogs]

We've been in our current home for 8 years now.

Every now and then I get the itch to move. So I look around at listings. And that pretty much cures me of any desire I have to leave. LOL.

[gummybear]

I'd be sad. We've raised our kids here and I'm emotionally attached. We've talked about keeping it for a rental, but after seeing how our other two rental homes are treated by some tenants, I don't think I could stomach this house not being treated with love after all we've put into it. I do wish we had more upstairs space though.

A funny story related to gardens. In our first neighborhood, our next door neighbor moved a few months after we moved in. She was VERY attached to her rose garden. In fact, one day, the new owners came home one day (a few months after settlement) and found her pruning the bushes!!!! Crazy cakes!!

[kadams767]

May 21, 2015 9:53:56 GMT -5 wawa said:

I get irrationally attached to homes. I still have affection for the random shitty apartment with ants and the leaky roof that I only lived in for 8 months. I can easily get all misty thinking about the house I grew up in that my mom sold while I was in college.

I will cry giant salty tears when we sell this place - whether that's in 3 years or 30.

This is me too. My mom still lives in my childhood home, it's basically a shack, and I am going to bawl like a baby when the time comes to get rid of it.

I cried when I left my first adult apartment, even though it was generic as anything. It was the first space that was mine. And I practically had a nervous breakdown when we moved from our last apartment to this house. It was old and rundown when we moved in, we put a million hours and so much blood, sweat and tears into that place, I couldn't believe it when it came time to finally leave. I'm going to be even worse when/if we sell this house. It basically represents everything we have worked towards together.

[thatgirl2478]

I'm pretty much with you on the whole garden thing, but I know I can always start over. The house I really don't care about except that we put a lot of $$ into it.

[Peacock]

We closed yesterday on a house we had owned for 4 years. By the end of the packing/moving/stressing process, I'm just relieved that it's gone. I suppose it helps that it was always an ok short-term house for us and we're moving into a house that dh and I both love and plan to be in for a while. There's nothing bad about the move for us, so it's easy to be excited about it.

Now, if only we can get through the 3 weeks of living out of suitcases and get into our new perfect house, everything will be great