Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on May 22, 2015 12:14:18 GMT -5
I'm consumed with the Duggar stuff. I can't make anyone I know IRL care as much about it as I do. I mean my mom was all "kids are curious." Yeah, no. This is not a couple of 5 year olds playing doctor. This is a monster touching little girls while they sleep, lady. Do not even come at me with this shit.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
I'm consumed with the Duggar stuff. I can't make anyone I know IRL care as much about it as I do. I mean my mom was all "kids are curious." Yeah, no. This is not a couple of 5 year olds playing doctor. This is a monster touching little girls while they sleep, lady. Do not even come at me with this shit.
I just like the hypocrisy of it: homosexuals are dangerous to children!!! --says the man molesting children.
I've learned over the years that those who shout the loudest about something usually have the most skeletons in their closets.
I can't find the words to comment on the Duggar atrocities...I've never really been able to find words to talk about them despite my background in the fundamentalist movement. I feel sick for those poor girls
Does anyone want to take a week of work so I can fly you down to dog sit? I'm only half kidding. I just booked boarding for vacation next week and it's the most expensive component of our trip.
Does anyone want to take a week of work so I can fly you down to dog sit? I'm only half kidding. I just booked boarding for vacation next week and it's the most expensive component of our trip.
OMG! I'd love to spend a week with the smuch faces. I miss my Bostons
Does anyone want to take a week of work so I can fly you down to dog sit? I'm only half kidding. I just booked boarding for vacation next week and it's the most expensive component of our trip.
OMG! I'd love to spend a week with the smuch faces. I miss my Bostons
June 17-24. If you want to bring P too tickets are just under $300. Pool and a gym and close to downtown and the beach. Think it over.
OMG! I'd love to spend a week with the smuch faces. I miss my Bostons
June 17-24. If you want to bring P too tickets are just under $300. Pool and a gym and close to downtown and the beach. Think it over.
Seriously, if it was the 20th-27th, I might have taken you up on it. I just put in for PTO for that week. I don't think I'll be able to get the 17th off, but if something changes, I will let you know!
Post by bullygirl979 on May 22, 2015 14:02:14 GMT -5
motzie, depending on what happens with the job interviews, I may do it. I have 100 hours of PTO and my company only pays out at 43% when you leave. Rather than get a shitty payout, I was looking to burn my vacation time. I was just going to sit home for a week and veg out. Sitting in FL for a week sounds nice, too
I'm consumed with the Duggar stuff. I can't make anyone I know IRL care as much about it as I do. I mean my mom was all "kids are curious." Yeah, no. This is not a couple of 5 year olds playing doctor. This is a monster touching little girls while they sleep, lady. Do not even come at me with this shit.
I do not understand this at ALL! He was 14. FOURTEEN! a 14 year old is NOT just curious and so he fondles his sleeping sisters genitals. He was in 8th or 9th grade. You have sex ed by then. (I mean, not him, most likely, but I just mean, you know about bodies and sexuality at that point. It's not all, why does yours hang out? Why don't you have a penis?") PLUS, when you play doctor, it is usually with the consent of the other party, not while they are ASLEEP! I did a "I'll show you mine, you show me yours" thing when I was 5 with the neighbor boy. THAT is kids are curious. I'm going to hulk smash people.
I'm consumed with the Duggar stuff. I can't make anyone I know IRL care as much about it as I do. I mean my mom was all "kids are curious." Yeah, no. This is not a couple of 5 year olds playing doctor. This is a monster touching little girls while they sleep, lady. Do not even come at me with this shit.
I do not understand this at ALL! He was 14. FOURTEEN! a 14 year old is NOT just curious and so he fondles his sleeping sisters genitals. He was in 8th or 9th grade. You have sex ed by then. (I mean, not him, most likely, but I just mean, you know about bodies and sexuality at that point. It's not all, why does yours hang out? Why don't you have a penis?") PLUS, when you play doctor, it is usually with the consent of the other party, not while they are ASLEEP! I did a "I'll show you mine, you show me yours" thing when I was 5 with the neighbor boy. THAT is kids are curious. I'm going to hulk smash people.
*poof*
ETA: PDQ this will self-destruct soon!
ETAA: a true random -- I recently read The Handmaid's Tale...and was petrified at how many correlations I could draw.
I do not understand this at ALL! He was 14. FOURTEEN! a 14 year old is NOT just curious and so he fondles his sleeping sisters genitals. He was in 8th or 9th grade. You have sex ed by then. (I mean, not him, most likely, but I just mean, you know about bodies and sexuality at that point. It's not all, why does yours hang out? Why don't you have a penis?") PLUS, when you play doctor, it is usually with the consent of the other party, not while they are ASLEEP! I did a "I'll show you mine, you show me yours" thing when I was 5 with the neighbor boy. THAT is kids are curious. I'm going to hulk smash people.
