I sometimes show C music videos on YouTube because I can only watch "Let it Go" so many times (and she now asks for it and does a freaking arm motion. She says something like, "Lego!" and does her little dance move--means it's TOO MANY TIMES!), and last night I showed her the Sia "Chandelier" video which she has liked before. This time, she did not. Her little lip quivered and went down, and then she just cried and cried. Terrible mother. I frightened my daughter with an age inappropriate video!
She loves "Bad Blood" and "Drunk in Love" though, so we're still good.
One time V watched Paloma Faith's "upside down" like 8 times in a row. He likes pointing out the umbrellas and the colors.
I debated sending the girls to a catholic preschool for the uniforms. Monogrammed bishop dresses with giant red bows would have made my life. I even tried to convince DH that catholic preschool would totally be okay with our completely agnostic beliefs because it's just about loving everyone.
Ok, actual confession. The whole pumping thing has me really stressed out and feeling kind of resentful. I know in my head that it's okay to give formula, but I just don't want to this close to the one-year-mark and after all the $$$ spent on lactation consultants, pediatric dentists, ENTs and craniosacral therapists.
I pumped 5 ounces short today of what I sent to daycare. I am pissed, pissed, pissed that part of this is because I didn't have time to pump at all this morning when I was managing breakfast/making lunches/getting out the door by myself because DH was on his way back from a work trip. And because I was up twice last night with DS because he pooped, when DH could have gotten him back to sleep had he been here and I would have been more well-rested this morning. DH breezes in this morning from the airport JUST as I am wrangling both kids to get out the door and acts like he is being really generous by offering to take DD to the bus stop instead of showering immediately since he just got off a red-eye. Dude, I did the hard part already! The kids are ready.
bunnymendelbaum, quite a few people said we'd "need" a car once we had two kids in the city. Part of me wants a car just for the hell of it, because installing a car seat in Zip Cars all the time sucks and requires one of us going to get the Zip Car, then swinging back to the house to get the car seat, etc., and because we'd be able to get out of town faster if we didn't have to deal with all of this. But part of me wants to "prove" to everyone who said we'd need a car that we can live without one forever.
Post by catsarecute on May 22, 2015 13:47:00 GMT -5
newnamesameperson Totally normal and OKAY. I have a few friendships that have run their course. It is hard to see them fade away but it happens. Don't beat yourself up about it and if you want to see her, just remember to hang out in positive circumstances and know what to expect. My oldest friendship (going back over 20 years) is with someone I really love and care for but the conversations are always about her. Her job, her husband, her life. I know what to expect when we hang out. It sucks but that is just who she is. I'm sorry you are facing this though. It is tough.
bunnymendelbaum, quite a few people said we'd "need" a car once we had two kids in the city. Part of me wants a car just for the hell of it, because installing a car seat in Zip Cars all the time sucks and requires one of us going to get the Zip Car, then swinging back to the house to get the car seat, etc., and because we'd be able to get out of town faster if we didn't have to deal with all of this. But part of me wants to "prove" to everyone who said we'd need a car that we can live without one forever.
bunnymendelbaum, quite a few people said we'd "need" a car once we had two kids in the city. Part of me wants a car just for the hell of it, because installing a car seat in Zip Cars all the time sucks and requires one of us going to get the Zip Car, then swinging back to the house to get the car seat, etc., and because we'd be able to get out of town faster if we didn't have to deal with all of this. But part of me wants to "prove" to everyone who said we'd need a car that we can live without one forever.
Technically we have the wagon and DHs old truck. The truck is very handy so we don't want to give it up, but it can't fit us all. Good thing this weekend we move to our loft 2 blocks from DHs office!
I stopped working for the day approximately 20 minutes ago. I'm thinking 2:30 is the absolute earliest that I can get away with leaving the office, so I will sit here and internet until then.
Wedding drama BIL now wants DH (a groomsman) to buy a grey suit. This thing will be a huge PITA that we actually have to spend a fair amount of $ on so I'm totally getting them a crappy gift.
I hear you. I told H that BIL will not be getting a gift at all since he announced his wedding will be in motherfucking Hawaii.
I am really resentful to have our vacation dictated by someone else
Thank goodness I'm not thonly one who feels this way! At least we only have to drive 3 hours (if there are no stops or traffic) but DH has to take 3 days off work AND we have to pay for 2 nights in a hotel.
This isn't a confession as much as something funny, but Facebook thinks I should be friends with Mr. sjh722 because he's FB friends with his wife (obviously) but also my cousin.
What? Who is your cousin? GBCN brush with real life!
Between us and daycare, we have a montage of DD2 can sleep anywhere photos. Today she fell asleep sitting on a barstool eating snack, so they put a bottle of booze in front of her and sent a pic. DD1 is in the back with a grin on her face, DH figures she bought. I was going to post on here, but then was afraid of having "alcohol bottle baby".
OMG PLEASE ELABORATE AND SAY WHAT YOU ARE JUDGING!!!
Ten internet dollars says it includes the "why doesn't my four day old know it's nighttime?" thread. :-#
Oh man, I posted something similar when M was six days old (and was similarly passive aggressively talked about). I think we all know intellectually that newborns aren't good sleepers, but when you are up night after night and the baby won't sleep for more than 20 minutes and you spend those 20 minutes just waiting for the next cry because you KNOW it's coming....it's just hard. It's easy for the well-rested among us to forget what it was like, but the fog wasn't that long ago for me and I can sympathize.
