*Poof*

[InBetweenDays]

*POOF*

Thanks all. I really appreciate the feedback. My brother and I have a good relationship, so while it will be hard to bring up I know he'll know it's coming from the right place.

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People can be VERY good at hiding things, so they may chalk his weight loss up to a growth spurt where his energy is going in to going UP but it COULD be eating disorder as well. Did you get any indications on how he seems to be doing otherwise in terms of stress or feeling in control of his life? It sounds like he has his own bathroom so the rest of his family wouldn't really be going in there much, which could make it easier to hide stuff. Its also easier to not notice something if it gears up slowly but then, as a visitor, its more apparent because you don't have the gradual minute daily changes to hide things.

I agree that it seems like insubstantial information but how would you feel down the road if it did turn out he has an eating disorder nobody else had noticed? Personally, i would tell your brother and mention that you know its all really insubstantial but that he should maybe keep a closer eye.

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I wouldn't bring it up with your sister. I would go straight you your brother, since it's his kid, right? I would just spell it out and be like, I don't know the facts, but this is what I've observed. I'm concerned enough that I wanted to make you aware, just so you can keep an extra eye on nephew.

Since this is actual self harm, I'm in the better safe than sorry camp.

[madDawg228]

I agree with PPs. I would only reach out to your brother, and just tell you what you noticed and that you are concerned.

[theoriginalbean]

May 21, 2015 18:05:00 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

I wouldn't bring it up with your sister. I would go straight you your brother, since it's his kid, right? I would just spell it out and be like, I don't know the facts, but this is what I've observed. I'm concerned enough that I wanted to make you aware, just so you can keep an extra eye on nephew.

Since this is actual self harm, I'm in the better safe than sorry camp.

I completely agree. Are you close with your nephew? I would have taken questions better from my aunts at that age than my parents. I also had/have ED issues, and it's definitely better to wrongly say something than to just let it go.

[InBetweenDays]

He seems to be his usually teenager angst self. But his sister is going away next year and his brother is in college, so he'll be home alone which I know he's sad about. And he is more worried about what others think of him than his sister or brother so I can see peer pressure to look a certain way. I'm not close enough with him to bring this up directly to him. His brother or sister I could, but he is a little more standoffish.

Thanks all. I'll definitely talk with my brother.