I think at that age, people DO want to explore their sexuality. I also think people that age know that touching your sister while she sleeps is not an appropriate means to explore sexuality. I think you agree with that? Sorry if I am misinterpreting? The point of my post was that he wasn't so young that he didn't know better and was just "curious." I'm sure he WAS curious, but he also KNEW what he did was wrong BEFORE he did it.
Post by riverpestie on May 22, 2015 15:16:22 GMT -5
Holy shit! I just did a count down and it is 48 days until we get married. I didn't realize it is comping up so quickly. I figured while I was at it, I would figure out how long ago he proposed... We've been engaged for 441 days! Second dress fitting is Tuesday!
jojoandleo I absolutely agree with you. There are no buts or what ifs. I think I was just throwing out word vomit...trying to process my own childhood. My older brother and I did the whole "show you mine if you show me yours" and practiced kissing. I wouldn't call it molestation, but I also refuse to have a relationship with him so...
I know I didn't request this in my original post, but would you mind deleting your quote? I'm paranoid.
I do not understand this at ALL! He was 14. FOURTEEN! a 14 year old is NOT just curious and so he fondles his sleeping sisters genitals. He was in 8th or 9th grade. You have sex ed by then. (I mean, not him, most likely, but I just mean, you know about bodies and sexuality at that point. It's not all, why does yours hang out? Why don't you have a penis?") PLUS, when you play doctor, it is usually with the consent of the other party, not while they are ASLEEP! I did a "I'll show you mine, you show me yours" thing when I was 5 with the neighbor boy. THAT is kids are curious. I'm going to hulk smash people.
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Kids ARE curious. It's all true, and healthy, and normal. I'm sure we all did curious exploratory things around that age.
What is NOT healthy and normal, is for a high school boy to molest his elementary-age siblings while they were asleep (because he was less likely to be caught), and then once his parents found out, made him build houses as punishment and took him to a cop who ended up being addicted to child porn. Who didn't send their daughters to honest-to-god counseling, but told them that being pure of Spirit is better than not being assaulted. Who hid all of this from the public, and spouted lies, bigotry, and discrimination under the guise of religion and piousness. Who spread messages of hate against gay people, but were fine with their own SON sexually molesting their DAUGHTERS.
Post by jojoandleo on May 22, 2015 15:29:03 GMT -5
SwimDeep-deleted. I knew I shouldn't have quoted it. Lapse in judgment on my part. I'm sorry this is all bringing up bad memories for you. *hugs*
I am mainly annoyed that people are attempting to write this off as a "boys will be boys" thing. No. Yes, children are curious about sexuality. However, it is NOT normal for a 14 year old to touch his 4 your old sister while she sleeps.
Kids ARE curious. It's all true, and healthy, and normal. I'm sure we all did curious exploratory things around that age.
What is NOT healthy and normal, is for a high school boy to molest his elementary-age siblings while they were asleep (because he was less likely to be caught), and then once his parents found out, made him build houses as punishment and took him to a cop who ended up being addicted to child porn. Who didn't send their daughters to honest-to-god counseling, but told them that being pure of Spirit is better than not being assaulted. Who hid all of this from the public, and spouted lies, bigotry, and discrimination under the guise of religion and piousness. Who spread messages of hate against gay people, but were fine with their own SON sexually molesting their DAUGHTERS.
I completely agree with you. I think I'm still struggling to find my voice here. Like I said, I don't know what my brothers were taught. I know that I was taught shame and fear.
I can't believe I'm even remotely associated with these disgusting scumbags.
Now that I think about it...I might actually be tragedy-whoring right now. I'm sorry
you're both touching on something I'm trying to figure out. In my head, all sexuality is sin. I struggle with this brainwashing daily. It's hard for me to think any exploration is okay.
Post by jojoandleo on May 22, 2015 15:40:22 GMT -5
SwimDeep-you are not tragedy whoring, you are processing a fucked up situation. If ANYTHING good can come out of this situation, that's a good thing. I hate that anyone has been taught their body is shameful and sexuality is a sin. Sexuality is natural. It's a basic animal instinct! Yes, there are so many caveats when it comes to sexuality and it can be difficult to navigate and find what YOU are comfortable with, but it sucks when someone takes away your ability to say what YOU want for YOUR body.
Post by bullygirl979 on May 22, 2015 16:00:08 GMT -5
Omg, cuddlyevil's friend is buying my washer and dryer. He just called and asked if he could pick it up today. I may or may have re-negotiated for tomorrow morning. Because I have 3 loads of laundry to do.