Silly question about favors

[themysteriouswife]

What is the etiquette on giving favors to visitors when they come to visit the new baby? With DD my aunt made "it's a girl" candy favors. I just handed them out to do away with them. I have zero plans to do anything this time. Is this a southern tradition and do I need to do it?

[specialk]

I have never heard of this. No, you don't need to make favors. You just birthed a human, people should be bringing you shit.

[McGavin]

This must be regional. People should bring you stuff not you worrying about something else to do.

[rachers]

May 21, 2015 13:14:34 GMT -5 littleduck said:

Lol I am Southern and have never seen this.

So much this!

[underwaterrhymes]

Hahahahahahaaaaaaaa.

No favors. Nope.

You can get me a glass of wine and a frozen Snickers, though, while I'm nursing my newborn. I'll let you hold him while I'm snarfing them down.

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

WAT

I bet not even Princess Kate hands out favors.

[FastHands]

The favor is letting you hold my baby. You're welcome.

this is some grade-A bullshittery.

[themysteriouswife]

Okay, so I'm not crazy. I guess this is my wack-o family tradition. My mom mentioned not worrying about it. I never even thought about doing it until she said something yesterday. Traditionally an aunt or cousin makes them for you. I love 4+ hours away now. No one offered, so it didn't cross my mind.

[themysteriouswife]

May 21, 2015 13:16:22 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

Hahahahahahaaaaaaaa.

No favors. Nope.

You can get me a glass of wine and a frozen Snickers, though, while I'm nursing my newborn. I'll let you hold him while I'm snarfing them down.

Bring me a vodka cranberry and a slice of cheesecake!

[ninjabridemom]

NO

I am so sick of favors! Stop with the favor-culture!!!


(but def keep snack culture, yum)

[candreco]

May 21, 2015 13:21:18 GMT -5 ninjabridemom said:

NO

I am so sick of favors! Stop with the favor-culture!!!


(but def keep snack culture, yum)

Seriously.  No one needs or wants more stuff, especially from a wedding, baby/bridal shower, or birthday party that wasn't their own.  And usually not even then.

[rosiebear]

The whole idea is just so weird to me. To be honest, though, I think party favors in general are weird - you just gave your guests a party, what more do they want?

But to give someone a little gift or memento just for stopping by to see the baby? I think your aunt or whoever told you this should be done is wacky.

[dexteroni]

Whaaaaat? No. I would think it really weird if I went to visit a new mom and baby and they handed me a favor.

[wambam]

My parents made these cheesy (but cute) little birth announcements that said "It's a Girl! a Wambam Production." It was like a theater program, but about my birth. That's not really a favor though.

I have seen "it's a girl/boy" Hershey's candy bars though.

You do not need to do this though. At all. Eat the candy.

[jaylea]

What? No. You don't need to do that.

[olive]

I've seen pink and blue foil wrapped chocolate cigars but have never actually know anyone who has passed them out.

[speckledfrog]

They are coming to visit your new baby? You do exactly jack shit for them.

[themysteriouswife]

May 21, 2015 14:20:31 GMT -5 squirrelymom said:

Fuck that noise. I've lived in Georgia, North Carolina, Tennessee 3 times, and Mississippi.

Everyone knows that appropriate protocol is for them to bring you a casserole. Or 3.

We never got a casserole or dinner or lunch with DD! My family sucks at typical shit!


Thanks ladies. I will not be buying anything. I was going to order cheap as lollipops and call it a day.

[adhdfashion]

This is not a thing on the west coast. Today I learned.

[EmilieMadison]

This is not a thing. 
And if people try to make it a thing, it's still not a thing. 

[themysteriouswife]

May 22, 2015 12:34:26 GMT -5 milsaroo said:

If this ends up on Pinterest I'll key your aunt's car.

I will lend you my keys.

[ijack]

No. I think Kelle Hampton did this, but you should never follow her advice.

[Deleted]

Dads hand out "It's a Boy or It's a Girl" gum cigars here.

[ECB]

This is what I get for leaving early yesterday. Miss posts like this.

WTF? I've never, ever heard of this.

[ginger]

This is stupid. LOVE YOU.

[qcinoct]

we picked up some chocolate 'It's a boy' cigars to hand out when people visited us