I'm glad that you had a good sleeper, NQB, but it makes me feel awful for the posters you snark about for asking for sleep help (and let's be real here, for myself, since God knows I've asked for sleep help a dozen times). Even if they've "only" been dealing with it for a few days. When you're in the thick of things, it can be hard to see a way out.
And rbp - 6 days feels like 60years. And I had a good sleeper. I told my nanny to stop giving my kid cookies and sweets. I didn't even know how much sweets she was giving her. I kind of hate my nanny right now and want to replace her no matter what ends up in September. I miss my old nanny. She was so great.
Real confession. I have never picked up my kid from preschool because it's lunch time and I'm at work. I'm home today to study so I picked her up. She was so thrilled to see me that I cried. She was almost crying. I felt such guilt and I wish I had a more flexible job but I am also so happy to never work late or weekends. I just want lots of money with no hours, is that so hard?
Ten internet dollars says it includes the "why doesn't my four day old know it's nighttime?" thread. :-#
Oh man, I posted something similar when M was six days old (and was similarly passive aggressively talked about). I think we all know intellectually that newborns aren't good sleepers, but when you are up night after night and the baby won't sleep for more than 20 minutes and you spend those 20 minutes just waiting for the next cry because you KNOW it's coming....it's just hard. It's easy for the well-rested among us to forget what it was like, but the fog wasn't that long ago for me and I can sympathize.
I'm glad that you had a good sleeper, NQB, but it makes me feel awful for the posters you snark about for asking for sleep help (and let's be real here, for myself, since God knows I've asked for sleep help a dozen times). Even if they've "only" been dealing with it for a few days. When you're in the thick of things, it can be hard to see a way out.
I'm here. It's one thing to just know that babies are usually shitty sleepers but when you're in the thick of it, sometimes you just need to talk it out with internet strangers and/or ask for help in case there is *something* that can help. Sleep deprivation sucks and messes with our heads and I am fortunate that that period for us only lasted a few months.
yes, who cares if it's a 4 day old. Sleep deprivation is hard at 4 days PP. it's hard any time but in the beginning it's SO overwhelming. If it's your first it's like OMG WHAT THE FUCK I REALLY DIDN'T BELIEVE IT WOULD BE THIS BAD WHAT HAVE I DONE TAKE IT BACK TAKE IT BACK I DON'T WANT IT ANY MORE
FTR I didn't snark in that thread nor would I. I was speculating what thread ssjlm was thinking about snarking at. At 4 days PP I didn't know the difference between night and day either.
Part of me is going to be sad when I quit pumping because at work, it's a nice mental break while I go sit in a quiet room and either read or play games on my cell phone.
Oh I haven't even seen the 4 yo thread. I'll have to look.
No the most recent one was the "my 10w old will only nap on me! Why can't I put him down and have him sleep for 2 hours?" Because he's a newborn. He wants to be held and feel safe. And I felt her. E didn't nap on her own until we nap trained at 7.5m. DH and I alternated who would take her upstairs to the recliner on weekend afternoons and hold her for her afternoon nap.
Part of me is going to be sad when I quit pumping because at work, it's a nice mental break while I go sit in a quiet room and either read or play games on my cell phone.
Who says you have to tell them? (devil)
I had a coworker at my last job that did this. She brought her pump every day and went in the pump rooms and just chilled. Our work only offers time to pump until a year (technically), and suddenly the day after her daughters first birthday, she stopped bringing the pump in. lol. She didn't work in my department, so I didn't care and her boss was too afraid to say anything since she couldn't really prove it.
I am really resentful to have our vacation dictated by someone else
Thank goodness I'm not thonly one who feels this way! At least we only have to drive 3 hours (if there are no stops or traffic) but DH has to take 3 days off work AND we have to pay for 2 nights in a hotel.
Yes. H is in his brother's wedding this summer on the other side of the country. We can't really afford a vacation right now and then being told that we have to go and where to go pisses me off.
FTR I didn't snark in that thread nor would I. I was speculating what thread ssjlm was thinking about snarking at. At 4 days PP I didn't know the difference between night and day either.
Because talking about someone behind her back is clearly the more civil option.
I know almost nothing about the plot of Breaking Bad, Mad Men, Game of Thrones, HIMYM, or Big Bang Theory. I have not seen a single episode of any of these shows.
I actually watch TV, but apparently not these shows, somehow. I'm sure they're good!
I just returned my pump to the hospital and found myself really wishing I was back there having another baby. Mine is eight weeks old. This is not supposed to be happening! Hormones and feelings post-baby make no sense.
But I really want another boy. So @marshmallows maybe we can TTC around the same time and just do a trade if needed.
@natariru I regularly lose my shit in traffic. It's something I need to work on. I'm sorry that you might be getting your period, but I hope you aren't. TTC can suck it.
I have confession: I went to the bathroom the other day while on the phone with a coworker. Mute button! Besides, he's retiring in a few weeks and we regularly joke that he is not wearing pants while on the phone which is probably true half the time. (We all work remotely and we are a very, very crass bunch.)
I just returned my pump to the hospital and found myself really wishing I was back there having another baby. Mine is eight weeks old. This is not supposed to be happening! Hormones and feelings post-baby make no sense.
But I really want another boy. So @marshmallows maybe we can TTC around the same time and just do a trade if needed.
Yeah I immediately wanted to get pregnant again when B was little. Not so much doing the 3 month sleep regression nonsense.